The portrait of the old man in the family has been dead for many years. Where should I put it?
The people who can make us entangled in portraits are the closest relatives. They wanted us to live well before they died, and they didn't want us to be too sad when they died. The ancients said that "thinking about things and people for a long time hurts the body", so if the old man at home dies, it is better not to hang the portrait at home. The best memory is not in the form, but in the heart.
Some people say that the living are "Yang people" and the dead are "Yin people". Hanging portraits at home is not good for feng shui. Although this is a superstitious statement, it still has some truth from personal psychology. For example, a huge portrait of my grandfather hangs in my grandmother's living room. Every time I go to see grandpa's portrait, I get goose bumps. I know grandpa loves me very much, and I love him very much, but there is always an unspeakable feeling when I see his portrait.
Two places where portraits of old people should not be hung 1. bedroom
In real life, some people who are very filial and strong in heart can't let go of the death of the old man, and will hang the portrait of the old man in the bedroom, which is actually not desirable.
The bedroom is where people sleep. As the saying goes, if you think about it day and night, you will inevitably dream of the old man when you see the portrait many times before going to bed. Whether it's a good dream or a nightmare, dreaming of the dead is always bad for your health.
If you put the portrait of the old man in the bedroom, you can see it at first sight when you wake up and open your eyes every day. Life on that day will start with sadness, and if you are in a bad mood, you will be absent-minded. In the long run, your luck will decline.
2. Utility room
The utility room is a place where sundries are piled up. It is disrespectful to hang the old man's portrait in the utility room.
Portrait of the old man 1 What should I do? Hanging in the living room.
It is common to put portraits of old people in the living room. The only inappropriate thing is that when guests come home, others will feel a little uncomfortable when they see the portrait hanging in the living room, and it is not without worship.
Suggestion:
The portrait of the old man can be hung in the living room, but it's best not to make it too big, and don't just hang a portrait on the living room wall.
Handling opinions:
(1). Enlarge the portrait and hang it in an inconspicuous position, which will not only remember the old man, but also give the guests an uncomfortable feeling.
(2) Make a photo wall with many family photos and put the portrait of the old man in it.
2. Collect it or make it into an electronic photo album
In fact, it is more appropriate to collect the portrait of the old man or make it into an electronic photo album, which is also the author's most respected.
A photograph is an idea. When you miss old people, you can take them out to have a look. You can put them away after reading them. In this way, we can remember our ancestors without leaving a "psychological burden" on the living.
Burn it after the anniversary
This kind of treatment may not be recognized by many people. The reason why this treatment is listed separately is because I heard a sentence from my uncle, and I deeply agree with it.
When I gave my grandmother the anniversary grave, my uncle took her portrait to the grave and burned it. Neither my mother nor my aunt agreed at that time. My uncle said, "Of course, my brothers and sisters are reluctant to let her go. Now that I am over 70, maybe one day I will follow her (my uncle is in poor health). Xiaojun and I (my uncle's son) can give up my mother's portrait. What about after I die? Maybe it will be put in a corner, and it is better to burn it yourself than throw it away. "
Think about it, too. Many people will give up the portraits of their parents, many people will give up the portraits of their grandparents, but few people will keep the portraits of their great-grandfathers.
Conclusion Some people are willing to give up the portrait of the old man, some people are willing to collect it, and some people simply burn it. Of course, different ideas, different emotions and different angles are different, which is no problem.
When people die, any form of sadness is futile. The old man didn't care before his death, but burned the villa sports car after his death. That's just for the living. When they are alive, this is the most important thing for people nowadays.
Although the concept of this era has changed a lot, the memory of the deceased relatives is still an eternal emotion in our hearts, which is not only accompanied by this life, but also worth spreading for future generations to trace back to the source and cherish the memory of their ancestors. In my humble opinion, it is not necessary to do as the Romans do, but it should not be handled hastily. The last thing to do is to throw it all away.
Let's talk about urban families. Although I lived with my grandparents when I was a child and had deep feelings, my children's understanding of the concepts of death and ancestors was very shallow and simple. As time went on, my impression of them became more and more indifferent. With my own children, I have a deeper understanding of blood and family ties, and my views on photos have also changed. I remember going back to Shanghai at the beginning of the century and seeing some photos of my grandparents in my parents' collection tin box. All kinds of past events suddenly came to my mind, which made me feel very different from before. There is nothing to look forward to. I felt very sorry at that time. It is also good to think about ancestral temples and temples in rural areas in the past. With photos, you can not only see the voices and smiles of the elders who have lived together, but also see the ancestors who have never met before, and experience life intuitively.
Now that an elder in the family has passed away, the average family will put a simple coffin and a photo at home for relatives and friends to pay homage to. After the funeral, most of them will take the photos down, and some will hang them for a while, and some even hang them for several years. Personally, I feel that all kinds of practices vary from person to person and are beyond reproach. Regardless of other people's comments, how to arrange your own peace of mind is the most important standard.
However, if you hang photos, it is not recommended to be too rigid, such as standard drawings with black frames, black and white photos and so on. There are many photos now, so it is more appropriate to choose life photos or family reunion photos. Too solemn photos will bring some gloomy atmosphere to the family, but now children who are more independent, free and socialized will feel awe and distance. You know, the dead relatives used to be living individuals, and they lived with us day and night, and they were very happy to see our happiness. Even if yin and yang are separated, if there are spirits in the sky, they will certainly not want to make us afraid, but would rather be intimate and treat each other as equals?
Another very important suggestion is to set up a special photo album, select a certain number of photos with commemorative value, carefully organize and save them in chronological order, and add explanations if possible, or make them into electronic photo albums for long-term preservation. This not only properly preserves the photos of deceased relatives, but also can be used to look through the mourning from time to time. It is also a story record that directly records family growth and changes, which can be passed down from generation to generation, so that future generations of children can feel the filial piety and family outlook of the Chinese nation, which is a precious gift for their future growth.
This question also varies from person to person! After their parents died, they were buried in their hometown, especially in the countryside, and their parents were buried in their hometown cousin's house, so there were photos of their uncles, grandmothers and parents in their hometown cousin's house, and their portraits could be seen every time they went back to their hometown to sweep the grave. I don't think my cousin has any taboos, and her children won't say anything that may be customary. My sister and I live in the city and are not used to putting photos at home. We don't even hang our own photos, but the walls are full of scenery. I also thought about hanging the portrait of my parents on the wall, but I am sentimental. Whenever I see the portrait of my parents, I can't help but shed tears. Up to now, my mother has been dead for more than 30 years, and my father has been dead for 5 years. Whenever I can't sleep at night, I think of them. I think if I always do this, it may be bad for my health, so I always wrap up my parents' portraits and put them in the cupboard. I guess my parents won't complain that we didn't hang their portraits! Sometimes I take out their portraits and look at them. So I think it doesn't matter whether the portraits are hung or not, as long as I always miss them and keep them in my heart. Parents will live in our hearts forever!
Storing portraits of ancestors is a way for future generations to remember their ancestors. However, for a long time, there were all kinds of portraits at home. According to folklore, it is easy to produce yin and harmful to health. Generally, it should be properly disposed of after 3 to 7 years. Disposal method 1: put it in the ancestral temple for worship. The second way is to send it to the grave. The third method, the best and most unforgettable method, is to make a porcelain statue and stick it on the tombstone, which will never fade. It will take hundreds of years, and children and grandchildren can see the remains every year when they worship.
After the death of the old man, the portrait should not be hung on any wall at home, nor should it be placed on the table. It should be kept in a cabinet or drawer that is often motionless. It doesn't mean that hanging a portrait at home means filial piety. It's best for old people to be more filial and less accompanied when they are alive, so as not to make them angry. Hanging the portrait at home will affect the shadows of some adults and children at home and also affect the normal living conditions. It is normal for people to move forward, and it is normal for others to continue. It is normal for the next generation to be willing to leave photos or unwilling to leave them or burn them and tear them up. People are like this!
All I did was burn it. Some people may say that I am unfilial and do things in a bad way. After all, photos of relatives say burn!
Let me talk about my experience. Do you think I did the right thing?
My father died in a car accident when I was eighteen. My father is a farmer. It is well known that farmers seldom take pictures. My father made tofu before his death. Because changing the business license requires taking photos, there is no way to take an inch of photos for the business license. The negatives and other remaining photos were collected by themselves. And said to me, "I will leave this as a portrait when I die!" " "Everyone has ideas. We thought he was joking, just saying. Unexpectedly, my father had a car accident the next day and died before he could be rescued. Left this unique photo.
I have been living a sad life since my father died. I even put my father's photo in my bedroom and take a look whenever I think of it.
In the past six or seven years, it has been placed in the most conspicuous position. Later, after working, a colleague asked me, how many years has your father died? I told them that my father had been dead for more than ten years. They think I am pedantic. Talking about me at work. After I told my relatives about it, they said I had no conscience. After all, my father died in a car accident and lost about 30 thousand. Can't you put a photo in such a big room for free? I was also depressed at that time, so I took the photo and hid it in an inconspicuous position.
Later, my sister came to my house and blamed me for not giving up my father's portrait. I have to give up my father's photo again. Later, after getting married, his wife also opposed giving up his father's portrait. Because children are young, they are afraid to see photos and don't sleep at night.
On second thought, I think I'd better burn my father's photo! Finally decided to burn his father's photo. May father go all the way! Although I didn't keep my father's photo, we still miss you! Your voice and smile have been engraved in my mind! I love you, my father!
In the past, the rural conditions were poor, and the elderly could not take photos when they were alive. After their death, they basically didn't keep any photos. At that time, the old man died without a portrait.
Later, some family conditions gradually improved. In order to leave a souvenir for future generations, I dug up some photos of the old man before his death from home, chose a beautiful one from them and took it to the photo studio in the city for printing. In the professional language at that time, it was called "remake" and enlargement; Some families, in order to save money and take photos, find a "painter" who stands in the city or town to draw a "charcoal portrait" as big as 8-inch paper for preservation.
Now in the countryside, the old man has passed away, and every household has a portrait of the old man.
Some of them were prepared by the old man before his death. At the age of 60, when he was making a coffin, he took a good photo. He chose a standard image from several photos.
On the day of the old man's death, one of the photos taken before his death was quickly taken to the photo studio or advertising company in the town to enlarge. This situation is a temporary rush.
Now the portraits of the old people are all color photos, and the photo frames are beautiful.
Our family says this:
My old father died five years ago, except during the May 7th period (that is, five, seven and thirty-five days after his death), he had to put it on the table of incense table above the main room, and put it in a box at the bottom after May 7th.
Every season, when I am packing clothes and quilts at home and see my mother sorting things alone, I will take out my father's portrait from under the box, watch it over and over again, and then put it back carefully.
I knew that at this time, mom missed dad!
Therefore, for: the portrait of the old man who died at home for many years should be placed under the box!
In this case, only when you are inadvertently sorting things out, take a look and miss your loved ones. This feeling is the best!
If you hang it on the wall, you will often see it, which is not good.
For example, if there are any celebrations at home, it is good for everyone to be happy together. If you suddenly see a picture on the wall, it will make everyone feel heavy. This is not good. Isn't this ruining everyone's fun?
How do you think? Where do you think it should be put?
The portrait of my dead parents was kept in my mobile phone five years ago.
Father died in 15, and mother died in 12. At that time, the portrait of my parents was always at my hometown brother's house. Because my brother and I are both in other places, and my brother's family lives in other places, I brought home the portrait of my parents when I went back five years ago. For various reasons, my parents' portraits were not hung up properly, so I took pictures of my parents' portraits and saved them in my mobile phone. Whenever I miss my parents, I can take them out at any time. My parents will always be by my side, and I will always be with my parents.
My father has been dead for almost 20 years. In the first few years, my father's portrait was hung on the side wall of the hall, and you can see it when you open the door. Every time I go back to my hometown, when I open the door, I will say to my father in the photo, "Dad, I'm back"; When I leave, I want to say "Dad, I'm leaving, you have to help me keep my house"; It seems that my father is still alive.
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My father died in 1997 and my mother died in 1999, less than two years apart. After my mother died, I put the portrait of my parents in the same photo frame, hung it in the middle of the living room, and wrote a line under the portrait of my parents: Long live my parents as long as my life is still there! The portrait of parents hanging on the wall has never been taken down. Seeing smiling parents every day, I really feel that they have not left. 20 15, I moved to a new home. It is more than 30 miles away from the old house. Since then, the old house has been empty, and the things in the room have basically not moved. I also thought about taking down the portrait of my parents and bringing it back to my new home. Elder sister also reminded me twice, but I didn't bring it after all. I never thought that in 20 17, all the old houses were demolished without receiving any notice, and the whole old things were with the parents' bones that had been hung for more than ten years.