Yin Jianli talks about Santa Claus who comes every year: How happy are children who grow up in love?

Christmas is regarded as an important day in their family, which is equivalent to another round of "Children's Day" for their daughter. Every year, they carefully prepare gifts for their daughters in the name of Santa Claus.

Teacher Yin Jianli told her daughter that at this time of year, a lovely grandfather would give Xiao Yuanyuan a gift.

The daughter also asked her strangely, "Why does Santa Claus know what I want and only bring me this?"

Teacher Yin Jianli smiled and told her daughter, "When you told your parents this wish, Santa Claus heard it, so he sent you this (gift)."

Before and after her daughter Yuan Yuan went to primary school, she already knew that this (gift) was not from Santa Claus, but from her parents, but she was also willing to cooperate with our "game".

Children will grow up and fairy tales will disappear. Although Santa Claus died with his childhood, his parents are willing to continue this happiness with love.

And this love made her daughter Yuan Yuan more and more outstanding: her academic performance was excellent, and she jumped two grades in a row and was rated as a three-good student at the municipal level in Beijing.

At the age of 65,438+06, she took the college entrance examination, with a Chinese score of 65,438+040. She was admitted to two famous schools in Hong Kong and Taiwan with a score of 22 points over the Tsinghua admission line, and then graduated from an American Ivy League school with a master's degree.

Makarenko once said: "People who are cultivated without the love of their parents are often flawed."

In the movie "The Life of Abandoned Pine Nut", the protagonist Pine Nut has a sister who has been ill in bed for a long time. Because of this, in the whole growth process of Matsuko, parents gave all their love and attention to her sister.

Poor pine nuts, neglected and neglected since childhood. Therefore, she learned to make faces to tease her father at an early age. Since then, pine nuts have gradually formed a pleasing character. She has been looking for love and acceptance in all kinds of intimate relationships all her life. Even if she is abused or cheated, she is unwilling to leave each other and will eventually be lonely all her life.

I once saw a saying that a child who lacked love in childhood will look for love in various relationships all his life to make up for the past trauma.

Pine nuts spend almost all their energy on finding love and self-doubt. They always feel that they don't deserve to be loved, and their inner consumption is too great.

So, she spent her whole life looking for the love lost in her childhood, but forgot to use enough energy and energy to explore and grow.

The famous psychological counselor said, "A child who is well loved and raised with love is very happy."

Some time ago, a little girl in Zhengzhou, Henan Province was envied by countless netizens. It turned out that on her birthday, her father prepared a ceremonial birthday present in the trunk of the car to surprise him.

He pulled in a banner filled with balloons, candles, flowers and birthday presents. Dad became a prince, opened the trunk very gentlemanly, took out a bunch of flowers with one hand, made a huge bow in front of his daughter and gave it to her.

Seeing her father's carefully prepared birthday present, the daughter was so happy that she gave her father a kiss happily and then giggled in his arms.

Many netizens are envious when they see this scene. They all said: what a romantic father, envy. Some netizens said: Children raised with love are so happy.

Tolstoy, a famous Russian writer, once said, "Loving children is what old hens do. The key is how to educate children with love. " So, what should parents do?

First of all, companionship is the best love for children

For children, their parents' companionship and care are what they need, and all their emotions begin with their parents. Therefore, no matter how busy you are, you should leave some time for your children and stop being busy.

Recently, a video advertisement in Thailand was very popular. A pair of parents took their five-year-old children to buy IPA, but the salesman said, "IPA is suitable for children over 12." He is still young, so he should enjoy his family with you, get to know tenderness and love, and enjoy the company of his parents so as not to become too indifferent. "

Companionship is the most direct and effective way to make children feel safe. Many times, we don't need many words, even if we are quietly with our children, they can feel the love of their parents.

Secondly, let the children live with a sense of ceremony.

Haruki Murakami said: "A sense of ceremony is very important." Because the sense of ceremony brings the children full of love from their parents, at that moment, the children's inner self-confidence is unparalleled. Ritual sense is the concentration of children's spirit.

My friend Ma Jie's life is full of poetry and painting, and his son is lively and cheerful. Every time after school, they will say "I am back" to their families; When there are various festivals and birthdays, without special circumstances, the whole family will spend the holidays together, or go out to play and give each other gifts.

Some people say that the sense of ceremony is high and pretentious, but it is not. Ritual sense is the best growing gift parents give their children, and it is actually everywhere. For example, say "good morning" in the morning, say "good night" before going out, and give each other a big hug before going out. I believe that everyone will live up to a beautiful day.

Third, guide and encourage children.

The growth of children is a slow process. During this period, parents should give more guidance and encouragement and allow them to grow and progress.

A boy named Bear got excellent grades, but the only fly in the ointment was that he stuttered a little. Because of stuttering, little bear seldom raises his hand to speak in class, and his mother is more worried that his child's self-confidence will be hit by this defect.

So, mother practices with Bear every day. In the process of reading or speaking, although her son deliberately pulled, she stumbled, but she did not show any anger and still patiently encouraged her son. Finally, many good things happen. Bear's stuttering has been greatly improved, and he dares to raise his hand and speak actively in class.

There is a saying: "Only love can cultivate children." It is the mother bear's selfless love for her children, coupled with patient guidance and encouragement, that makes the bear find confidence again.

There is a saying in the Bible: "Everything between children and parents is for mutual fulfillment, so that they can become people who know more about love, love others more, love others more and spread love better."

I was waiting for 10' s birthday a while ago. Sun Li took photos of waiting for her birthday and expressed her gratitude for waiting with emotion. Sun Li wrote: Thank you for waiting.

After seeing Weibo in Sun Li, I understand that in recent years, she not only felt the joy of being a mother, but also saw love while waiting.

I care about my parents' health, make tea for my mother, buy gifts for my mother with pocket money, and often praise my mother. All these make my mother feel love and warmth.

Such a caring child is enviable, but in fact, Mr. and Mrs. Deng Chao have paid a lot for raising such a child. They often accompany Walter, play basketball with him, draw pictures with him, go skiing with Walter in winter, and take Walter to the photo exhibition on weekends.

It is precisely because parents raise with love and so on that they will become a more loving child. As Professor Li Meijin, an education expert, said, "Family education is not only material, but also spiritual."

Spiritual education is to give children enough love and let them grow up in love. Moreover, this kind of love is nutritious love, which can make children more confident and loving.

Finally, I want to tell every parent, please don't be stingy with your love for children, so that children can feel their parents' love from an early age.