If the wife looks down on her husband in the family, what impact will it have on the children?

The best relationship in a family is that the father loves the mother, the mother loves the father, and both the father and the mother love the children. Growing up in such a native family, most children will be more loving because they have been raised in a loving environment. Growing up!

It is said that women are made of water. In fact, a good woman is the feng shui of the family. A good woman can bring prosperity to three generations, husbands, children and grandchildren, and even more.

If your mother always looks down on your father, which will dampen your father's enthusiasm, and men have very strong self-esteem, and you always say that he is not good at this or that, then he will really become It's getting worse. If you have time, read "Human Weakness" by Carnegie. In fact, people often have to boast. No matter how many imperfections they have, you should not only see their shortcomings and magnify their shortcomings infinitely. If you pick his thorns, aren't you making yourself unhappy?

You should learn to praise him more and see his advantages. Don’t be too explicit about the things you want him to change. Put it forward tactfully. It’s best if you can change it. If you can’t change it, then you can’t. Just change yourself. There is a saying that people who always try to change others are crazy. God is the one who can change himself.

When you always like to find fault with someone, in fact, tracing back to the root cause, you are not dissatisfied with this person, but with yourself and your current life. You feel that everything is not as you originally wanted it to be. As expected, you feel that life is not as you imagined, so you have to vent and find an outlet for your emotions.

Naturally, your unsatisfactory husband has become a thorn in your side. Seeing that he can’t do anything, you may even feel that your life today is not as comfortable as your little sisters. Without them, you are not rich. It comes down to the husband's incompetence. In fact, this is a typical failure to manage your emotions. If this continues, your life will only get worse and worse, and it may even affect your children.

Everyone has emotions, but if you can’t control your emotions well, your children will suffer greatly. She will be afraid of marriage and becoming someone like you. A good father is equivalent to 100 principals, but if the mother always belittles the father in front of the children, then the father cannot establish any authority in front of the children, which makes him unable to communicate well with the children and educate them well, and the whole family will move towards Going in the opposite direction, growing more and more distant.

You obviously want to make this family better, you obviously want to make your husband better, and you obviously want your children to have a happy family, but in the end everything backfires. Some people say that happy families are all similar, and every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

To give an example from my life, a couple born in the 1980s, their child is in kindergarten, and the family usually has a good relationship. It’s just that men like playing games more. When they play games, they forget everything. When they get home from get off work, they just play games and don’t care about anything else.

In the days that followed, the two of them quarreled every day, and the woman scolded him: I have to take care of everything at home. I don’t expect you to cook, and I can’t help you wash the dishes. Besides playing games, you don’t do anything. My son doesn't care what he can do. You are like this. You are in your thirties. At your age, you have already been the mainstay of the family, and you are still enjoying the cool under the big tree.

Noisy every day, the atmosphere at home becomes very strange, and the situation of playing games has not changed at all. What the woman said is quite reasonable, but it is invisibly belittling the man. All she sees is how bad he is, and she can’t see any good things at all. This kind of cathartic whining is really harmful to you. There is no benefit to changing the status quo, and it may even bring side effects.

You have to negotiate with him, and of course you need to be skillful in negotiating. You said that after a busy day, it’s okay to play games, and you don’t have any other hobbies. So before playing games, you should complete some of your own work. For example, as a father, you should spend more time with your child, even if you are playing with him, the child’s Growing up, I need my father's company, such as sharing some housework and so on.

I listened to a psychology lecture. The professor said what is the biggest difference between men and women? It's just that women like to talk in roundabout ways, while men like to be straightforward. For example, if a woman wants a gift on Valentine's Day, she will tell her husband that so-and-so has received a bag or so-and-so has received an iPhone, and then he will tell her after listening. Then you are sulking next to you, why is this man so ignorant of style? It doesn't matter if you don't have a gift, and you don't show any sympathy even if you remind him.

Actually, he doesn’t understand what you mean by such insinuations. He thinks you want to tell her this fact, so he will reply to you. There is no need to be angry. You can just tell him what I want to buy for Valentine's Day today and give him the money. If he has money, he will give it to him. If you don't believe me, try it. If you need him to do anything, just tell him directly and he will execute it.

But if you see that he is unhappy, if you want to scold him, it is better to be tactful, which will help solve the problem. You are now 25 years old, it is time to fall in love and fall in love. You should use your mother as a negative example to learn from her, guide her appropriately and provide her with psychological counseling. As long as women are psychologically okay, they are generally quite easy to talk to. Might as well give it a try.

The original family has a great influence on a person. Maybe the parents are old and some behaviors, habits and words are difficult to change, but you are still young, and you can also judge what is good and what is not. Great, you can take the essence and discard the dross, change the status quo, and live the life you want