Why do people who say cheating are like money dropped in the toilet and unwilling to pick it up?
A person who cheats is like money dropped on the stool. Whether to pick it up or throw it away is equivalent to whether to recover it or not. If you throw it away, you will feel bad. That’s because you can’t live without him or can’t live without him. Maybe you love him too much, or maybe you love his money too much. If you pick it up and feel disgusted, you choose to forgive, but you can't get over that hurdle in your heart. From the commanding heights, you feel that the other person is disgusting and dirty.
Everyone says that cheating only happens zero or countless times. Maybe the other person is discovered and kneels down when he gets home, crying and begging for your forgiveness. As for whether you should choose to forgive, I think everyone has a different opinion. At least I won't. Since I cheated on you, I will go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get the divorce certificate in a friendly manner, and then we can get together and go away. It's time to separate the family and take care of the children! It's not a big deal. It feels like a waste to throw it away. It's not because I cherish something. Money and feelings have to be the same. Money is something external to the body, and things like feelings have been tainted, so why bother?
If you choose to forgive, and both parties promise not to do this again, then forgive them cleanly and never mention it again in the future. You have already picked it up. No matter how dirty or smelly it is, it is not yours yet. Why don't you accept it willingly? That's your choice, no one forces you. In the future, if you still talk about it from time to time and use it to threaten and humiliate the other party, it will be boring and you will not be able to live this life. It shows that you can't forgive at all, and you still stand on the moral high ground and crush the other party. Since you can't let go of this marriage, it doesn't matter. If you get along normally and don't mention this matter at all, the other party will feel guilty towards you. There is a saying in "Love Before Marriage" that guilt is the best way to maintain love.
Not everyone has the courage to pick it up, and not everyone can throw it away without regret. Some netizens on Zhihu said that if you forgive a cheating man, it’s like swallowing a fly. No one is forcing you to swallow this fly! Remember, the moment you choose to forgive a scumbag, you become equal to him.