Why can't women go to the new cemetery?
Why can't women go to the new cemetery? There are two graves in China every year. Under normal circumstances, women are not allowed to go to the grave, but young children will be taken to the grave. Let me give you a brief understanding of why women in the new cemetery can't go.
Why can't the women in the new grave go to 1? First, the traditional concept of women is forbidden in rural graves.
Some of the traditional ideas of the older generation in rural areas are very reasonable, but some are also nonsense. With the passage of time, some of these changes and customs have been handed down, while others have been forgotten. However, the traditional idea is that women can't go to the grave. No matter in my in-laws or in my own house, even if other families come to Ming Festival, I just sit at home and have a meal to show my visit, and I don't follow my father, brother and nephew to worship my ancestors and sweep the grave. This is what we often say: "When a woman goes to the grave, she stays at home".
Second, female elders are prohibited from going to graves in rural areas.
In rural areas, women don't go to the grave, which doesn't mean that women can't go to the grave relatively. This is an exception in the southern countryside. The customs mentioned here refer to most villages, so don't be too entangled. The older generation thought that women themselves contained a lot of yin, and that women were dirty. If they go to worship their ancestors, there will be conflicts with them, which will lead to their ancestors being restless and their descendants not being protected, which is also disrespectful to them.
Women have been forbidden to go to graves in rural areas, but it is not relative. In order to protect the bride and prevent the collision of "unclean" things, ordinary rural people gradually prevent all women from going out to save the tomb, which is also the essential reason why "women don't go to the grave". Of course, a little girl under 7 years old is absolutely not allowed to go to the grave, because her own material weakness will lead to a glimpse of things that should not be seen.
Why can't women go to the new cemetery? Traditionally, a woman can't go to the grave, whether in her husband's house or in her parents' house. In the eyes of men in ancient China (only for illustration here, not representative of contemporary views), girls are accessories of society, and women born at home no longer belong to their own homes after marriage; On the other hand, a married woman belongs to her family; Therefore, in the traditional custom culture, the family goes to the grave, the married daughter can't go, and the daughter-in-law needs someone to accompany her; Although the daughter is closer by blood than the daughter-in-law, in the traditional moral culture of China, the daughter is an outsider and the daughter-in-law is her own family.
In addition, in the eyes of the older generation, women are considered to be very yin, and women are considered to be filthy people. If they go to worship their ancestors, they will collide with their ancestors, which will lead to their restless, unprotected offspring and disrespect for their ancestors. In some rural areas, women are still prohibited from going to graves, but it is not absolute. Some rural people want to protect women from being hit by "unclean" things, and slowly stop women from going to the grave, which is why women don't go to the grave.
Why don't you go to the cemetery?
Grave-sweeping, commonly known as going to the grave, is an activity of offering sacrifices to the dead. There are many places in China that pay attention to going to the grave, usually on the anniversary of death, the fifteenth day of the first month, Tomb-Sweeping Day, the fifteenth day of the seventh lunar month, the first day of the tenth lunar month and the third day of the first lunar month. The younger generation should prepare sacrificial supplies (including cigarettes, wine, steamed bread, incense, paper money, firecrackers, wreaths, etc.). ), and the men at home should bring sacrifices and incense paper to the grave, put sacrifices and water wine, and then burn paper, burn incense and offer wreaths.
To show the feelings of future generations for the older generation.
Going to the grave is very important. Because ancestor worship and filial piety are tied together. If you don't participate in ancestor worship, you are unfilial and forget your ancestors.
Going to the grave is not only a memory of relatives, but also a manifestation of filial piety, so it is a very serious and sloppy thing. In addition, there has always been a ghost in our country. After all, the cemetery is the place where the dead are buried. There are many taboos about cemeteries, and you can't just go to the grave.