What does the Buddha think about not getting married?
The old monk Miaolian (1922— 2008) is a modern monk. Born in Chao County, Anhui Province, he was born well and looks extraordinary. At the age of 9, he was a child. At the age of 20, he was disciplined in Baohua Mountain (now Jurong) in Nanjing, then entered Lingyanshan Temple in Suzhou and returned. 198 1 After settling in Taiwan Province, under the protection of goodwill, it purchased the site of Puli Temple in 1984 and founded Lingyanshan Temple in Taiwan Province Province. The old monk Miaolian is known as the helmsman of Lingyan Cihang, and he is a great mentor who draws all beings away from suffering. There was also a monk in the Qing Dynasty, also called the old monk Miaolian.
Do you like being an old man under the moon? I like to be an old man for a month, which is completely secular, not a loyal disciple of Buddha. The old man under the moon is to help people fall into the pit of life and death! The boundless method of Buddhism always teaches people to leave their desires, and only when they leave their body and mind can they be freed. How do Buddhists encourage ordinary people to enter the sea of life and death?
-"Miaolian Old Monk's Reminder" on page 57
Speaking of not getting married, I'll tell you by the way! Married, finished, in a coma! There is no way to change it. Only a gentleman can change it. Unmarried youth! Don't make trouble or find a knot! How comfortable and free you are alone! If you are married and want to play the Buddha Seven, your husband should ask your wife, and your wife should ask your husband if he allows you to play the Buddha Seven. Two people tied the knot, and many things were troublesome.
In the past, of course, women wanted to get married and live by men! Now that women are living independently, why get married? You are all good young people. If you have no spiritual sustenance and don't believe in Buddhism, then marriage is of course understandable. People who believe in Buddhism have their spiritual sustenance. Why not go back to China? Go home. What are you doing at home? Go back to Buddhism! How great it is to contribute your spiritual strength to the world! This is the meaning of life.
Man is the spirit of all things! Marriage is only for one wife, and this life is only for one or two people. Is this life? It's so meaningless! People have worked hard for more than 20 years from birth to leaving their mother's arms and going to primary school, middle school and university. They want to achieve their careers, work hard all their lives and finally marry a wife (husband). If the marriage partner is good, divorce if it is not good; Free love and divorce, how do you say this? Alas! Find your own troubles and pains.
Get married. What about getting married? Marriage is painful! How nice it is for everyone to change their minds and learn from him! Reverse the happiness of ordinary people in suffering, treat pure happiness as suffering, and reverse it!
If you get married, don't tie a knot, but a slipknot! What is a fast knot? What is a slipknot? Do you know that?/You know what? The slipknot opens as soon as it is pulled, but no matter how hard it is pulled, it won't open.
-"Fahai Interpretation", page 6 1-62
In order to carry on the family line, it is understandable that people in the world get married, but from the Buddhist point of view, endless suffering is caused by this couple. Therefore, true Buddhism not only says that adultery between husband and wife is not necessary, but also that the righteousness of husband and wife should be broken. This is why monks don't get married. In fact, lust is the root of life and death, so the Buddha said the method of abstinence most thoroughly. You just started to learn Buddhism because of the five precepts! So when it comes to lewdness, I just tell you not to be lewd, just be lewd; But what is the most important purpose of learning Buddhism? That's life and death. Endless suffering is because of life, and life must die. How can we get rid of it? This requires discipline and restraint. Now everyone has come to be ordained for liberation. To get rid of it, it is necessary to abstain from lust, which can be accomplished in Sanskrit; Dyeing two lines must not coexist. With dyeing, the network cable will be broken, and it is necessary to have a clean Sanskrit to live and die!
Words and deeds, what words and deeds can really get rid of for a lifetime? This is the real way for the Buddha to teach us-to let go of love and follow the precepts of the Samoan. Do you know where life and death come from? Six sentient beings are in the cycle of life and death, and they don't know where they come from and where they die. Most people only know that it comes from mom's stomach. Not bad! It comes from mom's stomach, but why do people go to mom's stomach? I think backwards because of lust. As long as I have the idea of inversion, I will be reborn in a daze.
What is reverse thinking? Inverted thinking is desire. People are read from eroticism, that is, the yin body has this desire when it comes to reincarnation. Because there is love, there is love! Love is the root of suffering, and all suffering comes from love. Where there is love, there is life. Where there is life, there is death. It is impossible to live without death. Life and death is a great pleasure! To cut off suffering, we must cut off feelings, cut off love, and never reverse our thinking.
Live if you want, don't live if you don't want to die, and don't want to suffer ordinary people. If you don't live, you won't die If you don't live, you won't die That's as pure as nature. Then I decided to give up lust. Giving up lust is the way to be born. You can leave desire, even without desire and love, you won't get pregnant. Why don't monks get married? Is to practice Sanskrit. Why practice Sanskrit? Just to get rid of the root cause of life and death. Greed is the root, prostitution is the life; Because of greed, there is the fate of adultery. When fate meets, there is life and death. Because of greed, there is no reason for lewdness. If the truth is different, how can there be life and death? Are you afraid of life and death? Then don't have an evil reason!
Therefore, the five commandments are well observed, and there is no other immoral behavior outside husband and wife. If we cultivate this pure reason, there will be good roots that will be further disciplined by Baguanting; The third precept of Baguanting is not to commit adultery, not only not to commit adultery, but also to break the meaning of husband and wife. This is like the lay man in Vimalakīrti: "Although he is dressed in white, he is bound by the precepts of the Saman;" It means that you have a wife and often practice Sanskrit. "Brahma is an Indian word," Brahma "means purity; Although lovers can't do lovers' things, they are not defiled in the mud like monks. This is not prostitution. Breaking the three evils can be enough for life and death. This is the true way of Buddhism, understand?
What about Brahma's works? Still alive! What life? Lotus metaplasia, lotus metaplasia is pure body! Don't think, "If everyone becomes a monk, wouldn't the world be extinct without husband and wife?" What is this inferior concept? If you don't get married, there will be no troubles in the world; Practice Sanskrit, and everyone in the world will become a lotus in the future. This is the Buddha country, the purest! Don't confuse cause and effect.
According to Buddhism, men and women who are unmarried and chaste, even if they don't smell Buddhism, will still ascend to heaven-Brahma in heaven. Brahma has no desire for men and women, but he is still in the realm of desire. Brahma's sentient beings are pure flesh, without the desire of husband and wife; Of course, none of the three realms is true. As the saying goes, "Three realms without security are like a burning house", so you must leave the three realms in practice. Abide by the five precepts, do not commit adultery, only keep in good health, do not commit adultery, can we really live and die.
Five precepts are good teachers, pp. 39-42.
Where does the pain come from? Love, gratitude and resentment are all bitter. Love without disrespect, love without shame; You are not satisfied with my love, and you want to deepen it, but you are not satisfied with deepening it. Love is deep, struggle is broken, resentment is deep, and karma is blocked. Look at many men and women in the world. "You said you wanted to get engaged to me today, but you married someone else tomorrow. You dumped me! I can fight with you; If I can't beat it, I will jump off the building and commit suicide! " This is the world. It's unfair. Haven't you seen a living example before?
-Past 5 1-52 pages.
Speaking of wanting to live in the west, who doesn't want to live in Buddhism? Everyone wants to have a good life and be happy! However, there is another important problem here: desire has two meanings, one is to be glad to live in the west, and the other is to be tired of leaving this world. Secular desires, all fame and fortune are really terrible, and I hate leaving it! No matter what you love, it's magic-magic that kills you physically, mentally and physically. You still think it is so good that you can't bear to part with it, saying that we will grow old together, be together and die together. We can never get tired of seeing all this in the world. How can we live in the West? Therefore, it is important to hate separation before reaching a decision to live in the west.
There is more important psychology. If you want to be born in the west, you can't be greedy for this world. You can only eliminate the old merchants with fate, but you can't recreate the world. We should wholeheartedly respect the practice of Buddhism and support the three treasures of Buddhism and Buddhism.
-"Fahai Dispelling Doubts" on page 33-34.
Practicing Sanskrit, the secular world generally thinks: how to overcome it physically? Lust-hungry people have this idea of inferiority. Of course, this is an innate habit. It is difficult for you not to smoke or drink, because you are an acquired addiction to alcohol and tobacco, not to mention an innate habit. But people who never drink have no idea what it's like to drink. All behavior habits are good. How happy this is! Secular people think that smoking is happy, drinking is happy and gambling is happy; You know, this kind of happiness is the root of pain, which not only hurts your career, but also demeans your personality. You only know the joy of lust, but you don't know that there is happiness without lust. You didn't dream about these pleasures. How do you know if you don't practice? Practicing Buddhism is the real happiness! Only stupid people think that desire is happiness.
I often say: laymen, if their children are older, they are about the same age, and husband and wife are Taoist friends, so it is best to divide the house; There are not many rooms, at least separate beds. Keeping each other clean can make you healthy, and don't make your troubles worse. Young people are lucky enough to learn Buddhism, free from social pollution and love, and clear-headed. At this time, it is best to practice Buddhism. Never have the idea that men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside. Don't come to the Dojo and want to find a couple. If you are unfortunate enough to have love, it is difficult for you to recite Buddha; As soon as men and women get married, they fall in love with emotions and want to cultivate them? Many family obstacles have tied you down. It is best not to get married and get into trouble! This is a bit unnatural, but this is talking about Buddhism! You can't listen with vulgar psychology!
How can I beat her? There is a kind of "greedy and unclean view of all beings" in the five-stop mind view of least square method. Look at the uncleanness of your body. It's full of nine kinds of uncleanness. It's just a leather bag. The skin has been uncovered. What's inside? You are so stupid that you think it is pure. We Buddhists don't have to have this view, how can we give up our desires? The simplest and most powerful treatment is to hold the name of Guanyin Bodhisattva. Pumenpin clearly tells us: "sentient beings, if more than lust, will be separated from lust if they always respect avalokitesvara." Not only can you break your virginity, but you can also break your anger and break your delusion. Three poisons are broken, just like bombs. If gunpowder is removed, it won't explode. Without the three poisons in my heart, I will never commit adultery again
Goode also warned us: "When you leave the heart of chanting Buddha for a moment, there are three reasons." Without the holy name of Buddha and Bodhisattva in mind, greed is the root of life and death. Of course, it is only a matter of time before an ordinary man gives up prostitution and then takes precautions. People with heavy karma should think deeply about the suffering of hell and be bodhi. The Tibetan scriptures say: there is an iron bed in hell, where one person sleeps well and many people sleep well; And red-hot copper columns. What is that? Men and women love to sleep in bed, and when they go to hell in the future, they will sleep in an iron bed of fire; Happy huggers go to hell to hug the bronze pillars of rise of the legend. The lust of men and women other than husband and wife is absolutely not greedy, and a greedy love causes three reasons; Friction generates heat, which feels like three causes, and the cause is like this. Prostitution is the root of life and death, and ordinary people are extremely guilty about it, so we should pay attention to it! Don't be polluted!
Ananda once asked the Buddha what he thought of lust. The Buddha said to Ananda, "Think of the elderly as mothers, sisters, sisters and children. Take care of your life and stop evil thoughts. " If you can think like this, there will be no evil thoughts. With evil thoughts, I immediately think of my parents, brothers and sisters in front. How dare I do obscene things?
Buddha's mercy tells us to let go of our desires so that we won't suffer from the cycle of life and death! Stupid people think that desire is happiness; It's like being burned by a fire. Rub it with refreshing medicine, and it feels quite cool. Love between men and women burns like fire. If you get the desire for water, you think it's fun, but will it be all right after the desire? That's not true. If you want salt water, the more you drink, the more thirsty you are. How does salt water quench thirst? In the last days of France, if all sentient beings want to leave their desires, they will read "There is no great compassion in the south, Guanyin Bodhisattva". This holy name is like detergent, and the love between men and women is like grease; Say the holy name and remove the grease, and your heart will be clean. Pure body and mind is true happiness!
People who live at home should know that the way of husband and wife is ancestral hall, but they should also have manners, and they should not indulge themselves or be frivolous. With children, it is best to sleep in separate rooms to protect your health, which is also valuable for health and wisdom. If there is external infection, read the following ancient poems:
Beauty loves more, and heaven can't cheat.
I don't commit adultery. Who dares to dye my wife?
Advise all men and women to stand on their own feet and observe the ceremony, and don't be confused by one thought and suffer for life.
-The Five Commandments are Teachers, pp. 42-46.
Man and heaven and earth are called three talents together, and after becoming a monk, they can also be called three treasures together with Buddhism and Dharma. How noble people are! Ordinary people, on the other hand, turn their delusions about life upside down, which makes them mean, and they simply forget that they are individuals. It doesn't matter if others drag you to do evil or give you trouble! Just say "Amitabha". But I am afraid that people will be addicted to love if they are kind to you; With this water of love, it is as slippery as spring rain and as bumpy and dangerous as a gravel road.
Therefore, we ordinary people must break through the emotional barrier. If this barrier is not broken, life and death will be difficult! The essence of life and death lies in dyeing. What should we dye? It has five desires. Learning Buddhism is a gentleman's business. For the love between men and women, we should use the diamond sword to cut it. If you want to cut off love, you can't break it. As long as there is a trace of love, it will be bound. Who tied you up? It's yourself!
This mutual affection not only refers to the mutual affection between men and women, but if you really want to get rid of life and death and there are no obstacles on Bodhi Avenue, I will tell you honestly that even the mutual affection between parents and children should be cut off. This is from the way of birth, not from the secular point of view; The world is completely emotional, and the world is life and death. If you are ruthless, people will think you are as cold as ice. It is necessary to know that learning Buddhism is beyond the world and is a matter of life and death. We must distinguish this clearly. Don't think: how can it be so unnatural? The love between parents, children and husband and wife should be cut off! You should know that this is standing on the position of "truth is ruthless".
-"Past Lives" pp. 92-93
You have heard of Buddhism and believed in it. You should make great efforts to become a monk! Don't miss the rare Buddhism. Or some people think that "the old monk doesn't know the world law and makes people become monks." If everyone becomes a monk, won't the world be extinct? " Please don't get me wrong, don't measure it with secular heart. I am here to encourage Buddhism, encourage all living beings and encourage world peace. If everyone becomes a monk, then all beings in this world will become lotus metaplasia, and now nuns are pure Buddhist countries, so how can they survive in the pure land of the West? The reason why all beings practice pure Sanskrit is because pure reason must be pure fruit and the land must be pure. If you don't leave your lust, when will there be pain born out of life?
-"past lives" on page 59