The rules of traditional Chinese culture

"Guoxue" means traditional Chinese culture. However, I have never liked using it. It wasn't until I heard a teacher's lecture that I suddenly realized where my diaphragm should be. I can’t remember which teacher it was, but I agree with their point of view: adding the word “learn” after “Chinese Studies” shows that this thing is disappearing and needs us to study and remember it deliberately.

Is traditional culture disappearing? I don’t feel that at all, but rather I feel that tradition is being revived. Men and women wearing Hanfu on the street, gradually reciting popular domestic products, gradually reviving traditional classics, and an increasing number of classical Chinese and poems in Chinese textbooks...each of these shows the return and upcoming prosperity of traditional classics.

However, I have to admit that the reason why I feel "disgusted" is actually because subconsciously, I think that people know less and less about traditional rules. Especially young people, myself included.

Some time ago, the father of a worker in the company passed away. This old master was a very nice person. Many of our young employees liked him. When they encountered something that happened to him, everyone naturally gave him gifts and helped. . After the entire funeral was completed, two young men came to see him the next day and offered to make up for the gift money for the master. It turned out that they were busy at that time, and the two children forgot to give the gifts to others, and they didn't care, thinking that they would just make up for it later. As a result, an elder sister present heard it and couldn't help but scolded: "Children are ignorant, and you can't make up for the gift afterwards. It's unlucky!" The two young men looked at each other, very embarrassed.

Our younger generation no longer cares much about these traditional rules.

I don’t think this is a good thing. There is a reason why many rules have been passed down from our ancestors to this day. Many rules that seem to be bad habits are very appropriate when viewed from the perspective of modern psychology.

For example, hold a wedding. It varies across the country, but there are a few things that remain roughly the same: looking at the date, matching the dowry, asking for betrothal gifts, seeing each other, inviting guests (treating the helper to a meal), and adding boxes. Some of these points are for men, and some are for women. The tedious wedding process is very tiring. Are there any benefits? Naturally, there are benefits. In ancient times, marriage was a good way to marry someone with two surnames. The more solemn the expression of respect given by both men and women to each other, the more important the family attaches to the man or woman. At the same time, it also tells the other party that this daughter-in-law (son-in-law) is a devoted person. It was obtained at a high price, and the backer was very strong, so the man and the woman would not dare to be looked down upon and treated lightly. The same applies to modern times.

There is another wedding rule that I have personally experienced. When we got married, the rule here was that pregnant women were not allowed to enter the marriage room because it would be bad for the heirs. But there was a pregnant young daughter-in-law on the man's side who happened to go in. Others saw her and shouted out quickly. No one paid attention at that time, only my mother-in-law muttered a few words. Then I got pregnant and had a baby. I was discharged from the hospital twice without success because the baby was born with high jaundice. I was discharged from the maternal and child hospital and was directly admitted to the children's ward for ten days.

Afterwards, my mother-in-law quietly told me that the little daughter-in-law who entered the marriage room was also uncomfortable when she gave birth to the baby, and she stayed in the hospital for more than a month before being discharged.

If this is the only thing, it might be a coincidence. However, when my friend got married, he was also a young man who did not understand the situation. When he was pregnant, he went to someone else's wedding room, and both of them were hospitalized again.

This is not a feudal superstition, but a rule passed down from our ancestors through many experiences. As for why this is so, no one knows, just like why our ancient ancestors knew that the universe is black? Do you know the meridians and acupuncture of traditional Chinese medicine? Do you know the metaphysics of Feng Shui?

I don’t think this is a bad thing either. Because China’s history is too long, there are too many rules, good and bad essences and dross, which makes people very annoying. In today's pursuit of efficiency, these cumbersome rules are not only detrimental to social progress, but also hinder people's happy life.

Once the work unit issued labor insurance, and the last one was to be given to a master. I happened to pass by his window. The window was a bit high and my head could not be exposed. I stood under the window and looked towards The old man called to pick up something, but the old man came under the window and didn't pick it up. Instead, he asked, "You can't go out under the window to pick up something. Please go around and give it to me at the front door." I quickly agreed upon hearing this. , I walked around for a long time, and then I gave it to others when I came to the main entrance. Later, I learned that there is a custom in the old master's hometown. If someone hands something to someone outside the window, it means "ghost" is calling the person, which is very unlucky.

We have a rule here. When you buy a new car, you have to burn incense and kowtow to it, which is called "car offering." When you buy a new car, you "offer" it once, and again at the end of each year to ask for the blessings of the gods. The owner is safe. My mother believed that there were no taboos, so naturally she was unwilling to do it, so my family's car has not been "dedicated" once or overhauled in the 6 years since we drove it.

Having said this, I just want to say that not only traditional classics need to be critically inherited, but also traditional rules must go and stay.

Pay attention to rules, understand tradition, integrate great achievements, create development, be born out of tradition, be rooted in the present, and develop in the future! When Chinese culture is reborn, it is when Chinese civilization takes off again in the world!