Ni Ping's father Liu Shijie: After the divorce, my daughter changed her mother's surname, and it took 39 years for the father and daughter to make up in tears.

"If there is a next life, I don't want my parents, I don't want my family, just me."

Ni Ping, who is over half a century old, once said this.

I don't believe Ni Ping would have said such a thing casually if he hadn't gone through an unforgettable divorce of his parents and a frustrating life path.

Before his father died, in full view, Ni Ping opened his mouth, but he still couldn't shout out "Dad".

But this is not a painful story. Over the years, there has been a needless reconciliation between father and daughter.

Ni Ping, formerly known as Liu Ping, was born in 1959, a family with both parents and employees.

In the early 1960s, Ni Ping's family was also very difficult, and she had a brother above her.

In order to reduce the family burden, parents leave their sons behind to raise them, send their young daughters to government kindergartens for boarding, and only go home once every few months.

After Ni Ping's aunt told her grandmother about it, the old man who was distressed by his granddaughter stayed up all night. He rushed to the city early the next morning and pulled her to his side to raise her.

Ni Ping's grandmother was born in a rich family with a dyehouse, but she can't read and can only write her own name.

When I grew up, my family decided to marry an unknown blacksmith. However, Ni Ping's grandmother is hardworking and tenacious. After marriage, the originally poor family is getting better and better under the management of the couple.

Ni Ping's hardworking and kind grandmother gave her the first touch of warmth in her childhood. In order to supplement nutrition for her granddaughter who has been hungry for a long time, the old man pawned the silver bracelet of his dowry to change eggs for her, one a day, and finally made Ni Pingyang, who was originally thin, recover her health.

In the words of the old man, it is "growing into a strong growth, and in the dead of night, you can hear the sound of bones stretching."

Grandma's love made Ni Ping have a happy childhood. Grandma's words and deeds also laid the foundation for Ni Ping's strong self-reliance, respect for others and willingness to suffer.

My uneducated grandmother never taught Ni Ping any great lessons, but her every move taught Ni Ping kindness and strength, which made Ni Ping remain kind and upright no matter what hardships she experienced after many years.

At the age of six, Ni Ping left her grandmother and went back to school in the city with her parents.

However, the days when I lived with my parents were not as happy as Ni Ping imagined. My father Liu Shijie and my mother had different personalities.

There is friction everywhere in life, and basically there will be a big fight every few days. Relatives on both sides have been transferred many times, but it still doesn't help. Ni Ping and his brother cried with their mothers when they were young.

Ni Ping's childhood wish was that the family could spend a quiet month, but it never came true.

A year later, my father and mother filed for divorce. My mother, ashamed of divorce, wanted to keep her, but my father just didn't go home, and my parents' marriage finally broke up.

After his parents divorced, Liu Shijie formed a new family, and his mother lived alone with Ni Ping and his brother.

You can imagine how sad it is to live with a divorced mother and two children. In those difficult days, my mother criticized her ex-husband while crying. Mother's tears and poverty left an indelible mark on young Ni Ping.

The word father disappeared completely in her expectation, and the gap between Ni Ping and her father gradually deepened. After his parents divorced, Ni Ping never called Liu Shijie "Dad" again.

Sometimes Liu Shijie comes to give them living expenses. When watching a pair of children want to say something, Ni Ping always runs away.

On one birthday, my father specially came to take Ni Ping and his younger brother to the park to play, but after the whole day, both brothers and sisters kept a straight face and didn't want to talk to their father.

Father sent them home at night. Ni Ping's mother stopped him at the door and said to him, "The children don't welcome you. Don't take it out again. "

From then on, even if the living expenses were paid every time, my father rarely appeared in front of Ni Ping.

Maybe one night before going to bed, the little girl will think of the day when her father drove away mosquitoes and coaxed her to go to bed quickly. When she got up the next day, she didn't have to face her parents' endless quarrels or hide in the corner and cry silently.

My father's impression faded away, and Ni Ping's life seemed to be calm and simple again.

My mother lives alone with two children. Although she loves Ni Ping very much, she still takes care of her brother more.

Ni Ping blamed Liu Shijie for the lack of fatherly love and the "injustice" suffered by single-parent families, believing that his father's departure led to all this.

Liu Shijie couldn't explain the complicated feelings between husband and wife to her daughter. Both parents are gentle and kind people, but their personality differences make them unable to tolerate each other and live together.

The indifference of his ex-wife also deprived Liu Shijie of the opportunity to meet her children, not to mention her daughter's injury and sensitive emotions.

From an early age, I witnessed my mother complaining about my father's "unfeeling feelings" again and again, and the gap between father and daughter gradually deepened. When she was admitted to Shandong University of Arts, Ni Ping changed her mother's surname to Ni in order to make her happy, which also hurt her father's heart.

After graduating from college, Ni Ping was assigned to work in Shandong Theatre.

Because of her good image and temperament, Ni Ping has been attracted by the directors for many times, and has appeared in many TV series such as They Are No Strangers and Syracuse, and was selected as the best supporting actress in the Golden Eagle Award for her performance.

Liu Shijie can see her daughter's efforts and achievements. He is happy and proud of her, but he is also secretly worried that his daughter has become worse. Will he have a chance to wait for her to call "dad" again?

After Ni Ping became famous, he often went back to Qingdao to visit his mother, but he never contacted his father.

Occasionally, Liu Shijie took the initiative to call her daughter, and Ni Ping also had a faint response. Without long-term companionship, the relationship between father and daughter is polite and distant, and often after a simple greeting, she doesn't know what to say.

One day, Ni Ping was going home from work. No sooner had she left the CCTV building than she heard someone calling her from behind. Looking back, she found her father standing under the tree, waiting for her with two cans of shrimp sauce.

Ni Ping was surprised. Her father never told her that he wanted to see himself, but suddenly he came over and didn't know if he could find someone directly, so he waited for a day at her work place.

Ni Ping took his father home, and his father kept remembering with her all the way, saying that Ni Ping lived in her grandmother's house when she was a child. Every time she went to see her daughter, Ni Ping Jr. clamored for shrimp sauce and bought her a lot at once.

The way his daughter swallowed her food was so cute that he still remembers it.

Liu Shijie came to visit her daughter. I wonder how Ni Ping has been these years and what he likes to eat and wear. I only remember that the little girl in my memory likes to eat shrimp paste.

At this time, grandma is living with Ni Ping, which is different from her daughter's complaint. The old man admired the former son-in-law. Liu Shijie personally cooked several home-cooked dishes for him as soon as he came in, and said that he was a "sentient beings and righteous people".

As she grew older, Ni Ping gradually understood the complicated story between her parents. It's not that his father doesn't love his family, but that his personality makes him heartless. After all, he can't force it, and he is gradually becoming less extreme.

Liu Shijie lived in Beijing for two days. Before boarding the plane back to Qingdao, Liu Shijie asked her daughter, "Can I see you when you go back to Qingdao later?"

Father's care finally cut a crack in the ice wall of Ni Ping's heart for many years. She volunteered, "I'll see you when I get back to Qingdao."

Ni Ping, who has achieved something in her career, is also in love.

At school, she met her first boyfriend, Guo Da, who was also a famous sketch actor.

At that time, before Ni Ping graduated, he had attracted much attention in the entertainment circle. At this time, Guo Da was just a sketch actor, and he was not famous.

Because of the disparity in identity and Guo Da's family situation, Ni Ping's mother opposed their relationship, so Ni Ping had a big fight with her mother. In the end, the relationship between Ni Ping and Guo Da lasted less than a year, and then they broke up.

Later, when Ni Ping was hosting a super variety show, he met Chen Kaige who had just returned to China. She was attracted by Chen Kaige's temperament, and they soon fell in love.

Ni Ping and Chen Kaige were busy. After Chen Kaige returned to China, he began to make movies. Ni Ping silently supported him behind his back and accompanied Chen Kaige for many years.

However, Ni Ping's efforts for many years did not get a corresponding response. She has been silently waiting for Chen Kaige to nod.

At the beginning of his daughter's love, his father worried that Chen Kaige had the idea of not getting married. When he called, he often gently reminded his daughter not to be too addicted, but Ni Ping, who was in love at that time, didn't understand his father's implication.

It was not until Chen Hong appeared that Chen Kaige felt sorry for Ni Ping, but left her and chose to marry Chen Hong in the United States.

This shattered Ni Ping's dream. This relationship with Chen Kaige has also become a lifelong pain for Ni Ping.

After the two broke up completely, the father didn't talk too much about his daughter, but comforted her that most things happened in life were unsatisfactory and didn't need to be concerned.

After leaving Chen Kaige, Ni Ping was introduced to her fourth boyfriend, Wang Wenlan. After getting to know each other, we made good progress and met all the requirements.

Ni Ping also started her fourth relationship and announced her marriage a year later.

For her husband, Ni Ping chose to get pregnant at the age of 40 and gave birth to her husband's son with nothing.

Liu Shijie is also glad that her daughter has finally started to live a stable life. When Ni Ping went back to see him, he often mentioned his grandson and looked worried and happy.

As she grows older, Ni Ping, a new mother, can understand her father's concern and feel the warmth of her long-lost family.

Ni Ping and Liu Shijie visit each other more frequently, and take the initiative to care for and buy gifts for their father and stepmother.

However, just when Ni Ping was supposed to enjoy a happy life, fate seemed to set a hurdle for her.

1999 During the Spring Festival Evening, Zhao Benshan said that "Ni Ping is my dream lover" while performing the sketch "Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow". At that time, the camera was given to Ni Ping sitting under the stage with a warm and beautiful smile.

Unexpectedly, just a few days ago, Ni Ping's son was just diagnosed with congenital cataract, and Ni Ping, who was hit again, still stood on the stage of the Spring Festival Evening and brought a smile to the audience as always.

It was not until she remembered her son's illness after she stepped down that she couldn't help crying. She decided to cure her son at any cost.

It's okay. The disease is very troublesome and the treatment cost is very high. Ni Ping's life has been dragged to the bottom again. Fortunately, the family was so concerned that Ni Ping's mother even moved in to help take care of her grandson.

After hearing the news, Liu Shijie called frequently to inquire about the situation, and Ni Ping could only let his father relax.

To Ni Ping's heartbreak, her husband, Wang Wenlan, failed to take up the responsibility of being a father after learning the bad news. The two divorced, and Ni Ping was solely responsible for raising and treating the children.

Liu Shijie was very worried about her daughter after hearing this, and Ni Ping often missed her when she took her son abroad for treatment.

However, at this time, Liu Shijie was old. He was diagnosed with diabetes earlier and soon became terminally ill.

In 2005, lying in a hospital bed, Liu Fu only hoped to see her daughter again and listen to her call her father. My brother called Ni Ping with tears in his eyes. Without saying anything, Ni Ping rushed back to Shandong on the same day.

The moment he entered the ward, Ni Ping only saw a white-haired and bony old man. Ni Ping couldn't help but feel tight and hold his father's hand. The estrangement between father and daughter melted in this grip.

Fortunately, there is nothing to temporarily arrange for treatment in the United States. Ni Ping's mother used to take care of it, and Ni Ping earned money at home to support his family. He can also take care of his father in time.

When his father died, Ni Ping contributed money to take care of him personally.

From seeing a doctor to daily washing, Ni Ping personally served his father. Father and daughter don't have the emotional foundation to live together for a long time, but Ni Ping never complained about these dirty jobs.

In the quiet ward, Ni Ping looked at the old man in the hospital bed, thinking about the difficulties of living with his mother in the past, and finally just sighed, tucked his father in and asked him if he had anything.

That "dad" didn't shout out, but dad should have heard and felt it, because he left with a smile.

Since Ni Ping was 7 years old, she lived with her mother. After 39 years, her father and daughter finally made up in silent tears.

Since his son was diagnosed, Ni Ping has been running around at home and abroad, losing everything for his son's illness. Things have finally turned around. You finally recovered at the age of ten, but Liu Shijie couldn't see it. This is what he has been chanting all his life.

Ni Ping is famous for her filial piety in the entertainment circle, but she declined this honor when she selected the most filial artists in the entertainment circle.

Ni Ping felt that what he had done was what he should have done when he was a child, and there was no need to brag about it. Just like a person, don't steal or rob, this is the duty, don't take it out and praise it.

Ni Ping's life, fate gave her too much pain, but she turned it into another flavor.

She loves reading all her life, and her education for her children is gentle but principled.

From Ni Ping's interview, we can easily see the influence of relatives on her-grandma's kindness and tenacity, mom's firmness and stubbornness, and dad's tolerance and faithfulness, all of which give Ni Ping an example worth learning.

Father is a pain that Ni Ping can't mention, but with more than ten years' understanding, she also knows that even family members who love each other sometimes hurt each other, but that doesn't mean that love doesn't exist.

This may be the reason why after Qian Fan's death, Ni Ping can still face life with a smile and look down on the past.

Now Ni Ping is finally in the same boat through thick and thin, with a happy family, a healthy son and a peaceful and complete life.