Be a brave man
First, being hard on yourself is the real tough guy.
A fierce person is not a cruel person, but a cruel person is a necessary condition to become a fierce person. Before you decide to be a fierce person, you should make yourself a cruel person, but only if you are cruel to yourself, not to others. Only by being cruel to yourself can you be cruel to others. If the order is reversed, the result of life will run counter to it.
A powerful person is not a cow. A cow means that this person is very powerful or has done something unexpected by ordinary people, which is surprising and admirable. Cattle people are usually the product of the times, or they came into being with the times, and most of them have distinct characteristics of the times. Nowadays, the leading figures in Internet cafes or an emerging industry are generally awesome. But the macho man is not a cow, but a role before he becomes a cow. It can be said that there are macho men first and then there are awesome people. And cattle people may not need this process, as long as the conditions are right, they will be cattle people immediately. Cows are out of reach, but fierce people are plastic.
The ancients said, "Scholars should strive for self-improvement!" You can't be soft in doing things, which makes people feel that there is no bottom line and no discretion. Such a person can't be put down in the eyes of others. For example, I usually look like a peaceful person, I don't get angry easily, and I always look at other people's problems with a normal heart. But when it comes to the company's life and death, I am very determined on this occasion, and even rigidly identify this practice. It is this personality that makes things more effective. In the workplace, I am afraid that others will think you are an easy-going person. In fact, you are really soft. It was also after this incident that I exchanged views with some people alone, but my resolute attitude at that time would be impressive.
The same is true of doing things. You must have a strong spirit. After decades of exploration in the workplace, I have experienced my own highlights and loneliness, and I have also witnessed the sad back when others leave. The glamorous and bleak workplace is inadvertently transformed, and the fierce people who are expected to leave in a hurry overnight, whether they are real fierce people or fake fierce people, actually have several points that cannot be bypassed.
1, look at his ferocity, whether his strength is for himself or for others.
The truly powerful people are much more cruel to themselves than others. He asked you. He can do it first.
For example, when I first joined the work, I was assigned to a first-line internship. At that time, there were frequent power outages in winter, saying that the water level in the river bed was dry, so it was necessary to ensure civil use before production. Enterprises have to work at night if they want to produce, so that those who work in administrative classes during the day will go to work as usual, and individual leaders will follow the workers at night. I was young and didn't get enough sleep every day. I still remember how sleepy I was. Finally got up and went to work. I saw the leader who came to accompany us to work. They were full of energy and stayed with us all night. The factory requires face-to-face handover from 8 pm to 8 am the next day. The workers ran away after 7 o'clock in the morning, and the leading cadres insisted on leaving after the handover at 8 o'clock, indicating that they really practiced.
What a fierce person, you must ask, you can do it first. His ferocity and toughness are also reserved for himself.
2, fierce people, doing things, are generally very determined, there is no possibility of consultation.
Doing things, especially those related to life and death, is generally decided by a fierce person. Once he has made up his mind, he will not change it easily. It's like a general who thinks about how to fight and how to arrange his troops before fighting, regardless of the reward after fighting. False fierce people, at this time, consider how to get away with it. As long as he can get away with it, others must do what he wants. This kind of fierceness actually puts others in a passive position, while oneself is the best of both worlds.
3. Real fierce people and fake fierce people pursue different things.
Really powerful people are often very strict in self-discipline, doing things quickly and speaking slowly. Most people can only judge him by what he has done, which is often inaccurate. To understand him accurately, he must be the result of long-term persistence. A long-term fitness person will not brag about his daily fitness, how long he runs, how long he irons, and so on. You can only draw this conclusion from his abundant energy, strong muscles and well-proportioned figure.
From this angle, you can judge the true and false fierce people. But sometimes it's hard to distinguish between a real fierce person and a fake fierce person. A fake fierce person is a lie. Another possibility is that people who are really powerful may not do things quickly. He works out, he studies, and he insists on one thing. Maybe he will express it and hope to get everyone's approval. Therefore, before drawing a conclusion, you might as well observe and think more, and make yourself a person with intense observation and thinking.
Second, the conditions for becoming a fierce person: respect and loyalty.
How to be a real tough guy? The method is not complicated, just two words, "respect" and "loyalty", but it is not easy to do.
The world is made up of different industries. With the industry, there will be different occupations, regardless of high or low. As long as it is beneficial to human progress, social development and personal life, it is a good occupation. There is a "respect", that is, respect for heaven and compassion, respect for social order and ethics.
On the basis of "respect", choose a career, preferably one that can maximize your potential or talent, so that you can surpass others in a short time and become a leader in the industry. With a career, with a career, you can settle down and be "unchanged." As the name implies, "unchanged" means insisting on putting time and energy into the right things for several years or even decades, without seeking quick results.
Academician Yuan Longping, who just died, is a model in respect and faithfulness. From 1964, he officially marched into hybrid rice. He thinks of himself as a farmer and patrols the fields beside the wheat fields in the scorching sun every day. After the success in the laboratory, for large-scale promotion, Yuan Lao took the cultivated seeds to other places for promotion. China has a vast territory and the soil texture is very different, so it may not be successful to change the experimental seeds to another place. Yuan Lao, with his scientific research team, went deep into the fields, learned about the local weather and geological structure, analyzed and tested the soil, determined the specimens, cultivated them one by one, and experimented for decades, which increased the rice yield per mu in most parts of the country from 300 kg to the present 1000 kg.
One thing, stick to it for a month or a year, may not be a big deal, but it can be achieved by pushing yourself a little. But if it is twenty or thirty years, or even a lifetime, this long-term accumulation will generate huge energy, which is realized through "respect" and "constancy".
Fierce people are like this. Before they became cattle people, they deeply cultivated an industry, turned hobbies into enthusiasm, turned enthusiasm into interest, and turned interest into a career. What is left is to give time to complete the transformation from fierce people to cattle people.