Why are mother-in-law and mother always at odds?

First, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is fragile and sensitive. Because of this, many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law dare not accuse each other face to face. It is likely that the surface is harmonious, but the heart is turned over. Both sides who swear can only vent on their sons/husbands, even tear them in front of their sons/husbands and insist on taking sides.

At this time, as a man sandwiched between two women, he must stand up and solve the problem.

On the one hand, we should do a good job as a mother, be filial, dare to "disobey" and not follow the old man when he is confused; On the one hand, we should communicate with our wives in a measured way and seek maximum understanding and tolerance. It is necessary to help the two most cherished women communicate, instead of provoking disputes, otherwise the problems that could have been solved through communication will suddenly become "the wicked complain first" and "the goblins speak ill of them behind their backs".

In most conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we find that either men are too weak to treat their mothers reasonably; Either men are too eccentric and blindly biased towards their mothers, which leads to the escalation of contradictions; Either men just act as messengers between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, just pass on information blindly, but never take some measures to ease or resolve the contradictions between the two sides. In short, a man who can calmly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not let the small dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law rise to a difficult war.

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We often hear the saying, "When you get married, we will be a family".

Really treat you like family? Not really! That's just icing on the cake. Under the sugar coating is the bitter daily life of "relying on others".

We often hear the saying that she is just an old man, so don't care so much about her.

But it is often not the daughter-in-law who cares, but the old people who don't care.

We will even hear people say that the old man is very poor, and his daughter-in-law has to make trouble without reason and bully her with others.

In fact, it's just a smoke bomb. In the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, weakness can never be a mother-in-law.

Am I talking about all the old people? Of course not.

I'm just saying that there are some dramas in daily life. When my daughter-in-law and I have conflicts, I show how weak I am and how compromised I am.

The loneliest thing in marriage is to meet a husband who doesn't know filial piety, violence, mother-in-law, arrogance and doesn't know right from wrong.

You think you can rely on your lifelong lover, and bullying you with others is the saddest time.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the position of the man is very important. If he dared to come forward, there wouldn't be so many problems that couldn't be solved.

As the saying goes, "a big family business", a good man should spare a lot of time and energy to manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The family is the logistics department of a man's career. If the logistics is stable, the career will naturally develop. Instead of not asking, or being a filial mother, accompany her mother to bully her wife.