What do you mean by taking your name as my name? The expert replied.
In ancient times, when a woman married a man, she needed to add the man's surname before her name. For example, when a woman in wang xing marries a man named Zhao, she is called Wang Zhao. This custom seems to still exist in Hong Kong.
In the past, marriage was mostly based on the words of the matchmaker. The man asked the matchmaker to propose to the woman first, which was called "good luck". After the woman agreed, she handed over the red post with her daughter birthdates written on it, that is, the "Geng post", which was called "paste", commonly known as "paste eight characters". After the man got the Geng Tie, he pressed it under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet for three days, which was called "pressing Geng".
Then ask the fortune teller to calculate whether the birthdays of men and women are harmonious, and call it "marriage". If the five elements collide, they will return the woman's "Geng Tie" and attach some gifts to show their apologies. Marriage autonomy is practiced in the new society, but the words of matchmakers are still popular in many rural areas. Most young men and women in cities are free to fall in love, and some get the consent of their families through introduction, which is called "finding an object".
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After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the marriage customs in rural areas changed, instead of sedan chairs, boats were used. When engaged, the bride price is very heavy. Before getting married, the groom still has to prepare all kinds of gifts. In the last ten years, someone got married by bike.
I like the city after marriage and go out for my honeymoon. Since 1980s, wedding banquets in rural areas are similar to those in cities, where the bride attends the banquet and toasts the guests. Wedding banquets are generally dominated by cold cuts and hot stir-fried dishes, accompanied by whole chicken and duck snacks. Change home-brewed rice wine into bottled wine, about 200 yuan per table.
On the wedding day of the bride and groom in urban and rural areas, parents and close relatives of both men and women will present the bride and groom with "red paper bags", commonly known as "meeting each other".
On the second day after marriage, the bride's brother visited and the man gave a banquet, which was called "watching the tide". Jiashan area is commonly known as "Tongzao Chimney" and Jiaxing is commonly known as "Hanging Chimney".
According to folklore, there used to be a bride who was teased by her in-laws and sister-in-law and blocked the chimney. The bride was criticized by her in-laws for her smoky cooking. When his brother came to see him, he found something strange. He used a long bamboo pole to pass through the chimney, and the flue was clear, vanished and the food was ready. This legend contains the meaning that the bride's brothers protect the bride's position in her husband's family. This custom remained popular after the establishment of People's Republic of China (PRC).
Baidu Encyclopedia-Ancient Marriage