What kind of woman cannot be married?
A good woman will prosper three generations, and a bad woman will destroy three generations
As the saying goes: "The rice is half as good as the grain, and the wife is half the blessing." When transplanting rice seedlings, if the seedlings are good, they can increase the grain. Half of the output; if a wife is well married, she will be a blessing for the rest of her life.
In this regard, my grandmother said: Women are the feng shui of the family. If a woman is at peace, the family will be peaceful, if the family is peaceful, the family will be prosperous, and if the family is prosperous, blessings will gather. Therefore, you must find a good woman to marry.
The nephew was a little confused after hearing this and asked: "What kind of woman is a good woman? If she is good-looking and has good genes, it will be good for the next generation. This is the age of appearance."
Grandma smiled and said:
Marry a wife with virtue, not beauty. A good woman is not about beauty, but her heart; a good wife is not about her appearance, but her heart.
Here, my grandma earnestly warned her nephew about the three signs of a good woman:
Be considerate and reasonable
When the woman is in a relationship and loses her temper, You will have the patience to coax. But after marriage, the daily necessities in life, conflicts with parents, etc. can cause arguments between the two.
In addition, married men have heavier responsibilities and naturally do not have the extra energy to take into account women's unreasonable troubles. Therefore, when you get married, you must find a good woman who is considerate and reasonable.
A woman who knows how to be considerate and understanding is a healer in marriage. They act reasonably, speak appropriately, and know how to control their emotions.
More importantly, she can respect her parents-in-law, know your well-being, and teach her children well. With such a woman at home, the family atmosphere must be harmonious and very warm.
Be diligent and thrifty, and know how to live well
Nowadays, men and women are equal, and the division of labor between "men taking care of the outside and women taking care of the house" is no longer obvious. There are no strict requirements. A woman must be able to do housework and have good cooking skills, but she must know how to run a house.
Wealth is the material security of a family. A woman who knows how to run a house, whether rich or not, will try her best to keep the house in order and live a planned life.
On the contrary, a woman who spends money lavishly does not know how to manage a household and will only squander her husband's hard-earned money. If you marry a woman who dresses up in a showy way all day long, but leaves the house in a mess and ignores her, she will be a waste of money.
Enough trust and love
Trust is the basis of all relationships. A good woman will give her husband enough trust and love.
If you are very busy at work and your wife cannot understand your busyness, is always suspicious, questions the time you come home, and does not reply to messages in time, etc., this kind of life is like being privatized. , no freedom.
So it is said: "Good women prosper for three generations, bad women destroy three generations." Marriage means bringing a woman home as the "new blood" of the family.
If she is a good woman, she is like a lotus flower, taking root in the family pond and bringing a delicate fragrance. But if she is a bad woman, it is like a drop of ink dropped into a glass of water, causing disaster all over.
After listening to what his grandma said, his nephew seemed to understand why his parents were so opposed to his marriage.
Although today's marriage matters are no longer decided by parents or matchmakers. But after all, marriage is a major event for a family and affects the future life of the whole family. It was indeed too selfish for me to decide to get married so impulsively.
Two wives will bring less harm to a virtuous husband, so when you marry a virtuous wife, you should marry a virtuous wife
After my nephew realized his problem, my grandma continued: "A virtuous wife will bring less harm to her husband. When you marry a virtuous wife, you should marry a virtuous man." "Xian."
This sentence means: In a family, if the woman is virtuous, the husband will be less likely to make mistakes.
What is a good wife? That is, you should be filial to your parents at the top, raise your children at the bottom, and help your husband. If your husband makes a mistake, you should correct it, if you fail to observe it, if you are in trouble, you should save it, and if you have trouble with it, you should save it.
A woman plays multiple roles in the family. She is not only her husband’s wife, but also the mother of her children and the daughter-in-law of her parents-in-law. Having a good wife at home will not only allow the husband to have no worries, but will also help him with his career plans.
Here, my grandma told her nephew a story in "Historical Records":
As we all know, Yan Zi, the prime minister of Qi, was short in stature and average in appearance. But his coachman was handsome and tall.
Because Yanzi often sits in the car, no one sees him. The coachman always sat in front of the carriage, looking arrogant and powerful all day long.
One day, when the coachman came home, his wife asked him to write a letter of divorce to avoid being implicated in the future. The coachman was puzzled and asked his wife the reason.
My wife said that a big man like Yan Zi always has a humble attitude and no airs, but you are just a little coachman, but you are self-righteous and arrogant, which shows that you have no ambition. If this continues, it will lead to disaster.
After hearing this, the coachman felt extremely ashamed and began to restrain himself and became humble and generous. Yanzi also saw the change of the coachman. It didn't take long for him to be promoted and became his right-hand man.
This story proves the popular saying: behind a successful man, there must be a great woman.
In other words, a wife who is reasonable and considerate can take her husband's career to the next level. A domineering and vain wife will often harm her husband and even the entire family.
There was not a single word in my grandma’s words against her nephew’s marriage. However, the patient advice made him realize how important it is to choose a woman to marry, and not to act impulsively.
After hearing this, the nephew decided to take one year as a time limit to get to know each other again. But after the woman heard about it, she immediately broke up with her. The nephew was not annoyed, but was glad that he had received guidance from his grandma and did not make a wrong decision.
From the incident of my nephew, I hope everyone can understand: whether a family is happy, whether the offspring can become talented, and whether parents can spend their old age peacefully is closely related to the mistress of the family. Therefore, when it comes to choosing a wife, you must keep your eyes open and be cautious.