The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good. What is the impact on the whole family?
Especially the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who live under the same roof, if the relationship is not good and no one is pleasing to the eye, the atmosphere at home will definitely be depressed, how can there be happiness?
In fact, there are many bad relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, not from the beginning. They are all contradictions caused by some small things in the same life. Problems that could have been solved, because they are not handled well, or they don't want to be handled at all, will make the problems backlog and eventually become grievances.
A mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence knows the bad consequences of a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In the process of getting along with her daughter-in-law, she will do the following three things:
0 1. Don't speak ill of your wife.
Some mother-in-law with low emotional intelligence always belittles her daughter-in-law and always wants everyone to know that she has an unfilial daughter-in-law. If the daughter-in-law is not as miserable as she says, it is her mother-in-law who makes much ado about nothing and deliberately derogates. If the daughter-in-law knows, it will inevitably be chilling;
If the daughter-in-law is really an unfilial person as her mother-in-law said, it will add fuel to the fire, making the already tense relationship worse, and maybe she will eventually turn against her.
The so-called "wash your dirty linen in public" is very reasonable. The discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a dirty laundry. If you publicize it everywhere, it will only become the talk of others after dinner, and it is impossible to get sympathy from others.
Doing so will not only be laughed at by outsiders, but also cause internal contradictions in your family. Maybe your son's marriage is facing disintegration because of your "big mouth".
Therefore, a mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence will not speak ill of her daughter-in-law, and her daughter-in-law can communicate with her sincerely, and I believe she can understand.
If you really can't communicate, keep your mouth shut. Some things just turn a blind eye. Don't talk too much outside because of impulse, which will bury hidden dangers for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
I don't mind my son being nice to my daughter-in-law.
Some unreasonable mother-in-law can't see her son being kind to her daughter-in-law. She may even be jealous of her daughter-in-law and deliberately sow discord in front of her son, just to alienate him from her daughter-in-law.
A mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence wants her son and daughter-in-law to be good. She understands that when a son grows up and becomes a family, he is not only a son, but also the husband of his daughter-in-law, the father of his grandson (granddaughter), the pillar of the family and the support of her later life.
She wants her son to be happy, and his happiness comes from his daughter-in-law. Only when the two of them love each other and support each other can a family prosper and be happy.
Not only does she support her son to be kind to his daughter-in-law, but she will also be kind to her daughter-in-law, which is actually helping her son build a happy family.
Everyone's heart is made of meat, and the kindness of her mother-in-law will be remembered by her daughter-in-law.
Don't have monthly resentment with your daughter-in-law.
When a woman has just given birth to a child, her body and mind are the most fragile and sensitive. At this time, if the mother-in-law serves poorly or deliberately makes things difficult, then this month's revenge will be remembered by the daughter-in-law for life.
A mother-in-law with low emotional intelligence will provoke her daughter-in-law in the second month. This is undoubtedly a declaration of war on the daughter-in-law, regardless of the consequences. That's why there are so many evil mothers-in-law. It's all their own fault.
A mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence will take good care of her daughter-in-law in the next month. If she has the ability, she will do it herself. If she has no ability, she will pay more. Your daughter-in-law can always see your efforts.
Mother-in-law also comes from daughter-in-law. We are all women, and we can understand that it is not easy for women to have children and need careful care. At this time, being kind to your daughter-in-law can warm her heart.
Harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the greatest blessing of a family. In fact, no one wants to make a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and no one wants to upset themselves. It is only because of the lack of understanding and communication that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has cooled down.
No matter the mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, keep your mouth shut in daily life, don't speak ill of each other, think more about each other, pay more for each other, and don't care too much about gains and losses. I believe the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be improved.
After all, a mother-in-law with high emotional intelligence can generally do the above, put herself in a correct position, watch quietly behind her son and daughter-in-law, and lend a helping hand when they need help. This is to promote the happiness of my son's marriage and to create a happy old age for myself.