The realm of life
Unconsciously, each of us seems to be pursuing a certain realm. Realm is actually a person's ideological consciousness and spiritual cultivation, and it is also a kind of cultivation ability. It embodies a person's cultivation and accomplishment. In some ways, everyone has different levels, different heights and different realms, but this is not absolute. I have seen such an article, discussing the realm from several aspects. Personally, I feel very good. Share it with everyone below, hoping to inspire you.
1, the highest state of life: giving.
"If you want to take it, you must give it first." Ba Jin also said: "People live to add a little luster to the society in which we live. People who only care about themselves and comfort themselves all their lives will get nothing. "
First, give help: helping others is not to get a return, but "those who help others will always help others." Zhao Dun was a great doctor in the State of Jin in the Spring and Autumn Period. One day, when he was hunting in the mountains, he met a hungry man with a yellow face and a thin skin. After asking, Zhao Dun knew that he hadn't eaten for three days and his old mother was starving, so he gave them a basket of rice and meat. The hungry man's name was Mo Ling, and later he became a soldier of Jin Linggong. On one occasion, Jin Linggong tried to kill him, but in the battle, the spirit needed to stop his men in turn so that he could escape.
Interview with the Book of Rites says: "A gentleman is a noble person, who belittles himself and puts others before himself." When you are alive, you should know how to put yourself in front of others and help others. Help is icing on the cake and timely help; Help is to help the crisis, but also out of kindness; Help is kindness from the heart, and it is also the wisdom of fools. A person's value is not reflected by wealth and status, but by how much help he has given others.
Second, give respect: In a TV program, the host Dong Qing interviewed Mr. Xu Yuanchong, who was too old to sit still. In order to communicate with the old man better, Dong Qing knelt down to ask questions and listened attentively to the old man. Dong Qing's kneeling picture is the best annotation to respect others, and it has won the praise of Chinese people. As the saying goes, those who respect others will always respect others.
Xunzi said: "The benevolent will respect others." Respect for others is a virtue, and a true gentleman knows how to give respect to others. Respect the privacy of others and don't talk behind their backs; Respect other people's shortcomings, don't laugh for fun; Respect other people's shortcomings and don't despise criticism.
Third, gratitude: "Grateful people, the whole world is bright." Life is between heaven and earth, and we enjoy the benefits all the time. Thanksgiving, let us know how to cherish everything; Thanksgiving parents, give us life; Thanksgiving life, every day is a new life.
Gratitude is a positive attitude towards life and a beautiful feeling. Only gratitude can double happiness; Only by being grateful can we be satisfied. With gratitude, life can be nourished; With gratitude, life can shine. Giving is a noble quality and a realm of life. It seems to be a touch of sunrise, which brings hope and light to people.
2. The highest state of happiness: light.
In psychology, there is a famous Festinger rule:
65,438+00% of events in life are made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by your reaction to things.
The attitude towards things often affects our later life.
Although we can't decide our situation, we can change our mentality first.
The life of Wanying Guo, a famous woman in the Republic of China, can be described by two levels of differentiation. The first half is flowers and the second half is mud.
Born with a golden key, she has lived in luxury houses and high-rise buildings since childhood, attended aristocratic schools, traveled in a rickshaw and was taken care of by a nanny.
It can be described as luxurious and precious.
Unexpectedly, things are unpredictable.
Later, due to the birth problem, all the property of the Guo family was confiscated, and her life with her family plummeted.
I used to live in a luxury villa, but now I can only squeeze into a 7-square-meter leaky roof room with my family.
In the past, three meals a day were luxurious and exquisite, but now even a bowl of Yangchun noodles with 80 cents can't afford it.
From heaven to hell, many people can't accept this gap and choose to commit suicide.
And she not only survived tenaciously, but also let the miserable life taste the taste of happiness.
Without the precious pets of the past, she brought back two chickens to the children and taught them to take good care of them.
Without a delicate tea set, she served homemade afternoon tea in a bowl.
Even if there is a hole in the roof, she can still smile and say, "on a sunny day, the sun will shine through the hole." It's beautiful. "
Writer Jia Pingwa once said:
"A person's life, whether bitter or happy; Win or lose. What is important is that there cannot be a clear spring of Yue Hui in my heart. "
Life may have ups and downs, but if you have a peaceful mind, you can be happy and calm.
3. The highest state of life: Jane
Forrest Gump said:
"I don't think people's mental maturity is more and more tolerant and can accept anything.
On the contrary, I think it should be a process of gradual elimination, knowing what is most important and what is not, and then being a simple person. "
In life, many people live too tired, just because time is occupied by superfluous things and life is tired.
A truly powerful person knows what is most important and how to subtract from life and live the simplest life.
Haruki Murakami announced his lifestyle in "I talk about running, I talk about writing":
Get up at 5 o'clock in the morning, go to bed before 10 in the evening, and concentrate on finishing important work in the morning.
Keep exercising during the day and deal with housework.
Relax at dusk.
Refuse many invitations to travel or nightlife.
This simple and repetitive life may be boring for many people, but Haruki Murakami has persisted for more than 20 years.
He said that living according to this model, he has worked smoothly and efficiently for more than 20 years.
In this world, there is no free possession, and what you possess is also possessing you.
If you live a simple life, you will have time to do what you really like.
4. The highest state of being a man: thick.
I once saw a question on the Internet: What is a person's best Feng Shui?
Here is an answer: don't forget benevolence, righteousness, honesty and shame.
I'm impressed.
The most important thing in being a man is kindness.
There is a story in Fan's Four Disciplines:
In the Ming Dynasty, there was a man named Yang Rong, whose grandfather and great-grandfather both made a living by ferry.
Once, it rained heavily and the river burst its banks.
Many merchants passing by suffered, luggage was washed away, and money and goods floated in the water.
The local ferrymen took this opportunity to fight for property in the river and turned a blind eye to those who sought help in the water.
Only Yang Rong's grandfather and great-grandfather devoted themselves to saving lives and didn't take anything from the property in the water.
Many people have made a windfall because of this. They secretly made fun of Yang Rong's grandparents, saying that they were too stupid to want money. They only know how to save lives.
However, Yang Rong's ancestors didn't care about these idle words, but acted according to their conscience and tried their best to save lives.
Later, businessmen thanked the Yang family for saving their lives and helped them everywhere.
Not long after, the Yang family began to prosper, and was recognized by the emperor for saving people and was sealed as an official position.
Cao Xueqin said in A Dream of Red Mansions: "As an individual, you should be kind."
Cleverness seems to be tricky, but in fact it is lost in character; Kindness seems to suffer, but it has won people's hearts for itself.
As the old saying goes, a young man is clever, but a wise man only needs kindness.
Kindness is the highest state of being a man.
5. The highest state of love: tolerance
I don't know if you have ever wondered: how does a relationship go from love to marriage?
Bai answered this question in a speech:
"When you are in love, you must appreciate each other's advantages, and when you get married, you must tolerate each other's shortcomings."
Everyone expects the perfect partner, but even the best person will have some minor shortcomings.
If two people want to live for a lifetime, it is important to tolerate each other's shortcomings.
The love story between Tony Leung Chiu Wai and Carina Lau has always been envied by many people.
Tony Leung Chiu Wai is introverted, quiet and likes to be quiet, while Carina Lau is outgoing and cheerful, and likes to call friends and have fun outside.
Two people with such great differences in personality have lived their own happiness and are not valued by outsiders.
Married for many years, love is as good as ever, and married life is a model of husband and wife life.
Carina Lau knew that Tony Leung Chiu Wai didn't like excitement, so he never forced him to go out with him.
In the program, Tony Leung Chiu Wai, who looked disgusted, was the shopkeeper at home, and finally smiled and said, "But I still want to protect him like this."
And Tony Leung Chiu Wai never forced Carina Lau to change her temper and be a good wife and mother.
It is this mutual understanding and the common growth of * * * that makes them go through the ups and downs for many years hand in hand and remain as happy as ever.
A line in the movie "If You Are the One 2" tells the truth of marriage:
"How to choose marriage is wrong, and long-term marriage is to make mistakes."
Life is very long, like is the joy of love at first sight, tolerance is a long-term tireless, holding your hand and growing old with your son.
6. The highest level of friendship: degree.
Some readers asked Liang a question: "What if friends don't treat themselves as outsiders?"
She said that she opened a restaurant, and when she opened it, she invited her friends to eat it for free for two weeks in order to make it popular.
But a friend regards her restaurant as a free canteen, and she is not absent every week, eating and drinking for nothing.
What's more, he invited his relatives and friends to have dinner together.
Although friends occasionally help clear the table and clean up, most of the time they are masters.
Not only bossing the clerk around, but also often saying to the guests, "Please help yourself, don't mention it. My relationship with the proprietress is like family. "
The reader felt very wronged, and wanted to make it clear to his friends but didn't know how to speak, for fear of hurting their feelings for many years.
Liang suggested that if you don't owe the other person a favor, you might as well point it out directly, indicating that it is not easy and useless to open a shop. If you lose this friend, you will lose it.
In life, many people are like this. When they feel familiar with each other, they can be unscrupulous and don't treat themselves as outsiders at all.
In the long run, even the closest feelings will be exhausted in pushing your luck again and again.
San Mao once said, "between friends, there is no mistake."
People who don't know the limit will only bring trouble to people. Such people are doomed to be unworthy of friendship.
End: Life is a practice. May we get better and better in constant practice. May our future practice reach a perfect state.