Today's rainbow solar terms
This is a great drama staged by nature in Tomb-Sweeping Day 15. From trees to small animals to astronomical phenomena, we are all interpreting this spring, with strong colors and profound philosophy.
Now the Qingming holiday lasts for three days. Parents and friends may wish to take their children to nature, watch the performances of nature, listen to the sounds of nature and learn about the dry goods that nature has brought us.
In the first five days in Tomb-Sweeping Day, tung trees began to blossom. Tung tree, also known as Indus, has a very unique cultural significance in China.
Planted buttonwood, attracted to golden phoenix, is from here. In the eyes of China people, the phoenix tree is not only a symbol of auspiciousness, but also a symbol of personality independence.
Pan Zhen has a poem: "Tingting is proud of the frost wind, unlike ordinary peaches and plums." Saints have been begging for wood for a long time, and Fuyang has solitary tung. "
The aloof spirit of Indus symbolizes the independence of personality. Everyone is different. Being different is a good thing and a characteristic. As a person, we must first identify with our own characteristics and accept our own uniqueness.
As a parent, can you accept that your children are different? Can you help your child grow into an independent person?
In the present educational environment, it is easy for us to lose ourselves. Education is younger, education is involuted, the whole person is a chicken and a baby, and other people's children can do anything. My family is not interested in classes. How can we?
In fact, since God has given talents, let them find jobs! , just have no vision.
As parents, we have the responsibility to be that person with unique vision. If we can't find the talent in our children ourselves, should we point to the teachers in the interest class to dig?
Parents spend the longest time with their children. Only parents know what their children are interested in and what they are talented in.
Professor Li Meijin's daughter failed in math all year round. She never severely criticized her, because her daughter really works hard, but she really can't learn well. She discussed with her daughter whether she could take an examination of a major that does not require mathematics. She found that her daughter likes singing, but she is introverted and definitely can't be a singer, so they discussed whether she can be a music teacher.
After the goal was clear, I suddenly took my daughter to learn piano. She was successfully admitted to a key university in the college entrance examination to study music. Now she has successfully become a primary school music teacher, living a happy and confident life.
I thought my daughter could get a score of 150 in math. At this time, she can still stabilize her mind, concentrate on discovering the advantages of her children, and don't beat and scold. Such a mother is really rare.
In the Qingming Festival, the buttonwood tree explained this unusual to us.
It is a surprise when the peach blossoms, and it is sunny when the peach blossoms, indicating that the flowering periods of the two plants are also different. At the same time, Indus is a treasure, and seeds, flowers, leaves, roots and skins can be used as medicine.
Although phoenix tree is not as attractive as peach blossom and is the best wood for guqin, most people will be attracted by peach blossom in spring. Who can see the uniqueness of Indus like the poet Pan Zhen?
If there is a buttonwood tree around your home, take the children to see it. Tell them that every plant has its own value, and so do people. Do not underestimate yourself. We should also observe more ourselves and find that our children are different.
Rats are listed as one of the "four pests" in agricultural production, but in the field of culture, they have been thoroughly remoulded and become a spiritual little creature. In the zodiac, rats rank first, which opens the curtain of 24 hours a day.
The mouse is flexible and smart, because it is alert. It can feel a little noise in the environment and react. This is consistent with the fact that children correspond to Shaoyang.
Our children, in China's traditional philosophy, also correspond to "shaoyang". They are changing, rain or shine.
On the one hand, children are growing up, every day is the same, and there are new changes every day. They are growing and can't stop.
On the other hand, children's temperament is also uncertain. Psychological research shows that children's development has a stable stage and an uncoordinated stage, and they are constantly changing between these two stages. It is this change that has contributed to the growth of children.
In the stage of harmony, our parents must feel that their education is successful and their children are obedient and sensible, but in less than half a year, their children may enter the stage of disharmony, and the child you usually joke about may become their own. As a parent, can you adapt to such changes?
In Where's Dad Going? Mm-hmm, it didn't work very well at first. Among children, he is a crybaby and loses his temper whenever something goes wrong. Dad Du Jiang had to stop and comfort him, lowering the bottom line again and again. To tell the truth, at that time, it seemed that uh-huh was really not as good as Jasper.
But we also saw Du Jiang's wisdom as a father. He didn't make a hullabaloo about or compare with other children, but he was patient and always took care of the children's emotions.
Similarly, Tian Liang did a good job. We saw the little princess who cried all the way at first, and then she became a woman like the wind in several episodes.
These dads are very wise. As parents, what we need to know is that children's current problems and troubles will not be followed all their lives, so they will be anxious if they don't encounter problems, and they will be infinitely magnified and let themselves collapse.
Of course, at the same time, we cannot ignore them. Today's children are incapable of dealing with problems and emotions. Our parents should teach them solutions and help them grow up slowly.
I believe that after several years, looking back, the original problem is no longer a problem.
The ancients thought that the rainbow was the intersection of Yin and Yang, and neither pure Yin nor pure Yang can produce a rainbow. Only when the clouds are thin and the sun leaks can we see the rainbow. And Tomb-Sweeping Day gas, heaven and earth gas intercommunication, Yin and Yang intersection, we can have the honor to see the rainbow.
If we are lucky enough to see the rainbow during the Qingming period, parents should think deeply. Heaven and earth are explaining a truth for us, a truth for parents: the importance of communication and contact.
It is said that parents are children's days, but if the sky is always high, the children's world will always be ice and snow. When winter goes and spring comes, we should pay attention to communication with our children. Only when parents put down their airs and walk into their children's world can communication between Yin and Yang be realized and education can see the rainbow.
Later, I slowly told him that if you want a baby, you should say it, and if you love a baby, you should also say it. Don't let go of your baby's fault, and communicate with your baby more.
Now that the relationship between father and son is strong, I have become a better person. My son wants to be lazy, so he goes to his father. It's really ridiculous.
Psychologist He Lingfeng said: Maintaining a good relationship with children is the first priority for parents.
When educating children, we should not only focus on rules and achievements, but also pay attention to maintaining relationships. Only when the relationship is good will the children listen to us.
The communication between the elders and the younger generation is like the intersection of yin and yang. Sunshine should break through the clouds, and parents should take the initiative to communicate with their children and let them see rainbows at home.
Home is a warm place, a gas station and a children's base camp.
Nowadays, children are very tired in school, have failed and been criticized, so they can get comfort when they go home. In the future, when children grow up and encounter difficulties, failures and blows in the workplace, they can get understanding and guidance when they go home. This is the nourishment of the elders to the younger generation, and it is also the psychological motivation for the younger generation to be filial to the elders.
If parents think that they are strict and do things above others, the generation gap will gradually deepen and it will be difficult to see rainbows in their families.
Laozi said: man should learn from earth, earth should learn from heaven, heaven should learn from Taoism, and Taoism is natural.
The reason is too profound. During the Qingming Festival, nature staged a drama of animals and plants for us, and we were in it. If we don't absorb nutrition and improve our educational ability, wouldn't it be a waste of the essence of heaven and earth?
May we all conform to nature and learn to be good parents.