Why do you say you shouldn't marry a widow, and a widow shouldn't go back to her ex-husband's house after marriage?

Most ethnic groups in China have the custom of avoiding marrying widows. Widowed husband. People believe that her husband's soul will always follow her, and those who marry will be worshipped by her. "Records of Chinese National Customs" said: "Widows in Guangdong are commonly known as solitary pity, also known as ghost women, and people are salty and ominous. I think her husband's soul often follows her, and everyone who marries will be worshipped by her. So, I abandoned it and no one got married again. " ?

He also thought that if he married a widow, he would go to the underworld and compete with his ex-husband for her body. Therefore, marrying a widow is a taboo among the people. Only men who have lost their wives and mistresses do not avoid widows, thinking that the conditions are equal and the fate is the same. Han people are also forbidden to marry close relatives and widows because of incest. In many ethnic groups such as Miao, Menba and Jingpo, the old "transformation" did not avoid the widows of close relatives, often because the brother died and the younger brother married his brother and sister-in-law; My brother died and married my sister-in-law. Menba people can transfer their houses with their parents and brothers and slave brothers, but they must obtain the consent of the woman and transfer them one or two years after the funeral. ?

Different generations have different taboos. For example, the Menba nationality in Medog County is forbidden to transfer houses, while the Menba nationality in Cuona County can transfer houses. In the old days, Hezhe people also had the custom of changing houses, but the restrictions were not strict, and they could also remarry foreigners. Zhuang people in central Guangxi call a person who died on their honeymoon "widowed under an umbrella"; If a man dies after giving birth, he is called "Yuanyang widow"; Men don't die of illness, so they are called "broken bridges". Due to different circumstances, the customs of remarriage of various widows are also different. Widowed under the Umbrella remarried and went out to avoid dressing up.

Jingpo people think that the wife who got through the transfer can't be regarded as the original match, because when she married her ex-husband, she sacrificed a "ghost at home" and crossed the "hut", and she will go to find her ex-husband after her death. Therefore, as a man, it is not enough to marry a transferred wife, but also to marry a real wife, otherwise, she will live a lonely life after death.