People who can talk are smart, and being able to shut up is also a kind of accomplishment.

I once read such a sentence in the book:

"Talking is wisdom, and being able to shut up is cultivation."

in this life, people learn to talk for two years and learn to shut up all their lives.

learning to speak well is a lifelong practice; And keeping your mouth shut is the best feng shui in your life.

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It is wise to speak

There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "Nine out of ten words may not be surprising, but if one word is not right, it will be a wonderful collection."

being kind to others is warmer than cloth; Hurting people with words is deeper than spears and halberds.

so many times, some people win as soon as they open their mouths; And some people, as soon as they open their mouths, lose.

The other day, I met many good friends I haven't seen for a long time at the class reunion. We had dinner, talked about interesting things when we were studying, and talked about the hardships after graduation. It was very lively.

unexpectedly, classmate Wu Qing's words finally broke up with everyone.

At that time, she pestered a lesbian who had just divorced for knowledge:

"Say, you are almost 4 years old, why do you want to divorce?"

"I'm telling you, divorced women are hard to marry, especially when you're wearing a drag bottle ..."

As soon as this remark came out, the female classmate suddenly changed her face. We also kept winking at Wu Qing, suggesting that she should stop.

At the end of the result, she added, "I'm a knife mouth and a tofu heart. Don't mind if I say anything that makes you uncomfortable!"

The female classmate was so angry that she left a sentence, "You are not a knife mouth, you are bad!" And then left with "there are children to take care of at home."

The party that was originally very lively was suddenly dull because of this episode.

Zhu Ziqing once wrote in his essay Talking:

"Talking is not an easy task.

talking every day doesn't necessarily mean talking; Many people have spoken for a lifetime and have not said a few words. "

it is a kind of happiness to be with people who can talk.

and learning to be a good talker is a compulsory course for one's life.

Jing Fei in nirvana in fire is a smart person who can talk.

once, after the emperor knew about the queen's embarrassment, the emperor asked her, "I heard that the queen humiliated you in public."

Jing Fei smiled: "Who chewed the tongue again? The Empress just spoke more straightforwardly. As a younger sister, I really don't care?"

As soon as this statement came out, the emperor added a little disgust to the queen's unreasonable troubles, and at the same time, he felt a little more grateful for her understanding.

The more you grow up, the more you find that talking is the top charm of a person, compared with good looks and extraordinary talents.

people, speaking is instinct, and speaking is skill.

and smart people know how to talk well.

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Being able to shut up is self-cultivation

There is a saying in "The motto of Lian Bi": "Self-cultivation is the most important thing, and caution is the first thing when dealing with the world."

There is a word called "disaster comes from the mouth", especially in the adult world.

Some time ago, Zhang Jie, a neighbor, suddenly sent a circle of friends:

"Talking too much is a disaster, and talking too little is a blessing. For the rest of your life, you must learn to shut up! "

I asked her what happened.

she told me that she got into trouble because of her big mouth.

when I heard this, I suddenly understood something.

Zhang Jie is a famous "big mouth" in the community: you can hear all the secrets of the north family and the close people of the south family from her mouth.

it's not that she hasn't been in trouble because of her big mouth, but she just can't shut up.

I just don't know. What did her big mouth do this time?

"Some time ago, I happened to be there when my nephew and his wife quarreled. At that time, his daughter-in-law was crying and making noise, so I said something wrong with her. As a result, his daughter-in-law went back to her mother's house without saying a word ... "

" Later, I learned that they quarreled that day because my nephew was fond of gambling and lost money ... "

" Now, my niece complains that I don't know right from wrong, and my nephew blames me for gossiping. Now I am both ungrateful and not human inside and outside! "

Finally, she said to me with a wry smile, "In this life, people have to shut up when they should."

yes, life is alive, and it is self-cultivation to shut up.

those who are really smart know how to control their mouths.

As the Proverbs of the Bible says:

"It is inevitable to talk too much, and it is wise to forbid your lips."

I once read such a Jewish fable in the book:

A businessman said to his servant, "Go and buy the most expensive thing in the market."

in a short time, the servant came back, and what he bought was the tongue.

A few days later, the merchant said to the servant, "Go and buy the cheapest things in the market."

unexpectedly, this time, the servant bought back the tongue.

The businessman was puzzled and asked, "I asked you to buy the most expensive thing the other day, but you bought your tongue back. Today, I asked you to buy the cheapest thing, and you bought your tongue back. What is the reason? "

The servant replied, "The tongue is valuable at best, but worthless at worst."

In the Tao Te Ching, it is said, "It is better to keep the center than to talk too much."

if you talk too much, you will lose.

the best feng shui in a person is to know how to shut up.

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Wise man, talk well; Sage, know how to shut up

What is a mouth?

Some people say that the mouth is a ruler, and when you measure it, you can know the quotient.

Some people say that the mouth is an accurate instrument, and you can know the depth of cultivation by measuring it.

I don't know what a mouth is, but after stumbling all the way, suffering from not being able to speak and not knowing how to shut up, I am sure: wise man, talk well; A sage knows how to shut up.

How many people, because of their good words, have become wise men in life-

Faced with "I have two children, and you, Jia Ling?" Type of embarrassing marriage, Jia Ling cleverly replied: "You two children, then you give me one", which made netizens stunned;

When Wang Han was asked, "Who is the elder brother of Hunan Television, you or He Jiong?" At that time, he gave a textbook-style standard answer: "Of course, He Laoshi is a brother and I am his big brother."

How many people have become sages in life because they know how to shut up-

Zeng Guofan never forgot to "keep quiet" all his life;

Zhu Bailu wrote "Talking too much will lead to losing" into Zhu Xi's Family Instructions;

Master Hongyi insists on "Be cautious when you are involved in the world" ...

There is a question on the Internet: What are the best people you have ever met?

A highly praised answer is: "You can talk well and know how to shut up at the right time."

Yes, speaking less is a state, and being able to shut up is a kind of accomplishment.

When you are alive, you should keep your mouth shut, no matter how far away you are from the Jianghu or how high you live in a temple.

You know, being able to talk and shut up is the best feng shui for a person.

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Someone once asked Mozi, "Is it beneficial to talk more?"

Mozi replied without hesitation, "Frogs and flies are singing day and night, thirsty, but they don't listen. Today, when you watch the morning chicken, it rings at night and the world vibrates. What's the good of saying more? Only when it is said. "

Yes, in this world, talking is smart, but being able to shut up is self-cultivation.

it's better to talk less than to invite disaster.

In the second half of your life, may you talk and shut up;

May you mind your mouth and practice the best Feng Shui.