Why do some old people only look for their daughters and not their sons no matter what happens?
1, the niece is meticulous and weak, and the child will be annoyed. In general, women just think more than boys and are more flexible, so finding a daughter is more helpful to solve specific problems. In other words, the daughter can really help parents deal with the difficulties they often encounter in daily life, but the child has been indifferent to this matter. For example, if mom and dad say they are not feeling well, the daughter will look around and do it as a big deal. She can't worry about her elderly parents taking the bus by themselves. She also needs to learn to put down what she is doing when she says a word and wait until the test results come out.
The son may act casually: "Are you sick? When you get old, it should be nothing serious. Just keep it for two days. " If parents often nag or often look for their sons, which affects their son's life arrangement, they may immediately show their emotions. Included in the process of helping parents deal with things, it will also be impetuous.
2. Considering the distance between daughters-in-law. If it often brings inconvenience to children and affects their daily life, it is equivalent to involving the rights and interests of their daughter-in-law, so it is likely to attract their dissatisfaction. In view of some small things on weekdays, I don't want to cause inconvenience to my children, and I don't want to cause trouble to my son unless I encounter something big.
After all, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly sensitive and plays different roles. Although the daughter also has her own home, the interests of her uncle are generally not too heavy. In general, mother and daughter are immediate relatives, but there is always a daughter-in-law between her and her son. No matter what happens, the experience and thoughts of her daughter-in-law should be fully considered first. Otherwise, how can you say that a boy has a family, most of them are only half men, and the other half is up to his wife. If there are differences in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if there is a connection and family discord, it will lead to contradictions in daily life if there is something to find a son.
3, different parts, different levels. There are two kinds here. First, fully consider the different positions of daughters and sons; Second, give full consideration to the different abilities of daughters and sons. Think about the daughter's back, there are also daughters-in-law, and there is a traditional concept of men supporting their families, so even if the daughter's work is delayed, it will not do much harm to their lives.
But children, with mortgages and car loans, have a lot of pressure in their daily lives. If they take frequent vacations again, it will undoubtedly be an invisible pressure. Or the daughter's family economic level is better than her son's, and she holds the mentality of "those who can do more work". In short, she will not shake her daughter's life foundation and there is not much mental pressure.
4. Children are unreliable. Daughters are more talkative, more understanding and caring for their parents. Even if mom and dad agree to do something, they will not be scolded and questioned by their daughters when they run away. In this case, the child can't do it, has been impatient, and has an explosive temper without saying three words. Therefore, as long as the children can be reliable, they will not go to their daughters for a trivial matter, or even the children will be idle, lazy and addicted to alcohol and gambling.
I don't know my life, and I don't have the leisure and energy to manage myself. It is also possible that you can't see the child and can't contact your son. Every day the dragon disappears, and the phone is either on standby or busy, giving parents no chance to speak. Therefore, in addition to parents' partiality, there are also such objective factors, but excessive doting on children is usually the root cause. I don't want to give my son any trouble, but I fully consider its economic development, daily life, illness and human body. On the contrary, I also boss my daughter around. In fact, my daughter is a caring little cotton-padded jacket. This is not empty talk. She is considerate, careful and patient.
In addition, from a certain point of view, women are more independent than men, and many things are ultimately decided by women, and men dare not show all their dissatisfaction. Still in order to make the family happy and comfortable, try not to quarrel. However, mom and dad should try their best to make a bowl of water even, be emotionally eccentric, and try their best to be fair and just in things. Otherwise, girls will feel wronged in their hearts, and then turn grievances into dissatisfaction with their younger brothers (big brothers), causing the relationship to break down. What you do, you should be able to recognize and balance the relationship between children, and whether there is harmony between brothers and sisters depends directly on mom and dad and how mom and dad do things.