Who are the people around you who are "just afraid that you will have a better life than me"?

I do have friends and relatives who say "I am doing well, but they feel uncomfortable". This is mainly due to pride and jealousy.

My husband has a relative who has always been richer than my husband’s family and has given him many favors in the past. Gradually, our life improved and we bought a house that was more expensive than hers. Her attitude towards us changed and she never came to our new house for several years. During the Chinese New Year and holidays, when relatives praise her husband for his abilities, she will sarcastically say: "Buying a house is no big deal. They have to work and raise children by themselves, and their lives are very stressful." In order to repay the favor, we give some gifts or money every year. , but the relatives refused.

This reminds me of Mi Yue and Mi Shu in "The Legend of Mi Yue". Mi Shu is the princess of Chu State. She is noble and beautiful, and is favored by thousands of people. Mi Yue was also a princess, but her life was very bad in the palace, and she didn't even have enough to eat. But they were like sisters, Mi Shu often helped Mi Yue, and Mi Yue even accompanied her sister Mi Shu to marry into the state of Qin. But later, the emperor favored Mi Yue far more than Mi Shu, and her sister became jealous. One time, Mi Yue gave her sister a gift from the emperor. Mi Shu's servant said: "Since I was a child, you have only given it to her, but now she gives it to you." Mi Shu and her servant had a look in their eyes. Hatred.

In life, many people "look good to you but feel uncomfortable" because of this mentality. Because they take it for granted that they are better off than you, and now you are better off, which breaks her inner position! The first is that she is not convinced that people around her have shifted their attention from her to you, causing her to lose focus; the second is that she can no longer give and feels uncomfortable. In the final analysis, it’s just a lack of self-confidence!

This situation is more common among relatives and good friends!