What should I do after my family dies?

Everyone has heard of the saying "being kind before death, being buried thinly after death". But many people still think that the funeral should be decent. It's not for others to see. The most important thing is to respect the dead. Second, you can comfort your family. After all, this is the last thing to do, even if you have no money, you should do it decently. I hate relatives gossiping, so I go in one ear and out the other. After all, everyone's cultural level is different, so there is nothing to care about. )

On the day the deceased died, he immediately moved to the first floor. All the quilts on the bed must be removed, covered with grass and mats in advance. Then I immediately got water (there is a river next to my house, so I took this river, and I told the river god. Wipe the body of the deceased, from top to bottom, prepare a short white coat and a short white coat in advance (most funeral shops know what clothes they are, and the lining worn by ancient ancients is linen), then put them on and cover them with sheets. Burn the clothes at once. Why do you want to burn clothes? It's clothes for the road. You can't go on the road naked. Take away the favorite set of clothes, shoes, socks and underwear of the deceased and burn them. ) Then light a pair of candles in front of her body, and the most important thing is an oil lamp. Take a bowl, pour oil into it, weave a cotton thread into a thread, light it and make a lamp. This is particularly important. You should always look at this oil lamp, then take your ID card and household registration book to the police station to issue a death certificate and cancel your ID card, and follow the procedure.

The next step is mourning. Children must mourn their families, ask them for help, and choose a family member to help mourn. Children should stay in the dead man's room and cry. It is very important that everyone must be sad to come. They often put money in incense sticks and thin bags. There is white cloth in the bag, and we'll talk about it later. Also, be sure to buy wreaths, and put them in front and back, giving priority to children, and then put them in order of closeness.

On the first day of the wake, many family members will come to help. At this time, it is necessary to contact the monk who recited the scriptures, set the coffin, contact the grave-robbing master who looked at Feng Shui, and the master who dressed the deceased. At this time, the children should put all the clothes worn by the deceased downstairs, and there will be family members to help. As long as they have pockets, they should put ingots (fold eight ingots in advance and string them with red rope). At that time, there were many things to do, and many people often called me. I'm really busy, and I can't wait to separate the three bodies. Prepare luggage bags in advance, and prepare the shroud worn by the deceased. Our custom here is seven leaders, which is equivalent to seven clothes, shoes, socks and so on. I'm too young to understand these things and I can't go out to work. My aunt (grandpa's sister) bought it for me. On the first night of the wake, we arranged all the clothes to be burned the next day, put the gold ingot in our pockets and divided it into two parts. We should clearly remember how many clothes, socks and shoes are put in each bag. It's best to write it on paper. The next day, the master will write on red paper and tell the deceased how many things were burned for her. Also, I wrote on it before that there will be white cloth in every bag. At this time, relatives will make filial piety cloth for everyone at home with sewing machines, and children should wear hemp Dai Xiao, hats and so on. )

On the second day of the wake, I was still very sad. The feng shui master who stayed in the wake to watch the grave came. He wanted to write down the date of birth and end of the deceased, and whether his children stayed at home. Prepare glutinous rice, red beans, incense and ancient drawers in advance. Then the master is ready. As long as you follow the master, the child must go ahead and can't look back. Look at feng shui, then sprinkle glutinous rice and red beans on nearby graves, tell them that the dead are coming, and then follow the owner. Then you can't go back.

The master who dressed the dead also came. At this time, the owner will put the clothes that the deceased should wear on the children first, and the shoes should not be white, as usual. Follow the master, walk around, walk step by step with crutches, and walk to the door step by step. At this time, my sister asked my mother where to go. I have to say, I can't come back when I burn incense. Ask three times in a row, over. The host will take off your clothes, and you can't move yourself.

Finally, the luggage will be burned, and the master will burn it outside. Everything should be taken out at this time. Everyone will put Dai Xiao cloth and grass on the ground. Everyone will kneel on the ground, with the child in front. I will read how many things are burned on red paper, and then I will burn my kowtow.

The second day of the wake is the key, because the funeral will be held on the third day, everything should be ready, the coffin should be ready to put something, crutches should be used to call the monks to chant Buddhist scriptures, (and the number of people who chant Buddhist scriptures should be prepared in advance, because two days before the funeral, three, seven, five and seven days after), children should rest early and people should always be awake.

The third day, the funeral, is also the focus.