Why do Koreans like blind dates so much?
Parents' orders are inviolable, and "matchmaker's words" are more common-
Korean dramas often have blind date scenes, and they are very particular about measuring eight characters and meeting their parents. I can't help wondering: Korean young people are so avant-garde, will they really keep these customs? I didn't know all this was true until I came to Korea from Changsha and saw it with my own eyes!
I came to a relative's house in Korea, and there was a contradiction at home. It turned out that the eldest daughter of a relative was free to fall in love outside and took the boy home for her parents to see. As a result, the parents were greatly dissatisfied and immediately "ordered" the daughter to terminate the relationship with the boy, which made her cry at a loss.
After staying in Korea for a long time, I have a deeper understanding of Korean customs. In Korea, which is deeply influenced by Confucianism, "the inviolability of parents' lives" is still regarded as the basic morality. Relatives have been arranging blind dates for their daughters. The eldest daughter complained, "I'm tired of dating all day." "Now I can finally fall in love with the last one freely, and my parents don't agree. It's hard to change parents' minds. They will never understand our generation. "
Old people think that young people nowadays are increasingly lacking in social responsibility. They prefer their children to meet and get married in the form of "matchmaker's words", which they think can "find out the details of each other". In South Korea, "matchmaker's words" is still a common form of marriage and love.
In Korea, most parents attach great importance to each other's social status, and are most afraid that their children will fall in love with someone who doesn't know their family background in the street. In Korea, a wedding is not just about two new people. South Korea has a strict hierarchy, which greatly limits the circle of marriage. Child marriage is often the marriage of social and economic status of two families.
Not only that, Korean marriage customs are also very complicated. If it is "love marriage", it is very serious to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend to meet your parents, and there is a whole set of red tape. If parents are satisfied, both parents will meet to discuss how to hold the wedding. Before the wedding, let the fortune teller see if their birthdays "conflict". If you don't rush, the marriage will be settled.