If you have been in love with your girlfriend for eight years, and the girl’s family wants a gift of 800,000 yuan, what will you do?
After eight years of dating, the woman wants a bride price of 800,000 yuan. What is the best way to do this?
I think that if your family has tens of millions of assets, eight hundred thousand can be easily spent. So since you have been in love for eight years, it proves that you also love each other, so you can give this gift. , hello and me, harmonious.
If your family has no possibility of spending 800,000 yuan, or the woman’s family just wants to use the bride price to embarrass your family, then you have to consider whether she is worth your 800,000 yuan. To marry her, see if she has such a worth. If she is indeed worthy of your payment, even if the gift of 800,000 yuan is worth it, then you can borrow money to get her back.
But I think it is not easy for ordinary families to spend 800,000 yuan to get a wife. After all, marriage is not only about the gift, but also about the house, car, wedding arrangements, and the future. How we live our lives is a question. If you feel it's not worth it, forget it. After all, eight years of love will be defeated by the gift. This is also a helpless choice. However, you have no choice but to give up because this is beyond your endurance.
Betrothal gifts should be appropriate and should be negotiated with each other, and should not become a big mountain between male and female friends.
How many 8 years can our lives have? Besides, these 8 years are almost the best time in life. Is "true love" Are you so easily defeated by money?
Just yesterday I learned something. He and she in our market broke up. After hearing this, I couldn’t help but feel regretful! But what exactly caused this result?
They came to our market later. We saw each other without looking up every day. Over time, we gradually got to know each other. We found that this girl has a good personality and endures hardships. The hard-working type said that he likes this city very much and wants to settle here!
Her boyfriend also comes to the market from time to time to help her after get off work or when he is resting. Every time, he prepares meals at home and brings them to her to eat. The two of them together, in our opinion, are really So loving!
No matter it is windy or rainy, the two of them miss each other without hesitation. In winter, they eat together in the north wind; they close the stall together shivering with cold, which makes me, a veteran, The old bachelor was also "awed with envy"!
Years later, I heard from acquaintances that they were getting married. I was almost moved to tears after hearing that. Yes, I am already in my 30s. It’s time to get married and start a family. How nice it is to have a little baby, unlike me who can feed the whole family without being hungry!
Immediately afterwards, news came out that they were getting married in September, and we thought that was great! Just book the date, we will definitely prepare a big red envelope when the time comes!
But I don’t know who invented this sentence. It is said that the girl’s family wants the boy’s family to buy a big house in this city and sell the house in the boy’s hometown!
Oh my god! Only then did I realize that a house in this city costs more than 20,000 yuan per square meter. How much can a house in the countryside sell for? If you want to buy a house of more than 100 square meters, you can’t spend more than 3 million for decoration!
Then the only option is to make a down payment. Perhaps people now understand clearly that this "down payment" scheme means that you will be a house slave for more than ten to 20 years in the future, and you cannot lose your job in the meantime. You can't get any serious illness. If something goes wrong, you may not own the house in the end!
Recently, the boy disappeared from the market and the girl also disappeared. He said he was going on a trip to relax. In fact, this is an ending that none of us want to see, but it is true. Absolutely true!
We can't help but ask from the bottom of our hearts, "Who is wrong?" and "Where is the mistake?" Is it simply that different people are interpreting different versions of life?
Think about it again. When my parents got married, they only lived in two shabby houses. Now it has completely changed. Is it really a matter of the ratio of "more boys than girls"? Or has our once innocent heart been corrupted by "money"?
In the endless trend of comparison, does the real desire to live out the "simple" feeling in your heart no longer exist?
Nowadays, a big social problem is that there are more and more bachelors in rural areas. This must have its own reasons, but are rural conditions really that bad? Are rural girls unwilling to remarry into the countryside? City girls are more reluctant?
The current reality is that there are a large number of empty houses in the city, but the housing prices are "constantly high". If there are no formal and good paying jobs in the city, and Is it necessary to stick to your "rural hometown capital" and desperately pay a down payment to buy a house?
Just go wherever it is conducive to your own development, isn’t it right? "I would rather be the head of a chicken than the tail of a phoenix." There is nothing wrong with this saying. No one can predict what the countryside will be like in more than ten years, but I know we are too old to do anything anymore, so why cut back? Head into the city
Zha, besides, our country now also encourages rural entrepreneurship and revitalizes the rural economy!
Why are there so many "left-behind elderly people" and "left-behind children"? Do all people working in cities earn more than those in rural areas? I can't see it!
Don't let too much "selfishness and vanity" cause too much "separation of flesh and blood" and "lack of family affection"! How long can your life be? Is the social value you create in the countryside definitely lower than in the city? Even gold will shine there. If you take it seriously, everything will be invincible!
What I said above seems to be a bit off topic, but the meaning is the same. If a marriage is defeated by material things, it will no longer be a marriage, or it will be very short-lived. Everything lies in communication. , if "the nature of the mind is the same", what's the use of crying!
On the other hand, if some of our parents ask for "sky-high price gifts", are they really just doing it for their children? Isn't there any "selfishness" involved? Where do you place their "happiness"? If a boy has character and ambition, isn't that enough? Do we have to force them to disperse and force them to death? You are the ones who are happy!
If you want to take it, you can take it, if you don't want to take it, then separate it. It's not like selling your daughter. As long as the daughter is happy, the betrothal gift should be similar to the local customs. I'm afraid it's inappropriate if it's too high.
Regardless of whether it is a big city or a small place, the 800,000 yuan gift is too scary. I feel that the woman’s family does not want to get married. How can we be in a relationship for 8 years? She must have given birth to a baby. I don’t understand
I won't pay a penny, but if so she'll still be with her. Then I will make up the money
That is not a girlfriend, but a Liangshan hero
Let’s discuss it with her. If your family's conditions are good, I can give it to you. Normally, just let her tell her family! If you really can't get it out, break up. Don't hang yourself from a tree!
Eight hundred thousand, stealing money
I think there may be two reasons for such a result.
1. The girl’s parents insist on a bride price of 800,000 yuan. This is due to local customs or for the sake of the girl’s younger brother or brother. Regardless of whether the boy has the ability or not, they just want this 800,000 yuan.
I know that in some remote mountainous areas or poor rural areas, there are many children in the family, and the local customs or habits are very feudal. The purpose of raising a daughter is to sell her daughter. After all, there is a vulgar tradition that "a married girl will be thrown away".
Families with more open-minded parents are fine. Daughters have been raised by themselves through hard work. If the education and culture are very low and there are several sons, it will be difficult for the sons’ marriages and betrothal gifts. With very little income, he almost relied on "exchange marriages" to settle his son's marriage.
I know from a classmate of mine in Gansu, I heard him say that when their daughter gets married, she needs a very high betrothal gift, because her younger brother or brother also wants to get married, and the betrothal gift reaches more than 300,000 yuan. I also need a house and a car.
And it was also clearly stated that the bride price would not be used as a dowry for the daughter, nor would it be returned, but that it would be used to build a house or get married to the younger brother.
Repeating this vicious cycle will only increase the burden on the local people. This is also a bad feudal tradition.
Nowadays, in some rural areas, in addition to having a house and a car, it is common for people to invest 300,000 to 500,000 yuan for a wedding. However, most parents have become more open-minded and no longer purely asking for money. Happiness usually involves returning the betrothal gift and adding some auspicious numbers.
This approach gradually makes the bride price a custom that everyone can accept, and it also means a new fortune for the new couple.
2. In order to test the boy, the girl’s parents want to scare him off and see if he is determined to get the 800,000 gift that may not be needed.
Why do you say that? Because some parents can see people very clearly. So many years of social experience have allowed them to learn to see people very accurately. His own daughter is his own flesh and blood whom he has worked hard to raise for more than 20 years. This is something that no one would be willing to part with.
But a daughter will eventually get married, but which parent doesn’t want their daughter to marry well? Sometimes, parents have a grudge against boys who have bad character, low quality, or poor family conditions.
Some parents will set up various obstacles to make boys quit when faced with difficulties. Sometimes they are testing the other party to see if they have paid for love because of the bride price and whether they really love their daughter. .
This is the case for a relative of mine. In 2010, the uncle’s daughter found a boyfriend from another place after graduating from college. Because he was too far away and didn’t know the other person well. Details.
The main reason is that the boyfriend he is looking for is not tall, looks average, and is sullen and silent. The uncle is not very sure whether his daughter will be happy if he follows him.
He made a request to the boy at that time, and he must get a gift of 300,000 yuan, otherwise he would not agree.
The boy's family had just bought a house and still had to repay the loan. He didn't have much money. His parents were ordinary people and he really couldn't afford that much money, but he was very smart and loved each other very much.
He took the initiative to call his uncle and said that the savings I currently have and my parents’ savings are only 200,000 yuan. Can I make an IOU for the remaining 100,000 yuan, which will be paid off within three years?
My daughter loves each other very much. Seeing the boy's sincerity, the uncle saw it. He didn't say he agreed or disagreed. He said that I would go to your house to visit and we would talk about it then.
After seeing it, the two parties also got married. The uncle returned the money to the boy at his daughter's wedding, tore up the IOU on the spot, and gave him a house worth more than 500,000 yuan.
Back to the topic, if my girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 8 years and the other party asks for a gift of 800,000 yuan, I will treat it based on the situation.
First: Ask your girlfriend what she thinks. If she is with me wholeheartedly, I will find a way to raise the money and explain it clearly to her parents, but I will not embarrass my parents. Do things to the best of your ability.
Second: If my girlfriend just listens to her family, I can understand her difficulties, but I will work hard. If she is willing, I am willing to wait for her and will not immediately turn around and marry someone else. Husband and wife are of the same mind. , its sharpness breaks gold.
Third: If my girlfriend is willing to elope with me, I will take her to elope first, and then I will pay her parents back when I have the strength, but Voldemort really doesn't want it, and I can't marry him.
The relationship has been going on for too long. If you want to get married in 8 months, a bride price of 80,000 is enough. You have to stay in the relationship for 8 years.