When a child marries a woman and goes back to her mother's house to sweep the grave, how old can she go to sweep the grave?
How old is the child to go to the grave?
Three years old or older, not including three years old.
In many places, old people at home are not allowed to take their babies to the grave. The reason for this is that people think that the cemetery is a place to bury the dead, and the yin is too heavy, which will have a negative impact on children. Because the child is underdeveloped, the yang is weak and vulnerable to ghosts. Second, the souls of deceased relatives will be close to their children when they see future generations. Follow the children home. Commonly known as haunted by relatives. So the child will cry. More serious, you will have a high fever and shock. At this time, the elders at home want to burn paper money to send the ghost back, and the elders blame it.
Is there a saying that married women go back to their parents' homes to visit their graves?
Nowadays, there is no saying that married women go back to their parents' graves.
In the past, this rule was made because in the traditional concept, the married daughter was the spilled water. Now that my daughter is married and living with others, she belongs to an "outsider". Outsiders who come to visit the grave will take away the good feng shui at home, so married daughters are not allowed to go home to visit the grave in some areas.
Tomb-Sweeping Day's taboo of sweeping graves.
Taboo 1. Sacrifice early but not too late.
Although Tomb-Sweeping Day is a day to worship ancestors, people will not wait for Tomb-Sweeping Day to worship ancestors in Tomb-Sweeping Day. Usually, they will start sweeping graves after the vernal equinox and solar terms. According to the old man, Tomb-Sweeping Day can only worship his ancestors in advance, not later. That is to say, he can worship his ancestors in front of Tomb-Sweeping Day, not after Tomb-Sweeping Day, because Tomb-Sweeping Day will close his ancestors' graves that day. If Tomb-Sweeping Day visits the grave, he won't get anything from his descendants. So they should sacrifice early, not late.
Taboo two, you can't go to the grave early in the morning and one night.
Nowadays, people's life and work are very fast. Many people don't have time to worship their ancestors before and on the day of Tomb-Sweeping Day, so some people will think of going to visit graves when they are not working in the morning and evening, which is absolutely not desirable. This is because if you go to the grave early in the morning and one night, the yin will be heavier and it will have a bad influence on your life, so you should go to the grave around noon when the yang is the most abundant.
Taboo three. It is forbidden to visit relatives and friends.
Tomb-Sweeping Day is a traditional festival of sacrifice in China, so before the arrival of Tomb-Sweeping Day, people who are wandering outside will return to their hometowns to visit the graves of their deceased relatives. Tomb-Sweeping Day should pay special attention after sweeping the grave, and never start visiting relatives and friends when everyone is at home, because Yin Qi is likely to accompany him after sweeping the grave. If you go to someone else's house, it is likely to cause others' dissatisfaction. Therefore, Tomb-Sweeping Day must pay attention after sweeping the grave, and never visit relatives and friends.
Taboo four, no going home empty-handed.
Before sweeping the grave, people usually bring some tributes to the grave. At other times, we can go home empty-handed. However, after Tomb-Sweeping Day visited the grave, he must not take a handful of soil home from each side of the grave. According to the old man, this means that future generations can get the blessing of their ancestors and the meaning of longevity.
Taboo five, it is forbidden to wear red and green into the grave.
Now Tomb-Sweeping Day is a good time for people to travel, but in the past, Tomb-Sweeping Day was a solemn festival to remember their ancestors. Therefore, when Tomb-Sweeping Day goes to the grave, he must be solemn and dignified. He should not wear bright clothes or fancy jewelry, and he should not make noise or take photos when sweeping the grave. Such behavior is a sign of disrespect for ancestors.