How to treat Zeng Guofan's sentence "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you"?

Zeng Guofan was admired by thousands of people because he kept his mouth shut. Good at talking, good relationship, naturally have a carefree future; Knowing how to shut up at the right time, knowing without speaking, is a kind of cultivation.

Throughout the ages, people who don't know how to speak can't achieve great things, but those who can do it must have their unique language skills.

A just right word can even change a person's fate.

A person's mouth is his feng shui.

In his legendary life, Zeng Guofan pursued a principle: "Do not do whatever you want, do not do whatever you want".

Some people open their mouths and listen like spring breeze people; When some people spoke, the atmosphere suddenly became tense. A kind word can add icing on the cake to life. Saying something bad may offend a group of people.

Zeng Guofan had a prosperous career in his early years, so he spoke lightly and suffered a lot.

He denounced the emperor's fault, provoked great anger and was almost convicted; He criticized state affairs, offended the whole officialdom, and made it difficult.

After hitting a wall again and again, Zeng Guofan reflected on himself and finally realized the art of speaking. Instead of harsh words, he spoke softly.

People who can talk have their own aura. No matter where you are, you are surrounded by people, saying good things and making good relationships. Everyone is your bole.

People who can't speak always touch the forbidden area in others' hearts, hurting others' self-esteem and exposing others' scars, which not only can't solve problems, but also intensify contradictions.

People who can talk can often resolve the deadlock in a few words and achieve good communication.

People who can talk will give people a very comfortable feeling when they open their mouths. Their gentle and drizzling language always has the power to directly hit people's hearts. What kind of interpersonal relationship you have has a lot to do with whether you can speak or not.

Zeng Guofan's interpersonal relationship is good because he can talk. He has proper limit. If he should say, he should say. If he should shut up, he should shut up.

Language is your feng shui. A word can make a country prosperous and a person's life more successful.

Shut up is cultivation.

"Xunzi" said: "Say it and you will know; You will know when you are silent. " It is better to be silent in time than to be foaming at the mouth.

Zeng Guofan's "no words" stems from this little thing:

At that time, he had just entered the Imperial Academy, and it was in the spring breeze. Once, when he was celebrating his father's birthday, he boasted that his good friend Zheng Xiaoshan had come to celebrate his birthday. Because of complacency, Zeng Guofan and Zheng Xiaoshan had a friction.

The two men had a quarrel, and Zheng Xiaoshan went away in a rage. Afterwards, Zeng Guofan regretted it, realized the disadvantages of verbosity, and summed up his three major mistakes:

First, it is usually too self-righteous;

Second, if you don't open the door, you can say where you want to go;

Third, obviously speaking offends people, and arguing with others, even to the point of inhumanity.

Later, he taught his son: "Since ancient times, there have been two reasons for being unlucky: one is pride and the other is talkative."

Sensitive to things, cautious about words-

Laozi said, "It is better to keep the middle than to talk too much and count too few." Mature people speak very standard and their mouths are locked.

As the saying goes, "disaster comes from the mouth", and the most taboo is to be frivolous and complacent, so that you say something inappropriate, or lie and brag for the sake of boasting.

Because it may bring disaster to yourself, and secondly, it will lose the trust and respect of others. People who like to talk for a while will never achieve great things in the end.

People who can talk are always considerate of others' self-esteem, and they can solve their embarrassment in a humble way when they encounter problems.

Sitting still, always thinking about yourself, gossiping and knowing how to shut up is the highest accomplishment of a person.

Speaking is human instinct, and being able to speak is a kind of accomplishment.

Liu Yong said:

A person who can talk is always the person with the widest mind and vision. Only a broad-minded person can speak kindly; Only a man with a broad vision, his words are just. Only those who are tolerant of both can be modest and put words into their hearts with true feelings.

People who can speak can not only express their ideas skillfully, but also make people accept them happily, so that the communication between people can enter a virtuous circle.

Keeping words in your heart is a person's top accomplishment, which not only shows a person's wisdom, but also shows a person's pattern.

If a person can "talk and know how to shut up", he will win the hearts of the people.