What if there is a grave in front of the house and others don't move?
This phenomenon often occurs in rural areas. People buried their ancestors' graves for several years or even decades, and then built farmhouses in front of or behind the graves. Later, the owners of the graves were asked to remove the buried ancestral graves. This phenomenon often occurs in rural areas. Under normal circumstances, the following methods are adopted.
first, the grave comes first, and the house is built later, so the deceased should be given priority. If the tomb has been buried for several years or decades, or even hundreds of years, it will neither affect the construction of new countryside nor affect the appearance of villages, and it should be regarded as a reasonable and legal cemetery. Later, if a farmer is willing to build a house before or after the grave and asks for the relocation of the buried grave, it should be regarded as unreasonable and the requirements of laws and regulations, and it should be regarded as an invalid request, and the local competent department will not agree, nor will the cemetery owner agree. In this case, we should put the dead first. In addition, if the original location of the cemetery is not ideal, and the owner of the cemetery needs to move, but he has not moved, and he is in front of the house, the two sides can negotiate peacefully and reach a consensus to solve the problem. Otherwise, building a house must mainly follow the traditional logical rules, and the owner of the tomb should not be required to move the grave.
second, the farmer's house should come first, and the grave should be buried later, and the opinions of the owner should be followed. If the farmer's house comes first, later, some people in the village are buried in front of the house, and the land in front of the house is contracted by the burial family. This situation should also be regarded as unreasonable and illegal. People who bury graves should take "not disturbing people" as the basic principle, and should choose a reasonable cemetery, which will not affect the daily life of villagers, nor affect the village appearance and public construction. If the grave-digger forcibly buries in front of and behind the farmer's house, the owner of the house should intervene, or seek the solution of the village Committee, and also seek legal protection.
Third, graves are around traditional residential areas, which affects the appearance of rural villages. Where graves are buried in traditional residential areas or affect the appearance of villages, or affect the construction of collective public buildings, it should be regarded as a reasonable and legal requirement to require grave owners to move graves, focusing on the overall situation, the interests of most people and the collective interests.
In short, there is not a perfect law on burial graves in rural areas at present. Therefore, when solving these disputes, it is the biggest mistake to take traditional culture, natural laws, interest relations, logical relations, etc. as the principles, so as to achieve the purpose of calming people down and harmonious society, and not to intensify contradictions and create disharmony.
here, there is a saying: you can ask people to drive away graves, but don't let graves drive people away! So, what does this old saying mean?
actually, the meaning is simple! That is, there can be graves in front of the house, but there can't be graves behind the house. There is a grave in front of the house, which means "people drive out the grave", while there is a grave behind the house, which means "the grave drives out people"!
In the past, I often heard the old people say that "people banish graves" can "positive pressure evil"! Because the family members of the residents pass by the grave or beside the grave every day, it will lead to the "ghost" in the grave to be restless, thus making the "ghost" ask his family to move the grave, otherwise, the "ghost" will often "harass" his family; And "driving people out of the grave" is "suppressing evil"! Because the grave is hidden behind the residents' houses, few people are "disturbing" and "ghosts" will "live" very well. As a result, he will "rock the boat" and in turn "harass" the residents. Therefore, in our place, "there is a grave in front of the house" is not taboo.
of course, different places have different customs. If "there is a grave in front of the house" is taboo in your local area, you should consult the owner of the grave in a friendly way and try to get them to move the grave.
according to you, the owner of the grave doesn't want to move it. Then why didn't he want to move the grave? There must be a reason. According to khufu's guess, the main reasons are as follows:
It is necessary to spend money to move the grave, and everyone knows this truth. But you don't want to pay, or you pay very little. Then, people are reluctant to move their graves. If you are willing to pay enough to meet the needs of the grave-movers, then people will move their graves.
it's difficult to choose a graveyard now. Like here, many farmers will spend a lot of money to buy a graveyard because they don't have one. Because the cultivated land in rural areas has basically been contracted to individuals, it is impossible to build graves on the cultivated land that has been contracted to individuals without spending money. Therefore, the owner of the grave may also face such difficulties. As for you, you should also consider the difficulties of the grave owner. When you need the grave owner to "buy" the cemetery, you should take the initiative to pay the fee. Otherwise, the owner of the grave will not move it.
feng shui is very important in rural areas. Although Feng Shui is a feudal superstition, there are many people who believe in Feng Shui. Therefore, it is possible that the owner of the grave thinks that the location of his grave belongs to a treasure trove of geomantic omen, so he is unwilling to move the grave. If it's really because of this problem, then it's probably difficult to understand the ideological work of the grave owner. You'll have to be with the grave.
So, can you think of some ways to get the owner of the grave to move it legally?
according to my understanding of the law, there are really no relevant legal provisions that can make people move their graves! You have your right to live, and others' graves also have the right to be placed! Therefore, the law cannot help you. Unless it is your contracted land, it is used as a graveyard by others without authorization.
finally, I want to tell you that you can find a way out from our rules. If the owner of the grave insists on not moving the grave, let their grave continue to exist. Anyway, "ghosts" are also afraid of people! You pass by the grave every day, making "ghosts" restless! Besides, people die like lights. There is no "ghost"!
ok! That's all! In a word, there is no such taboo here. Therefore, we often have graves in front of our homes. Of course, if you have this kind of taboo in your local area, you should try your best to negotiate with the owner of the grave and try your best to let them move the grave. If it really doesn't make sense, no one can solve it.
There are graves in the front yard of the house, which is unlucky and broken! When I was playing, I went to see a resident's house at the gourd neck of Dahulu Dam on Jiangxi River in jianyang city, carved the grave tail flat and repaired two rooms. The house was as black as ink, which ruined the owner's house. Afterwards, I asked the neighbors to explain that this person is stubborn and does not believe in evil! It is believed that the grave is "good geomantic omen" and the grave is deliberately dug up to build a house. As a result, for more than three years, the patients died suddenly, and now the house is as white as ashes ... Therefore, if people are in a good mood, they should seek knowledge, and they should not act rashly. If they build a house and set up geomantic omen privately, they should avoid three killings, kill the mountain, and kill the month most tightly, and live in disaster that month, so they should not be careless! ! !
people are born and die, and when they die, they will return to the loess, so-called burial is safe. There are tombs in ancient funeral etiquette, especially the Han people attach great importance to the location, construction and memorial of tombs. Based on respect and awe for the deceased, it is a fine tradition and virtue to protect the grave.
The house is the home of the living and the grave belongs to the dead, both of which are so important. So what should I do if there is a grave in front of the house? The best solution is to move the grave and bury it in another treasure hunt. No one wants to see the grave as soon as the door is opened, which gives people a very pessimistic psychological hint and easily causes psychological obstacles over time. In rural areas, there is a saying that the grave in front of the house "suppresses money" and "blocks money", which is more of a psychological suggestion and gives people a feeling of depression.
there is a grave in front of the house, and the family members will not move. The best solution is to find someone to negotiate. Find a respected old man in the village to help as a middleman, and state his sincerity and hope to move the grave properly. It is better for someone to mediate and negotiate than for two families to argue with each other. If necessary, village cadres can be invited to mediate and witness, and the graves should be moved and the money should be paid. Both sides should show an attitude of doing things, and I believe they will definitely agree to move the grave.
if negotiation and mediation fail to reach a settlement, we can only bring a lawsuit to the local court or arbitration unit. In this case, there must be some witness, material evidence and legitimate reasons for the other family to move to the grave. For this kind of dispute, the court will investigate on the spot to find out the time before and after the tomb was built and the house was built, whether it invaded fertile land and so on. As for the final judgment of who wins the case, it is still based on whether the land occupation is legal and who built it first. If the other party loses the case, it must move the grave.
It must be understood that graves are protected by law. If you want the other family to move to the grave, you must discuss it with both parties and ask someone to mediate. If it is really not possible, it will be decided by the court. The prerequisite is that you must not destroy others' graves without authorization! This is illegal and immoral. For the good of everyone, it must be reasonable and legal.
In fact, this kind of thing is very common in rural areas. In the past, because the rural areas were vast and sparsely populated, some people buried graves on them in many barren hills. However, with the increasing rural population, there are fewer and fewer homesteads, so many people now build their houses on the mountains, but there may be graves in some places. In this case, you will encounter the problem mentioned by the subject. Many rural people build their houses on the mountain, but they have to face a problem, that is, there will be some graves in front of and behind the house.
In this case, some people who build houses may negotiate with some family members of the grave owner to see if the grave can be moved to other places, but this kind of negotiation will often have no effect. Because the deceased is big, since the grave is buried there, it is impossible to easily move the grave, and future generations will not allow such a thing to happen. Therefore, we will find that many rural people will have some graves next to their houses, especially rural houses backed by mountains. This phenomenon is even more common.
We all know that the defense of ancestral graves by rural people is sacred and inviolable, especially now with the construction of new countryside and the acceleration of urbanization, many buildings may invade some graves. There have been many disputes in rural areas because of the relocation of graves. In the final analysis, it is because people are unwilling to move their ancestral graves to other places easily. After all, their relatives have been resting in the ground for so many years. If they move again, it will certainly not be a good thing. Therefore, rural people are very taboo about this kind of thing, and no matter how much money they are given or how to negotiate this kind of thing, they will never give in.
So if we really encounter a grave next to it when building a house, it's best not to destroy it easily, otherwise it will easily lead to disputes and cause some unnecessary troubles. If building a house can't avoid some graves next to it, then bypass it as much as possible or build a wall to separate it from the grave when building a house, which will be relatively better. After all, if there are graves in front of and behind your house, you will definitely be a little cautious. Therefore, we can only think of some ways to kill two birds with one stone to avoid some things, but never use compulsory means to destroy the graves in other people's homes, otherwise it will really cause great disputes.
the living don't argue with the dead, and others don't move their graves, so move their own houses.
In many rural areas, apart from mass graves and ancestral graves, there are few graves dedicated to funerals in villages like those in cities, so farmers will choose sites to bury the deceased according to traditional customs. As a result, the graves in rural areas are chaotic, and there may be graves in front of the house and behind the fields. Some graves are even invisible because of collapse, that is, they become part of the soil and die.
It's unlucky for a cultured person to have a grave in front of the house, but if there are occasional "ghost fires" in the middle of the night, the timid person will be scared to death with only two souls and five souls. Therefore, if we can move the grave in front of the house, the owner will be happy, but then again, what should we do if the other party refuses?
Generally speaking, the relatives of the deceased choose a graveyard for them, and then they open a "golden well". After the funeral, they carry the coffin to the graveyard according to the local custom. Before the burial, the master of the practice will make a ceremony to recite the Deed Document, in which it is agreed to spend a certain amount of money to "buy" the plot, and indicate the upper and lower boundaries in the southeast and northwest, and in the middle, the deceased will be in Yong 'an. This is the so-called "buying Shannachi", that is, this cemetery that "goes up to the sky and down to the grave" has been bought with money, and no ghosts and monsters can infringe on it. Although this is unscientific, this folk custom has been passed down for a long time and is rationally respected.
In addition to the illusory "buying Shannachi", the ownership of the tomb plot will be settled before the "golden well" is dug. In rural areas, when farmers choose a cemetery, they will choose a treasure trove of geomantic omen. If they choose their own site, everything will be easy to handle. If they choose another site, they will get the right to use it through land exchange and purchase. Therefore, no one will bury their deceased relatives in a controversial place. Since the grave in front of the house already exists, it shows the legitimacy of its existence.
For the grave in front of the house, it may be difficult for the other party not to move, but more often it is not intentional, but there are many reasons.
1. It is related to the second relocation and burial. In some southern provinces and regions, there is a custom of moving and burying dead relatives twice. The so-called second relocation and burial, that is, "bone-picking burial", means that after being buried in a new grave for many years, a grave is opened to clean the bones and put them into a jar, and then the burial is moved to a new place for burial. If there is a custom of second relocation and burial in the area, and it is not time for relocation and burial, the other party naturally does not want to move. For this situation, Kaki suggested that we should respect it, wait for a while, and after a few years or more, the relatives of the tomb owner will move and bury themselves.
2. This place is a treasure trove of geomantic omen. In the folk, no matter the rich or the poor, they are very concerned about their ancestral graves. In order to let the ancestors be later generations, the location of the cemetery will naturally not be too random. In the same way, farmers should also choose a land of geomantic omen to build houses, and a village is so big that it is inevitable that the grave will be adjacent to the farmhouse. No matter whether there is a grave or a farmhouse first, as long as it does not cross the border, it will not interfere with each other. It is the freedom of others to move the grave or not, and no one can control it.
3. Unwilling to disturb the deceased relatives. After death, people pay attention to being buried in peace. Once buried, most people don't want to disturb their deceased relatives unless they have to.
The four boundaries of the farmhouse should be based on the Rural Construction Planning Permit. If the grave in front of the house is an old grave, the farmhouse may also occupy part of the boundary of the graveyard, but the other party does not pursue it or does not ask because it is too old to produce evidence, so don't twist and bark.
If the farmhouse comes first and the grave is built later, you should negotiate with the other party at first. At this point, you can only blame yourself for your inaction or lack of ability and let the grave be buried in front of the house. At present, it is a fact that the grave already exists in front of the house, and the other party does not move away, which shows that it has been communicated with it. To solve this problem, Kaki thinks it is impossible to dig the grave, which is illegal and can only be started from himself.