Life Planning Course 1 1: Happy Life

Hello, dear classmates, welcome to my class.

A story about "Are you happy?" The topic has aroused the discussion of the whole society, but the process of discussion is that everyone is scrambling to expose the evidence of unhappiness, and the result is more unfortunate than one. If we define ourselves as unhappy, if we regard our grandchildren's unhappiness as fun, and if we are willing to accept unhappiness, then we will be farther and farther away from happiness.

The following plans are made from eight aspects: how to live a happy life!

First, always feel happy.

Tell a story:

A sad and desperate woman decided to throw herself into the river because she really suffered a lot of misfortunes. First, her husband who had been married for five years left her, and then her only spiritual pillar, her son, who was less than three years old, died unexpectedly. A woman doesn't know why God is so cruel to her and deprives her of everything. She felt that there was no point in continuing to live, and she might as well die.

The woman was rescued by a kind old ferryman as soon as she threw herself into the river. The woman cried and said, why should even the right to die be deprived? So the old ferryman asked her, "Look, you are still young, and you have a long way to go. Why did you choose to commit suicide?" The woman cried to him about her tragic experience.

Hearing this, the old ferryman was silent for a while and asked her, "So, how did you live five years ago?" The young woman said, "Of course it was different at that time, because I didn't get married and had no husband and children, so I lived a carefree life." So the old ferryman said to her, "So, fate just sent you back five years ago." You are in the same state as you were then. You can live a carefree life without a husband and children. "

After listening to the old ferryman's words, the woman felt reasonable and decided to live happily ever after.

From this story, we can easily see that a woman's initial sadness and despair are entangled in her loss. Because she has been pinning her happiness on her husband and children for five years, her emotions are under their control. Once the family broke up, she felt that she had lost her dependence, became the most unfortunate person in the world, and was tired of life.

In real life, such people are everywhere, and everyone is happy and troubled by some spiritual pillars. Presumably this is one of the reasons why the happiness index of contemporary people is getting lower and lower! In fact, people's happiness is a kind of inner feeling. If we always associate it with external factors, unfortunately, your happiness is in the hands of others. Therefore, friends should cultivate a healthy and positive attitude, that is, face the gains and losses objectively and fairly and take happiness into their own hands.

Second, always be grateful to others.

Jane fonda, a veteran Hollywood movie star, is 77 years old, but she still maintains an optimistic attitude towards life. A reporter asked her what she thought of her life, and she mentioned a common sentence in the English church: thinking and being grateful. She said: "A person must know how to think about life and know how to be grateful for life in order to live better."

We always complain about all kinds of disappointments in life, but in fact, we are often the leaders in life, and all this may be caused by ourselves. Don't always attribute all your successes to yourself, and don't always attribute all your failures to the misfortunes of life. You should remember what life gives you, not what it takes away. You forgot the gift of life, so you lost the courage to live.

The British said, "Unkindness is worse than lying, vanity, french kiss, alcoholism or other evil virtues that exist in the hearts of vulnerable people." Because ungrateful people deny life. If you forget the benefits of life and live in pain and complaint for a long time, life will naturally be difficult to be satisfied. They cling to those unpleasant things but ignore the happiness around them. In fact, a person who is indifferent to life, no one will pay for his indifference. When there is only complaint in life, he has actually lost the qualification to get happiness. Only by being grateful for life can life be better.

A poor and sick man, unable to stand the hardships of life, ran to God and cried and complained that he had suffered too many unfair treatments. He doesn't understand why others can eat high-end dinner, wear expensive clothes and live in a beautiful big house, while he has nothing but illness.

God didn't answer, but comforted the man and said that his life would be better. The man was embarrassed to criticize too much in front of God, so he had to leave with a sullen heart. A few days later, the man's life was even more unsatisfactory and his condition deteriorated. At this time, he went to God to ask for an explanation.

He thinks that he has never done anything bad, why should he live such a down-and-out life, and the situation is getting worse. The more he talked, the angrier he became, even a little depressed. God finally couldn't bear it. He told the poor man frankly, "Because you are so good at complaining, your life could have been improved, but complaining made you lose this opportunity."

There are too many misfortunes and too many happiness in the world. In fact, a blind person can feel the light of the world and the warmth of life through hearing, smell and touch. If the blind people are immersed in complaining that they can't see things all day, they will never see the light. If they cling to their lost eyesight, their life will always be in a dark and cold environment. When you see darkness, life gives you darkness; When you see light, life gives it light.

Third, clear knowledge and diploma.

Nowadays, diploma has become a very sensitive word in public view. Many employers attach great importance to the diploma of candidates, and the diploma is indeed the embodiment of the knowledge and ability of candidates to a certain extent. However, the diploma is just a piece of paper after all. It can never reveal all one's knowledge and ability, nor does it represent one's learning potential.

"Knowledge is power" is a well-known proverb. Why "knowledge" instead of "diploma"? Because knowledge is the true embodiment of a person's ability and talent. Moreover, there are many ways to acquire knowledge, and it is by no means a diploma that can be comprehensively summarized. As far as we know, many rich people or successful people have very low academic qualifications. For example, Li Ka-shing, the richest man in Hong Kong, did not even graduate from junior high school. Another example is Haiyan, a very popular writer now, but he is also in the fourth grade of primary school; Another example is Han Han, who is familiar to everyone. He only reads Grade Two.

In fact, real knowledge is learned through practice. Only by continuous learning and accumulation can a person be in an invincible position and thus obtain the happiness of his dreams. For example, thomas mann, a famous German writer and Nobel Prize in Literature winner in 1929, never graduated from high school. Later, he gradually learned through tenacious self-study, thus writing Magic Mountain with encyclopedic knowledge in 1924.

Therefore, never talk about heroes with a diploma, it will only make a person superficial; Don't lose confidence in life because you don't have an ideal diploma. Only knowledge and real talent can help you get happiness. Especially don't lose confidence in yourself. The story of Dr John Horner tells us this seemingly simple truth.

Dr. John Horner did badly in primary school because he was born with dyslexia. But people at that time had no idea about the term "dyslexia", so teachers thought Horner was deliberately lazy or mentally ill.

However, Horner was interested in science since he was a child, especially paleontology. Even if he gets poor grades in every subject at school, he will go to the library to read all kinds of science books as long as he has a long vacation.

In middle school, his accumulation in science began to appear, and he won the first prize in the school science exhibition every year. However, in his study, he didn't even pass the course of "Science" because his "dyslexia" made his memory of words almost zero.

In the end, the most painful and sad thing happened to him. He was dismissed a few days after he entered the university because he was out of the protection of compulsory education. But even so, Horner refused to give up the pursuit of knowledge. He kept going back to school to study various courses. If he fails this subject, he will change to another subject until he has finished all the courses in all universities and research institutes in the school. Of course, unfortunately, he didn't pass either. It took him seven years to get a degree.

At the end of the road, he wrote to all paleontological museums and sought jobs. After many twists and turns, he finally found a job in a museum in Princeton, and at the same time worked as a dinosaur fossil administrator in the Department of Paleontology of Princeton University. Horner continued his efforts to acquire knowledge through the opportunity of serving at Princeton University. Finally, his efforts and knowledge were recognized by the society, and he was finally hired to teach at Montana State University.

Because he never successfully completed his studies and didn't get any "diploma" to show off. However, his real talent and practical learning still touched many people. The university where he spent seven years finally expelled him and made a bold decision-awarding John Horner the title of honorary doctor, and the certifier was the professor who personally kicked him out of school.

Later, Horner was invited by the famous director Steven Allan Spielberg to become a consultant for the famous film Jurassic Park. With Horner's accumulated paleontological knowledge and experience for many years, the dinosaurs in the film can be made more vivid.

In fact, what people value about diplomas is the emphasis on knowledge, because many times, people can't correctly judge a person's knowledge level, so they can only judge by diplomas alone. However, if you can prove your knowledge to others, it doesn't matter whether you have a diploma or not. Ability is the last word. Therefore, when we are still worrying about the diploma blindly, we should think that it is really not worth it.

Fourth, take a long-term view.

God always left us such a choice, a fish and a fishing rod. When we can't wait to taste delicious food, we can only get this fish. When we can make a longer-term plan for a better life, we should naturally choose fishing rods. In fact, we often only pay attention to those simple and easy-to-get happy lives, but ignore the key to a happy life.

Only by seeing further can we go further. Short-sighted people are doomed to pace back and forth between square inches and move forward difficultly. Only by seeing life more deeply can we understand it more deeply. Don't let the illusion of life blind our eyes. We should jump out of the impression trap of life in time. Life gives us what we want, but it can give us more. When we are satisfied with what we get for a while, we are naturally deprived of more opportunities. We have the ability to get more, but we never try to see further.

For example, at work, everyone wants to get a higher salary and climb to a higher position, but if you work only to pursue these things, then you will lose more. If you want to pay attention to your own development, you must first look at and pay attention to the development of the team correctly. Only when the interests of the team are improved can you achieve your goals more easily and your interests can be guaranteed to the maximum extent. When you try to measure your development prospects with your immediate salary, you may miss many development opportunities.

The same is true of marriage. When two people fall in love, they can't just rely on temporary passion and whim, let alone the temptation of economic interests. Life events need to be seen further and more carefully. The warmth and happiness of marriage and love can certainly make people have a wonderful experience, but what will life be like in the future, can two people get along, and how far can marriage go? Have you seriously considered these issues before marriage? People who only pay attention to money may eventually lose their freedom, love and even money; People who get married on impulse may lose their beautiful marriage life and their whole youth. As a folk song in Kazakhstan sings: "Girl! Don't rush to get married, a good lover is still behind, and a good marriage is still behind. "

Fifth, happiness is not far away, maybe right now.

One day, a wise man suddenly said to an old man, "Think about how you spent your life!" " When you were young, you desperately wanted to squeeze into a first-class university; Then, you can't wait to graduate so that you can find an ideal job. Then, you can't wait to get married and have children, and then you begin to expect your children to grow up quickly to reduce your burden; Later, when the children really grow up, you can't wait to retire; Finally, you are really old enough to retire, but you are almost too old to walk ... when you want to stop and catch your breath, your life will soon end. "

A person always likes to pursue the happiness of tomorrow, so his happiness is essentially a mirage, because he will never get it, because "tomorrow" is always on the road. There is a famous poem that says "live somewhere else", which describes that life is not satisfied with "here" and the present state, but places the hope and happiness of life in eternal "somewhere else".

In fact, don't think of happiness too far away, it is now, it is included in "living", and living is a kind of happiness. Happy people can see the warm sunshine in front of them, breathe fresh air and walk freely between heaven and earth.

There is happiness everywhere in life. The reason why we want to explore happiness in the spiritual world of the past and the future is only because we have never tried to discover and explore the beauty in life, not because there is no happiness in life. Since life has enjoyed the happiness of the past, the happiness of the future may not be enjoyed, so you may as well enjoy the happiness of the present with peace of mind; Since life has missed the happiness of the past and I don't know whether the happiness of the future will come, we should prevent missing the happiness of the present. We attach too much importance to the past and the future and are doomed to look down on the present.

Sixth, share happiness and double happiness.

The appeal of happiness is amazing, it can even spread around at lightning speed, triggering a person's happiness to become a carnival of a group of people. Beyond this phenomenon, can we ask: Why is happiness so contagious? And wealth, success and other "noble" nouns may not have such appeal. In fact, it is very simple. Our bodies need to be happy. In contrast, people's demand for wealth, success, etc. It is better to be happy. Therefore, it is safe to say that people are more sensitive and receptive to things that can make them happy.

Henry John Heinz, chairman of Heinz Company, understands this truth. His company is spread all over the world, with more than 200 products and annual sales of more than 6 billion dollars. It is a super food kingdom and one of the famous big enterprises in America. In addition, Heinz's labor relations are recognized as "a model of American industry" and Heinz is also known as "a paradise for employees".

Many people have studied it for a period of time and found that Heinz company is full of shared happiness everywhere. Heinz, the chairman, is more willing to share his happiness with others. For example, Heinz was once suggested by a health care doctor to go to Florida for a holiday because of his poor health. When the employee knew it, he said to him, "You really should have a good rest. Because I am too busy at work, I rarely enjoy a trip all year round. " But Heinz came back soon after he left. Facing the puzzled eyes of the employees, he said, "It's boring to play alone, but it's better for everyone to be together!" Employees soon discovered that Heinz directed the workers and placed a large glass box in the center of the factory. There was a monster in it, and a bold man approached and looked at it carefully. It turned out to be an alligator. Heinz said that it weighs more than 300 kilograms, is about 4 meters long and is 150 years old. "So, does this guy look funny?" Heinz asked with a smile. The employees said in unison, "Fun." Heinz continued: "This guy excited me and left me the most unforgettable memory of this trip to Florida. Please share your happiness with me after work! " It turned out that this alligator was bought by Heinz specially for employees from Florida.

If we are all like Heinz, bring happiness to everyone around us and infect others with a positive attitude, then we will live a more meaningful life. Happiness is the most common and frequently experienced emotional experience. No matter how bumpy a person's experience is, he will certainly taste happiness in life. However, almost all of us have the idea that a person's happiness is only his own business. He succeeded, so he was happy; He is in love, so he is happy; He moved to a new home, so he was very happy ... He didn't know that when he was happy because of his success, his family and friends would be happy with him. When he is happy because of love, his parents, friends and his lover will also be happy because of his happiness; When he is happy to live in a new house, his family, parents and even colleagues will be happy because of his housewarming. To be sure, no one's happiness can only be enjoyed by one person, and "everyone has a share" is the most suitable for it.

Seventh, there is no failure, only failure.

1832, 23-year-old Lincoln lost his job, and soon he will become a politician. Unfortunately, he failed to run for the state legislature. Then, Lincoln started his own business, but in less than a year, the business closed down. He has been running around and going through hardships to repay the debts owed by the closed business for more than ten years.

1838, Lincoln felt in good health and decided to run for president of the state legislature, but he still failed.

1843, he ran for the US Congress again, but this time he failed.

1846 re-elected as a member of parliament and was finally elected. Later, Lincoln applied to become a land official in his state, but he failed twice in a row.

1854 ran for the Senate and failed; Two years later, he ran for the nomination of vice president of the United States and was defeated by his opponent; Two years later, he ran for the Senate again, but failed.

In the end, he was elected president of the United States in 1860, and deeply influenced the United States with his outstanding achievements, becoming one of the four presidents remembered on the "Presidential Mountain".

In Lincoln's life, although he tried and failed again and again, he never gave up on himself and refused to admit defeat. Because he has not given up his pursuit, he has always been the master of his life.

Everyone will face such difficulties in his life, and failure is always inevitable. If a person denies his ability and his ability to get happiness in life because of one or two failures, then he is not afraid to face failure, but close to stupidity.

A person's intelligence may be important, but hard work and courage are also indispensable, and even play a more important role. As the saying goes, "stupid birds fly first", as long as one keeps a correct attitude, even if he encounters setbacks and failures, it is only temporary. Success will come and happiness will knock at the door.

Eighth, diligence brings happiness.

Peter drucker, a famous management master, worked in a famous French newspaper when he was young. This newspaper has a large consumer market and many readers, so it has very high requirements on the quality of writing and printing. Drucker worked hard for internship opportunities. He realized that he had to work hard or he would be eliminated by other competitors. In fact, he did the same, writing hard every day, keeping energetic and serious.

After a period of hard work, Drucker was successfully hired by the newspaper and appreciated by the editor-in-chief, so he was quickly promoted to editor-in-chief, responsible for international news and business pages. By this time, Drucker has actually stabilized his job and position, and does not need to bear great pressure of competing for positions. To this end, he began to relax intentionally or unintentionally, and his work was not as hard and diligent as before.

Drucker's changes were soon discovered by the editor-in-chief. He was very dissatisfied with Drucker's manuscript and thought that Drucker was simply perfunctory, so he returned the manuscript mercilessly and made numerous comments on it. Drucker was a little surprised, but he didn't take it to heart. He just modified and adjusted it as required. Unfortunately, the manuscript was returned the next day and the editor-in-chief was furious with Drucker. He called Drucker to his office, gave him a good scolding and warned him that he would be fired if he didn't work hard.

Facing the threatening tone of the editor-in-chief, Drucker realized that he was in big trouble. Shamed, he immediately ran back to the studio to rewrite the manuscript and stayed up late to finish it until the editor-in-chief approved it. After this incident, Drucker realized his stupidity, so he told himself to work hard every day and regard every day as the most important day of the decisive battle.

The enrichment of life lies in attaching importance to every day. Only by working hard to enrich every day can we make continuous progress, maintain an excellent state for a long time, always maintain efficient work efficiency and sufficient work enthusiasm, and continuously improve our ability and level in a good state. In addition, people with high concentration tend to grasp development opportunities more easily. They are always prepared, so they have a greater chance of success.

Diligence and success are close friends. It doesn't matter if a person's qualifications are almost the same. If you know how to work hard, you can still achieve great things. "Whether you are a little clumsy or brilliant, don't ignore and underestimate the word' diligence'. If you want to achieve greater success, please don't try to achieve it overnight. You should harvest with practical actions and accumulate bit by bit. You know, only by sowing the seeds of hope and watering them with hard sweat can you have a fruitful harvest.

Students, the course is here first, and the follow-up courses are more exciting. See you next time!