The quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on the husband
Every married woman will encounter mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very good. Some mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law can live in harmony and respect each other as guests. If the relationship between husband and wife is not good, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be very good either. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deteriorates, it will even deepen the conflicts between husband and wife. Therefore, making your marriage happy is also a guarantee.
As mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the two women have had nothing to do with each other in the past few decades. They only became a family because they both loved the same man. Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but a triangle relationship that is more complicated than a love triangle. In a love triangle, there is always one person who is not loved, and one person will eventually quit, so it is relatively simple. But in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both women are loved, and neither woman can quit and must live in harmony. However, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in China has persisted for thousands of years. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have almost become "natural enemies". The man who should have the love of two women is caught in the middle and suffers from splints. Many men don't know how to deal with this kind of relationship, which leads to deepening conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. From family discord and enmity between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, to wives and children being separated and families being destroyed!
A husband who doesn’t want to be angry with the plywood wants to have both the deep love of his mother and the warm love of his wife. Then take a good look at these twelve commandments!
The first commandment: Don’t have the idea of "the world’s parents love you"
Many husbands seem to have this idea and like to talk about it to show respect and filial piety to their parents. . Especially after my wife was wronged by my mother, this sentence appeared most frequently. Knowing that my mother was at fault, I only dared to say to my wife: "Parents love each other. If she is wrong, she will be my mother. Please forgive me!" So the wives had nowhere to vent their grievances, so they had to cry secretly. In this kind of family, women's love for their husbands will gradually fade until they become disappointed in the marriage. Some may escape, while others may switch from forbearance to counterattack, ultimately leaving everyone in the relationship scarred.
Second, please take the initiative to wean yourself on the wedding day.
After getting married, every woman hopes that the man she entrusts with her life will mature and be responsible for supporting her family. But many men forget the role change and always think that they are their parents' darlings. One of the most obvious signs is that they don't want to live alone without their parents. His most high-sounding reason is: I want to take care of my parents! A man who still lives with his parents after marriage actually does not change much from before marriage, because he knows that with his mother, she is unwilling to let him do housework, and his wife dare not assign housework to him in front of her mother. Or, just like before marriage, she used clothes to reach out and eat with her mouth, only to see two women running around for him. Where could she see what he was doing for her?
Many mothers have the feudal idea that "when you marry a daughter-in-law, you have to take your own classes and serve your son." So they instill this idea into their sons from an early age and do their best to do all the housework. He doesn’t let his son do any work, and he always likes to praise his son in front of his wife about how lazy he is: When my son was young, he didn’t even help with the oil bottle! Everyone, after hearing this, are you proud or ashamed? Are you a milk baby who can’t even hold an oil bottle? Or are you used to treating your mother as your maid, letting your mother train your wife to be your paid nanny, and letting your wife take over your mother's duties and serve you?
Many men who are separated from their parents will consciously do housework with their wives. However, if his parents go to live in his own home for a period of time, his good habit of helping with housework will be destroyed, because during the period when his parents live there, his mother will not let him do any housework, and his wife will not let him do any housework. Do not dare to assign housework to him, so he can enjoy the services of his mother and wife with peace of mind. If once the parents leave and return to the world of two people, and the wife asks to restore the previous division of housework, the husband will often say: "My mother never lets me do housework!" The implication is that the wife should treat him like her mother, or follow her mother's life path! Please think about this. Did your wife marry you just to find someone to serve herself, to become someone else's accessory, to be enslaved by someone else?
Third, don’t be afraid of being labeled as “unfilial” by others, which will cause you to lose your principles of life and obey your parents’ orders.
Under the influence of thousands of years of feudal thought in China, "filial piety" has become the supreme virtue and the most powerful shackles of the patriarchal society. So someone concocted the story of "Twenty-four Filial Piety", which attracted filial piety all over the world. Sun followed suit. If a person is accused of being unfilial, it is as unforgivable as committing a heinous sin. But this "filial piety" is different from the law and has no clear standard, so it has become the biggest hat that parents can easily use to suppress their children. As long as their children don't listen to their own words or contradict their opinions even slightly, their parents will cry and scold you: You unfilial son, I raised you in vain! Men who cherish their reputation very much will often feel thunderous and worried when hearing such accusations. Therefore, in order to maintain their "reputation" as a "filial son", men often give up their principles of life, distinguish right from wrong, and do not distinguish between good and bad. Especially when there is a conflict between my wife and my mother, I think it is my wife's responsibility not to ask random questions and help my parents blame my wife. In this case, the man does not stand for justice in maintaining family harmony, but blindly requires his wife to bear the burden of humiliation and compromise to maintain the apparent peace of the family.
Men who have this idea of filial piety are actually deeply influenced by the feudal thought of "the king is his minister, the father is his son, and the husband is his wife".
However, in a monarchical patriarchal society with an extremely strict hierarchical system, even the pedantic Confucius advocated that "if the emperor is not upright, I can fight for the king; if the father is not upright, the son can fight against the father." Therefore, these filial sons have absorbed the dross of feudal thought and abandoned it. got them. What they care about is not true filial piety to their parents, but the reputation of being a "filial son". So this kind of foolish and filial person is not a true "filial son", but a hypocrite!
First, when tempted, please take the initiative to help your wife integrate into your family instead of helping your family exclude her.
Perhaps all husbands will cry out: Now that you have married your wife and come home, how can you reject her? However, although some men do not have such thoughts subjectively, they are actually doing such things, making their wives feel like outsiders in your family and being excluded everywhere.
When a woman gets married and enters a completely unfamiliar environment, she will inevitably feel at a loss and will naturally develop a sense of defensiveness. In this family, only her husband is the closest person to her. Some behaviors of other people in her husband's family, although subjectively harmless, may appear to her to be harmful to her. At this time, you need to be a good bridge of communication with your husband. Please do not blindly accuse her of being "sensitive, careless, and narrow-minded." This will only make your wife farther and farther away from her family, and eventually exclude her from this big family.
There is also a kind of man who, when his parents find fault with his wife in front of him, will echo their parents and say bad things about his wife. Although you may not necessarily think so in your heart, the psychological implication of this behavior to your parents is that even if you are dissatisfied with your wife, your parents will become increasingly dissatisfied with your daughter-in-law, and conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will occur more and more frequently. . When you speak ill of your wife in front of your parents, you stick with your parents, but your parents reject your wife and treat her as an outsider.
There is also a kind of man who is even more stupid. He likes to look at his wife through colored glasses and doesn’t like her talking about his parents. Even if the wife has good intentions, a stupid man will think that the wife is unkind and plotting against her parents. The most hateful thing is that when he came with his wife, he said "mind your own business"! If you both feel that your wife and you are not "family", will your parents treat your daughter-in-law as a family member?
Fifth, if your mother and wife complain to each other in front of you, please don't be the microphone.
Because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lived in different living environments, living habits, values, etc. in the past few decades. It may be different. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be dissatisfied with each other over these differences, but not all mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law can be honest with each other and tell each other their dissatisfaction directly. I can only vent my anger on this man who is both my son and my husband. Maybe most men will have this experience, right?
As the saying goes: "A person who can both lie and not lie is extremely smart. Not only can he cleverly make two women's dissatisfaction with each other disappear, but he can also please each other and make the two women happy. Two women prefer each other to promote harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not serious, but through the communication between the man in the middle, even small frictions will cause "big sparks". The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become extremely sharp and complicated. In addition, some women are too stingy, which will lead to "enemies" that can never be resolved. The final result is that the messenger will be put in dire straits.
People on both sides may not like it. Passing on information. Maybe his intention is good, just to let the two women get rid of some habits or thoughts that are not satisfactory to each other, but he may not realize that the two women heard from his mouth that their mother-in-law (daughter-in-law) said something about him. When I am dissatisfied, I will think in my heart: My mother-in-law (daughter-in-law) speaks ill of me in front of my husband (son) behind her back! Please think about it, who would like a man who speaks ill of himself behind his back? The performance of information is not just about conveying the words of two women to each other. In fact, many men will do some stupid things inadvertently. Examples are as follows:
Being a mother or a wife. When she complains about the other party in front of her, she immediately runs to question the one being complained about (almost no statistics are needed to confirm that most men who do such stupid things only have the courage to question their wives);
There are also some men who will You unilaterally obey your parents and transform your wife into the type they like, but you are afraid that your own strength is too weak, so you follow through and say, even my parents are thinking about you! If the woman who heard this has a normal IQ, she would 100% do it. Think about it this way: My parents-in-law said bad things about me in front of my husband again!
For such a "setter" man, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is generally not much better. He must be a pitiful and hateful "plywood man"! But I have no sympathy for this kind of man. I only have one word for him:
The sixth commandment is to give your wife the opportunity to be a good person and leave yourself the opportunity to be a bad person.
In life, everyone likes to be a good person and be appreciated by others (except for mentally disturbed people), but when dealing with relationships, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a smart husband will give his wife the opportunity to be a good person, such as buying. Honor your parents, or please your parents, and ask your wife to stand aside. Even if you do it yourself, you will tell your parents that this is what your wife means. Most parents-in-law will think that your daughter-in-law is sensible and there is no reason to dislike her. But my love for you will not diminish.
Some men always like to secretly give money to their parents and siblings behind their wives’ backs, regardless of whether the money they give is within their obligations or how much. Still less. It would be foolish to cheat on your wife just by looking at this.
You will make your parents think that your son is the master of the family and has nothing to do with your wife, or simply think that your wife is a miser and are reluctant to give her money. As long as her son gives money behind her back, you will naturally hold a grudge against her. Your behavior is making her a "evil person" and yourself a good person. Many women will be very angry when they know that their husbands are doing this behind their backs, so men will accuse their wives of being "unfilial". They don't know that what women hate is not giving money to their parents-in-law, but men doing things behind their backs. One is not respecting oneself, and the other is causing one's parents-in-law to misunderstand oneself. As long as it is within the scope of your obligations, please donate generously in front of your wife and let your parents know that your wife knows and agrees with this matter; or ask your wife to come forward and let your parents know your daughter-in-law's status in your family, so that they can even think about it. Respect your wife and be considerate, and your life will be much easier. If it goes beyond your obligations, discuss it with your wife as well. Your wife agrees to give out of love, and it is her responsibility not to give. You have nothing to complain about.
Some parents like to interfere in their children's homes. For a woman, this home is the home she and her husband share. When encountering external interference, if it is a third party, she can fight back confidently. If it is her in-laws, she will encounter a lot of pressure and resistance in her self-defense. In addition to worldly opinions, it may also come from her filial husband. A stupid man will hide behind his wife and let her come out, causing her to bear the bad reputation of being a "bad wife and bad wife". He would even stand on the opposite side of his wife and work with his parents to deal with her. Although such a husband is a good person in front of his parents and can earn the reputation of a "filial son", he will seriously hurt his wife who loves the family deeply, making her extremely disappointed with the family. At least it affects the relationship between husband and wife, but at worst it breaks up the family and separates the wife and children.
If you are a smart person, please stand up and fight your parents. Don't let your wife be a villain. If your wife and your parents quarrel once, your parents may have a lifelong feud, and it is basically impossible to repair the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you are the one quarreling with your parents at the moment, maybe your parents will be sad for a while and call you an "unfilial son" who "marries a wife and forgets his mother", but no parents will fight for their children, and no parents will He will hold grudges against his own children. After you quarrel, you are still their beloved son, and they are still your beloved parents.
The seventh commandment, please do not order your wife to do anything for you in front of your parents.
When some men do not live with their mothers, they do all the housework, but once their parents are around, they begin to look down on themselves. Not only do they no longer do housework, but they also like to boss around and give orders to their wives. As if that wasn't enough to show them that he was a "gentleman."
The reason why men like to do this is closely related to his family upbringing. Such families generally favor sons over daughters and have serious feudal ideas. Deep in the minds of him and his parents, there is the concept that "taking a wife is to serve yourself and your parents." In order to satisfy his wife, her parents asked her to "pretend" to be a gentle and modest daughter-in-law. But I don’t know if my husband has thought about it. If it's only a day or two, a woman may pretend, so she has the patience to pretend. But if you live with your parents for January, February, a year or two, or even for the rest of your life, will your wife keep pretending forever? It is impossible to change a person's nature, and anyone who continues to pretend will be exposed. Also, if you can’t completely relax in your own home, you still have to pretend. are you tired? You can “pretend” yourself, experience what it feels like, and ask your wife!
When a man yells at his wife in front of his parents, he acts very domineering and looks very face-saving, but this behavior not only makes his wife feel tired, but also implies that your parents, or Speaking of your parents, it will be interpreted as: you don't care about your wife at all, and she has no weight in your own heart, so you don't respect her that much! Think about it, even you disrespect your wife so much, how do you expect your parents to respect this daughter-in-law?
Some sisters also said: When his parents are around, he works more, and when his parents are around, I work more! I don't agree with this view. A person can live as a family and cannot let his husband (wife) suffer in order to satisfy some unreasonable desires of the elderly. In fact, many of the unreasonable and rude behaviors of the elderly are what they have become accustomed to, so many people are looking for internal injuries on their own!
Bajie, please don’t quarrel with your wife in front of your parents or family members.
There are no couples who do not quarrel. Quarrel is also a way for many couples to communicate, but quarreling is also the most hurtful to feelings, especially in front of parents. It not only hurts feelings, but also hurts the feelings of parents and each other. .
Many parents hope to see their sons and daughters-in-law living with Mimei. If they hear their son and daughter-in-law quarreling, they will be sad, or they may think that their presence has affected your relationship as a couple, and that they are a burden to you. What's more, they may think that your daughter-in-law doesn't want to support you and will deliberately quarrel with you to vent their anger, leading to alienation from your daughter-in-law.
There are also some parents who are more radical, or some parents who are protecting their shortcomings. If you quarrel with your wife in front of them, they will jump out to help you deal with your wife. This kind of blending will turn the "internal conflict" between you and your wife into a more complicated "conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law." If it is a conflict between husband and wife, it should be easy to resolve, but if other people and relationships are involved, it will be much more difficult to resolve.
The most serious consequence is that your parents will find reasons to sow discord between you! In order for you to completely suppress your wife, he will even urge you to be stricter with your wife, and will tell you that "only by fighting with your wife can a woman learn to be a good girl." If you are a foolish and filial person and listen to their encouragement, you and your wife will be ungrateful, and you will not even be far from the prison gate!
Even if the above two situations do not exist, your parents are also very reasonable people and will not intervene in your husband and wife's quarrels. However, many women will feel like this: you are bullying others in front of your parents. ! Although your parents may scold you for protecting your wife, don't think that your parents are really enlightened parents-in-law. Who knows if they are really doing this to protect their daughter-in-law, or if they are just trying to save face by scolding their daughter-in-law n times in their hearts?
So, a man who is between his parents and his wife should not quarrel with his wife in front of his parents, no matter whether you are justified or not. You can only tolerate the injustice caused by your wife. Who told you to combine the love of two women and take advantage of it? Wouldn't it be unreasonable if you just want to get something and don't want to pay?
The ninth commandment, please don’t worry that your mother will be jealous, so you can’t show respect and care for your wife in front of her.
Many young lovers are very affectionate when they are not in front of their parents. A man will not hesitate to show his compassion and love for his wife and live a sweet and warm life. Some men are even happy to pour water for their wives to wash their feet, but once their mother is in front of them, they dare not pour them a glass of boiling water! On the contrary, I also ask my wife to do this and that for me, so that my mother can see that I can "control" my wife and satisfy her vanity of "my son is capable"!
In the final analysis, it is because the man does not understand that the love between the two women for him is completely different, one is family affection, and the other is love. They are not opposites, not an either/or zero-sum equation. Subconsciously, they think that if their love is given to one party, the convenience of the other party will make them jealous. I don’t think many daughters-in-law would be jealous of their mother-in-law because their husbands treat her better, but there are also many who are jealous of their daughters-in-law, and they can’t hide how kind their sons are to their wives. If they see their son showing a little love for their daughter-in-law, they will be full of envy, thinking that their daughter-in-law has taken away their son's love for them, and they will even cry with snot and tears and scold their son for "marrying a wife and forgetting his mother." "! This kind of maternal love is extremely narrow-minded. She is just satisfying her son's possessiveness in the name of love! But Xiao Yu's son, in order to comfort his mother's heart, deliberately ignored and ignored her in front of his wife. He did not dare to get too close to his wife, and even when he sat down, he had to keep a distance of more than one meter from her. He got along like "ice" with his female colleagues, and his tone of voice when talking to his wife became harsh and rude, and he even bossed her around. When a man does this in front of his mother, he is actually abusing his wife's self-esteem and feelings!
Many women do not want to live with their parents-in-law, not because they do not want to support them, but because of the above-mentioned behavior of men, which turns their warm home into a strange and depressing environment. As long as there are in-laws, my husband will change from a man who dotes on her and knows the inside story, to a modest gentleman who sits upright, or to a "young master" who is above her, making the originally happy life impossible. It's funny, his marriage gradually became as tasteless as a piece of cake. It's a pity to abandon it. But men don’t see the essence of this. They only accuse their wives of being "unfilial" and unwilling to live with their parents, but they do not realize that they are the culprit.
So, a man who hopes that his wife and parents can live in peace under the same roof, while showing filial piety to his mother, should also show more love for his wife in front of his parents. Not only will she cherish your two marriages, but she will also treat your parents well. Even overbearing parents will worry about your respect for your wife and dare not expect it.
The Tenth Commandment, please do not pursue egalitarianism with your loved ones and let them develop the bad habit of getting something for nothing.
Although this is a materialistic society, it is impossible for everyone to completely give up family ties and ignore the lives of their loved ones. If they have the ability, they can help each other out of brotherhood, so that brothers and sisters have a good development opportunity, or improve the quality of life. This is certainly understandable. However, some men ignore the actual situation and sacrifice the interests of their families to help them. The first is to implement egalitarianism with them in terms of money and material. Even if they are heavily in debt, they have to gain weight to satisfy their greed again and again. The second is to simply let them live in their own homes and let their wives serve them by themselves. This is not allowed at all. The wife complained.
In fact, men think that they are helping their brothers and sisters, but they do not know that this kind of help is harmful to society, the family, themselves, and their brothers: In society, your "selflessness" has cultivated some people who get something for nothing. Parasite; in the family, it damages the interests of your own small family, damages the rights of your wife, and damages the relationship between yourself and your wife; you yourself are just some extra heavy burden. Yourself, your brothers and sisters, you are only fueling their greed for something for nothing. If something goes wrong and you don't work hard, you always place your hopes on others. Do you think you're helping them? "Love hurts when it suits you." You should not replace his own efforts and let him enjoy the results easily.
You hurt them! If you really want to help them, please first understand that it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish, and help them master the necessary skills instead of simply satisfying their own material desires at the expense of their families and blaming themselves for their dissatisfaction. To my wife!
There are some men from the countryside who are the only ones who have been admitted to college. So, under everyone's praise and flattery, their vanity was extremely inflated, and soon they were floating to the sky. They were unaware of their own weight, and unconsciously stepped onto the altar, thinking that they were omnipotent and omnipotent. Arrogantly wanting to improve the fate of the entire village! So Li asked for help finding a job, and he agreed. Zhang Wa's wife wants to pay a bride price. Even if she doesn't, take borrowing money seriously. Wang Ermazi's relatives came to the city to see a doctor. In addition to living in your own home and entertaining your wife with good food and wine, you also have to accompany her all the way to the hospital. Are you tired of not knowing such a man? If you are tired, just step off the altar yourself. Since he is not a god, it is extremely cold at high places!
The eleventh commandment, please honor your parents and do not transfer your filial piety to your wife.
Men often say to their wives: "My parents have worked hard to raise me. It's not easy for me. You have to honor my parents!" I don't know what the logic is? It's not easy for your parents to raise you. So, your parents are old and sick. You should pour tea and water in front of the bed. You should take good care of them. You, not your wife, are the one responsible for supporting them! What makes you feel that your mother gave you a bowl of rice, and your wife or even your future wife owes your mother ten bowls of rice? Your mother washed one piece of clothing for you, and your wife owes your mother ten pieces of clothing? If your mother cooks a meal for you, your wife will cook for your mother for the rest of her life? Aren't you just marrying a wife to find a physical substitute for yourself who can honor your parents?
I often hear a very funny saying: Because the parents-in-law have given their daughter-in-law a good husband, the daughter-in-law should repay her parents-in-law! I don’t know if the parents who have adopted a son first decided to have a son at the request of their daughter-in-law. When a mother washes her son’s diapers, is it for her future daughter-in-law? When a father lies on the ground and lets his son ride a horse, is he doing so at the request of his future wife? Your parents have loved you, pampered you, doted on you, and pampered you since childhood. Therefore, every man should be grateful for the kindness of his parents, but you cannot force your wife to be grateful to your parents. Even if her parents are picky about her, you still require her to be filial, serve her parents with tea and water, and not allow her to do anything bad, let alone be disobedient, otherwise you will jump to the moral high ground.
No daughter-in-law has any reason to object to her husband's filial piety to his parents-in-law. Similarly, no husband has any reason to let his wife take his place, be filial to his parents-in-law, and be a shopkeeper who can easily chop off things. There is no reason to wave the whip of "women's virtue" in your hand, watch over your wife, and instruct her to wash and cook for your parents, serve tea and water, and support your parents for yourself! The kind of man who often accuses his wife of being unfilial, but has never cooked a meal for his parents, washed their clothes, or washed their feet. Please put away your hypocritical faces, reflect on whether you have done anything for your parents, and then come back to ask for a wife!
The twelfth commandment, please treat your parents and in-laws equally, and do not let your wife "marry her husband and forget her mother"
I often hear some parents-in-law complain that their sons "marry their daughter-in-law and forget their mother". In fact, He is accusing the daughter-in-law of taking away her son; in fact, there are more daughters who "marry their husbands and forget their mothers" because after a woman gets married, she often becomes a "splasher" under the constraints of so-called customs and becomes her husband's wife from then on! So my husband’s family asked my daughter-in-law to give everything to her husband’s family. The wages she earns belong to her husband's family, the children she gives birth to belong to her husband's family, and her spare time belongs to her husband's family. She must serve her parents-in-law wholeheartedly and help her brother-in-law's sister-in-law and uncle unconditionally. She can only live in her husband's house, and she has to go to her husband's house during the holidays!
As for the daughter-in-law’s parents, it is best to treat their daughter as a piece of water, or go to the hospital when she is sick. If they don't have money, don't expect their daughter. They should earn their own money. If they are lonely, they cannot stay at their daughter's house. It is best to completely cut off relations with your daughter! Oh, and by the way, you have to take care of your daughter while she has her baby before severing ties. When you are a free nanny, you have to pay for your own food, otherwise your husband's family will think that you went to his son's house to enjoy yourself and take advantage of it! When the children grow up and can play, the parents-in-law can pack up and leave. It’s time for the parents-in-law to play with their grandson and enjoy family happiness!
Perhaps the above statement is a bit extreme, but many men and parents are more or less petty in their hearts. I just pushed the selfish little plans in their minds to the extreme. This is what they want most, but no one has the courage to admit it!
Many men often ask their wives to be filial to the elderly, but in his mouth, "elderly" only refers to his parents. As for the parents-in-law? They should not be counted as "old people", they should always stay young! Even if he is an "old man", he should not be filial to his parents. When his parents-in-law grow old, the old couple will have no choice but to live together. If one of them unfortunately dies before the other, the surviving person can only spend his old age miserably, going to a nursing home if necessary, and waiting to die alone at home unconditionally! There was nothing they could do, they gave birth to a prodigal son who married a husband and forgot about his mother!
At present, there are more and more only children in China. In a family where a girl is born, the parents also love her, love her, pamper her, dote on her, and let her get an education. Since she was little, she has been afraid of falling into her hands and melting in her mouth, and she loves it as much as boys.
However, after her daughter got married, she did not dare to ask for living expenses from her daughter-in-law. She asked her to live with her, asked her to bring her tea, and even asked her to go home and celebrate the New Year with her. When I was 30 years old, the old couple watched the TV, listened to the sound of firecrackers outside, and looked forward to their daughter's call. If her wife died, the situation would be even worse. (I can't write it out, the scene feels miserable. < /p>
As a daughter-in-law, there is no reason to prevent her husband from honoring her parents-in-law. Similarly, as a husband, there is no reason to prevent his wife from honoring her parents-in-law. You can use "I am old and old" to ask your wife to honor your parents.
Can you do this yourself and treat your parents-in-law with the same attitude?