Why are so many grandmothers unwilling to help with their grandchildren? Listen to these sounds, they are very realistic.
There are many such situations in life. In some families, mothers send their children to and from school while going to work. When children are young, mothers even quit their jobs to take care of them at home. In other families, if mothers want to work to earn money, they will ask a nanny to look after their children.
More and more grandmothers are unwilling to help look after their grandchildren. Why? There's a reason. Let's listen to these voices. Very realistic.
The reason why many grandmothers are unwilling to help look after their grandchildren is because times are changing. Grandmothers began to understand that they had worked hard all their lives and wanted to live for themselves once in their later years. Therefore, they don't want their grandchildren to be a burden to enjoy life.
Some people may say that grandma is irresponsible and selfish, but when you think about it carefully, it is not grandma who should be responsible for the children, but parents. It is no problem for old people to live for themselves. After all, they spent most of their lives worrying about the whole family, and finally survived retirement and were able to live comfortably for two days.
If we take over the responsibility of looking after our grandchildren, there will really be no freedom at all. This truth is also very realistic.
There are also many grandmothers in life. At first, they were willing to sacrifice their time to help look after their grandchildren. However, the parenting style of grandmothers is a variety of problems in the eyes of children's mothers.
(2) Mothers always need their children's grandmothers to look after their children, but on the other hand, they are disgusted with their grandmothers. After a while, the grandmothers were sad. Naturally, they didn't want to continue to embarrass themselves and let the daughters-in-law complain, so they just stopped helping to look after the children.
It is suggested that mothers should learn to tolerate the elderly if grandma is willing to sacrifice her time and old age to help you take care of the children. Even in some respects, the old people's views are out of date, so mothers should not complain directly. It is not easy for them to think more about the contribution of the elderly. If the old people's hearts are hurt by their mothers' improper words and deeds, it is the mothers themselves who are really embarrassed in the end.
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This reason is also very realistic. In our life background, we always hear the voice that children are brought up by grandmothers and obedient and clever. Whose children are brought up by grandma? Look at the way they are brought up, being naughty and so on. In short, public opinion is spitting, which makes people feel that "grandma takes her baby in various ways" and grandma takes her baby in various ways.
Grandmothers are not stupid. Since they haven't started to take care of their grandchildren and public opinion says they won't take care of their babies, why do they have to do something "thankless"?
After all, grandmothers may be willing to help take care of their grandchildren, but they are afraid of contributing and finally complain. It is better to hide from the beginning and live a free and happy old age.
More and more grandmothers are unwilling to help take care of their grandchildren. These voices are also very realistic. Who takes care of your children?
Topic discussion: netizens, is your child brought by your grandmother?