In your mood, there is the feng shui of your life.
Some people say, "All human sufferings are essentially anger at their incompetence." Therefore, we will always meet such people around us. They are self-centered, and when they are slightly unhappy, they will be furious. When you encounter a little friction in your life, you have to compete and lose your manners.
There is another kind of people around us. They are as quiet and far-reaching as a lake on the surface, but as magnificent as the sea on the inside. They seem to stay out of the crowd, but their deep eyes have already understood everything.
Some people say, "The weak are irritable as a tiger, while the strong are calm as water." Many times, it is not your IQ or your talent that determines the direction of life, but your ability to control your emotions.
The weak are mostly slaves of emotions; The strong, on the other hand, have super self-discipline for emotions. In your mood, there is also the feng shui of your life.
1. Being in a bad mood is because there are too many desires
People's desires are endless. If we base our happiness on the satisfaction of desires, once our desires cannot be satisfied, happiness will be gone. Therefore, the ancient sages told us that excessive desire is the source of all pain.
Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching says, "Knowing enough is not humiliating, knowing enough is not dangerous, and it can last for a long time." Most of people's evils stem from their insatiable greedy nature, and contentment is what they have "been satisfied with", while Zhi Zhi voluntarily gave up "in the process of obtaining".
The main reason why people are in a bad mood is that they want too many things in their hearts. If they don't get them, they will be unhappy, and if they lose them, they will be sad. Their emotions, like a time bomb, will always be inadvertently touched by the switch, and eventually both sides will lose.
when his wife died, Zhuangzi was singing with drums and pots. When he was about to die, the disciple wanted to give him a good burial, but he refused: "It's not right to eat birds and kites in the sky and ants in the next." You built the best coffin for me because you were afraid that my body would be eaten by birds and beasts, but I would still be eaten by ants if I were buried in a thick burial. Spending money like water is just to snatch me from the mouths of birds and animals and send me to the mouths of ants. Why bother?
At a time when everyone is pushing upward, and wealth, fame and fortune are all accepted, Zhuangzi even looks down on life and death.
Zhuangzi said, "Is there any happiness in the world?" "Happiness without joy, reputation without reputation". Is there happiness in the world? Only by not being greedy for worldly happiness can we reap real happiness; Do not enjoy worldly honor, but have real honor.
True happiness is the unity with nature and heaven and earth, and has nothing to do with material and status. This is great wisdom.
Many people struggle for fame and fortune and work hard, but what's the use of those things that you don't bring with you when you are alive and those that you don't bring with you when you die?
The simpler life, the happier it is!
Second, enlarge the inner pattern, and the emotions are under control
Zhuangzi has a saying: "Those who respect it but don't like it, those who insult it but don't get angry, only those who agree with heaven." People who are respected without ecstasy, insulted without rage, and who know how to live in harmony with heaven and earth can live with ease.
There is a story about "virtual boat" in Zhuangzi Samwood: a man was crossing the river by boat, and a boat was about to hit him, so he swore that the other person was arrogant and had no eyes; But when the boat hit, he found that there was no one on board, it was an empty boat, and the anger just now disappeared without a trace.
what makes him angry is not the collision itself, but whether there is anyone on the other side. In life, when something hurts us, what makes us angry is often not the event itself, but the opposite person!
people's common fault is that they are too obsessed with the immediate gains and losses. However, if you have an "empty boat mentality" and learn to treat things rather than people, you will have less disputes and less leisure.
There is also a story about "Han Xin's leg humiliation" in history.
Han Xin was bullied by the butcher when he was down and out, and Han Xin got under the butcher's crotch. Due to the situation, Han Xin was alone and had no chance of winning. He endured the insult and obeyed.
In the face of provocation, Han Xin didn't draw his sword in a rage, but calmly analyzed it and made a favorable choice for himself. Although he was humiliated for a while, he resolved a crisis. His inner pattern, which was practiced since childhood, eventually accumulated and became the hero of the founding of the Western Han Dynasty, and was known as a generation of "soldiers".
Only by looking down on everything in the world and being rational and calm can we live with ease. As Zhuangzi said: "Do not send right and wrong, and the secular place." Don't always try to explain right and wrong by arguing. When you see someone who is not pleasing to the eye, relax your mind and just laugh it off.
In life, many people get out of control and get angry in the face of sudden difficulties. In the end, the problem is not solved, but they end up with injuries.
People with real vision regard those bad people and things as "empty boats". In this way, we can focus on more worthwhile things and constantly enlarge our own pattern.
people who have a big pattern are not happy and sad, and they are not trapped by emotions. This is a master of controlling emotions!
Third, you can control your life only by controlling your emotions.
Lao Tzu has a saying: "He who conquers others is strong, and the winner is strong". Only by being the master of your own mentality can you control your life.
Zeng Guofan, the first of the four famous ministers in the late Qing Dynasty, was humiliated for no reason because of riding in a sedan chair.
at that time, Zeng Guofan was a very important minister, but because of his frugality and low profile, he traveled in a four-lift sedan chair. In a narrow alley, I met another official, who rode in an eight-lift sedan chair.
The alley is too narrow to accommodate two sedan chairs. At this point, the official inside the eight-lift sedan chair came out. When he saw that the other side was the four-lift sedan chair, he thought that the other side's official position was lower than his, and he was ready to go forward and make a theory.
At this time, Zeng Guofan came out of the sedan chair. When the other official saw it, he panicked and quickly kowtowed: "Zeng's adult, my official deserves to die. I didn't know it was you sitting in the sedan chair. Please forgive me!"
Zeng Guofan didn't lose his temper. Instead, he helped the official up and said, "It's all right. It's really the official's sedan chair that stands in your way. I'll ask the sedan chair bearer to get out of the way. Go ahead."
It is precisely because of Zeng Guofan's strong control over emotions that his prestige in the DPRK is getting higher and higher.
There is a saying in Zhuangzi: "People should stop the public because of running water." A person who can control his emotions can stop thinking, stop unnecessary mental consumption, calm down and concentrate on things, and finally make achievements.
Only those who can control their emotions can keep their mood, be calm, be quiet, be wise, and be wise will grasp life.
In a person's life, emotion determines the mentality, mentality determines the fate, and fate determines the quality of life.
only by controlling your emotions can you control your life!
Conclusion
Some people say, "A first-class person has skill but no temper; Second-class, capable and tempered; The last person, no ability, big temper. "
Emotions are born to everyone, but it takes great wisdom to control them.
Life is a passer-by, so why Qian Qian knot it?
A really smart person knows how to properly place his emotions, find the most comfortable posture to place himself, and find the best way to get along with himself in the noisy world. All eyes are warm.
So, learn to make peace with yourself, make peace with the world, and cultivate your emotions. Good feng shui will come uninvited in your life!