Why can't I find someone?
Undeniably, there are more and more older singles in the world, and the number of both is increasing steadily. The reason for the increase is also very simple, that is, it is difficult for them to find objects when they enter the older age range. We can only let time pass and continue to delay marriage.
So, why is it getting harder and harder for older single men and women to find a partner?
Too demanding
In the past, young people didn't have too many requirements for finding a partner, as long as the quality of the other party was fine and there was a wage income. In rural areas, there is no such thing as a bride price ranging from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands of yuan. So many young people can't find a partner, but the cost is too high.
Nowadays, young people want to find someone with better conditions than themselves, and they don't have much money to find someone with more money than themselves. Especially some young people are influenced by the current idol drama. Single women want to find the object, single men want to find the white object. If they hadn't met it, they wouldn't have found it.
It's too idealistic
In real life, everyone has their own ideals. Of course, everyone wants to pursue different ideals, but now single men and women have the same ideal of finding a good partner for themselves as the ideal of building a happy family. On the premise of finding a good object, they searched in the vast sea of people.
Moreover, looking for an object is too idealistic, that is, it invisibly sets obstacles for yourself, or creates difficulties for yourself and makes you very tired. As you can imagine, in real life, looking for an object according to the ideal, most of them go with hope and eventually return disappointed.
Don't lower the standard.
Nowadays, older single men and women will set a condition for the object they are looking for before looking for an object, or draw a box first and then look for it in real life. Almost impossible. If the other party can't get into the box set by themselves, they will all refuse, even without seeing each other's face.
Some people demand harsh conditions from each other. For example, the woman requires the man's height 1 m 75, or even 1 m 74. Others require the other party's housing to be more than 100 square meters. Don't say anything over 90 square meters. No wonder young people in the last century and parents today are ignorant of their only child.
I don't know where I stand.
At present, some older single men and women have a common problem in the process of finding a partner, that is, they don't know themselves, saying that they don't know themselves. It's not the author's imagination, but that they feel they don't know themselves correctly and ask each other to meet their requirements aimlessly.
For example, some single men are 35 years old, but they want to find a single woman of age 18. Unless men are really excellent, most excellent men have met someone, so many people have similar ideas and practices without self-knowledge. You can imagine what their final result will be, and they can only die alone.
There is no suitable channel.
Some people become leftover men and women, not because they are not excellent, but because they have not found a good channel to find the other half. Friends and relatives around you don't have suitable resource introductions, and even if they do, they don't meet their own mate selection criteria. With few friends of the opposite sex and no suitable resources, I naturally went alone. In fact, there are many excellent and reliable channels to find someone. Just find a dating platform. Don't worry too much. You can't be afraid of being single, but you are worried about taking the initiative to find someone. But be sure to check whether the platform is formal before signing up. It is best to choose real-name authentication. Real-name registration system registration mechanism and professional matchmaker will be more reliable and safer.