Why didn't the school recommend Wu Zhihong?
? If you want to know the influence of family background on yourself, just look at Mr. Wu's two books, Why Family Hurts People and Seven Weapons of the Mind. Extensive reading of his books is not recommended.
Why?
First of all, the theme of a large number of Wu Zhihong's books is very single, and basically they are repeatedly discussing and explaining a theme-bloodline family.
In addition, these books have distinct Wu Zhihong characteristics, but also have their limitations. From Wu Zhihong and Sydney, including Zhang Defen's books, especially Sydney's books, we can clearly feel that they are not out of the family origin. They still have a lot of emotions about Origin and Fate, so they can't treat Origin and Fate objectively and rationally.
Indulge in such books, people will fall into fatalism, self-pity of family background, pessimism and helplessness, unable to see their own strength, and difficult to achieve self-breakthrough. If a person still lives in hatred of the family of origin, talking about the family of origin is full of anger and sorrow. In fact, it is difficult for him to grow up.
The purpose of review and analysis is to better explore and understand yourself and know why you have become yourself now.
Know who you are. Know why and who you are. -this is the most important purpose of exploring the origin family.
? Although my family background has shaped me now, my future is in my own hands.
Even though family of origin has created some limitations of our own, we can break through and surpass them.
Just like the title of the TV series My First Half Life, which was very popular some time ago, my first half life may be decided by my family background and my growing experience, and we can hardly change it, but the second half life is in our own hands, and we have enough decision-making power.
For a mature person, in my opinion, the most important sign is that he is responsible for his own life, rather than attributing his life to his family background or his parents' limited upbringing.
Many people will say after reading it: I don't want to talk about being born in a family anymore. I know that although being born in a family has an influence on me, it doesn't matter. I believe I have the energy to break through myself.
The injury of being born in a family is not terrible at all. Aware of this, get out of your comfort zone and look forward to the border class and happy class behind. I hope to update my cognition, reshape my three views and be my own parents with the help of the course!
An immature person will think that his family background determines his destination.
A mature person will start from his family background.
? As a positive and optimistic person, one should not indulge in the past and avoid the future. Secondly, Wu Zhihong's book is full of spiritual practice and experience, which is far beyond the scope of scientific psychology. In the past ten years, people's understanding of psychology is largely spiritual practice and spiritual experience. Too many people immediately think that spirituality and spiritual experience are psychology when they mention psychology. In fact, spiritual practice and spiritual experience have been divorced from the category of scientific psychology. Wu Zhihong himself complained about the thinking mode of scientific psychology.
? Although scientific psychology can only explain very narrow psychological phenomena at present, there are a lot of theoretical assumptions and philosophical thinking beyond it that cannot be proved and falsified.
? However, scientific psychology, such as cognitive psychology and positive psychology, which are studied and practiced at present, all use a large number of scientific experimental results to guide the lives of ordinary people.
? Since the scientific way can solve the problem, why should we follow the spiritual experience of "very mysterious, the actual results need to be verified, and there has never been a scientific demonstration"?
? Finally, Wu Zhihong's book is basically about exploring problems, without systematically proposing effective solutions.
In a word, we don't recommend reading Wu Zhihong's books. We advise our friends to read more books and attract the rest of scientific psychology with an open learning attitude.
? Open learning, critical thinking, selective absorption, and finally build the most helpful psychological knowledge system for your life.