Do you believe in Feng Shui? Very annoying ....
The following is my view on marriage. Marriage is a matter between you and her, which is related to your future happiness. As long as you think it's appropriate, why should you care about the thoughts of each other's families? I feel that the old people at home just think it's good for their children, but they forget that the subject of this matter is you two, and the object is them. Now it's their business. Do you think it's a little nosy? Since it is marriage, it is to set up a new family and break away from the old family. So if you want to discuss something with her, it is not for her to discuss it with her family, but for you to discuss it with your family, and then your parents will convince each other. What has become? It is simply more troublesome than diplomacy. It's too easy to misunderstand.
Brother thinks that you should both be weaned. Do what you should do. Don't always go to your parents.