Why do you say, "No matter how capable a person is, don't be soft on them"?
Guiguzi once had a famous saying: A soft-hearted person is a person without happiness? .
In his view, a person who knows nothing about right and wrong, but only knows how to be soft-hearted, seems to be very easy to get along with, especially has the spirit of sacrifice and dedication, and is willing to satisfy others. In fact, it is a manifestation of his own cowardice and unprincipled, because this character will only lead him to suffer indignities in his life.
as the saying goes: People are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden? Once you become such a person in the eyes of others, not only will you not be respected by others because you know how to give in, but you will attract others to intensify and push your luck.
furthermore, some people are inherently unreliable, and staying away from them is the best policy. Being too close to them, indulging and supporting what they say and do may also bring you foolishness or disaster.
No matter how capable a person is, no matter how kind and generous he is, he should not be soft-hearted to the following people. The reasons and reasons have been clearly stated before!
A man who broke his word
Zuo Zhuan recorded a story: Jin wanted to attack Guo, but it was not adjacent to it, so he asked Yu, a neighbor of Guo, for help.
The monarch of the State of Yu thought about it, and promised the State of Jin that he could get rich gifts and considerable benefits, get on well with the powerful State of Jin, and wipe out a neighboring country that might pose a threat to him in the future. It's nothing but good! So he agreed without hesitation.
But he didn't think about what kind of personality the monarch of the State of Jin was, what kind of character he was, and whether he kept his word or not, which was the reason why he was finally destroyed.
After attacking and destroying the State of Guo through the border of Yu, the State of Jin returned to the State of Yu, which was open to itself through the border again, and it was easy to destroy it together.
If the monarch of the State of Yu did not agree, he would join forces with the State of Guo, which has always had a good relationship, to resist the State of Jin, or sit on the sidelines, I am afraid it would not be so easy for the State of Jin to kill two birds with one stone.
Therefore, to believe that a person who breaks his word is a stupid decision to make things difficult for himself, find a punishment, and even bring an innocent disaster.
You don't know what this kind of person will do, because the other person turns his face and denies others, and his conduct is extremely poor.
Words differ from deeds
From the political and literary point of view, Zhu Xi, the so-called great sage of Confucianism, is naturally worthy of admiration and respect from all.
But if we consider it from the aspects of ethics and character, in fact, Zhu Xi is a typical hypocrite who says one thing and does another, and his words and deeds are different. He's hitting? Preserve justice and destroy human desires? The banner, did a lot of wicked things.
Just to deal with his political enemy, Tang Zhongyou, he framed an innocent woman: Yan Rui, a famous prostitute.
He heard that Tang Zhongyou admired Yan Rui very much, so he made up a charge without authorization to arrest and torture Yan Rui, hoping to get her to provide false testimony to help him deal with Tang Zhongyou.
Who would have thought that Yan Rui was a fierce woman, but she refused to give in after being tortured. In the end, this incident alarmed the emperor, and as a result, both Zhu Xi and Tang Zhongyou were dismissed.
And he has an unshirkable responsibility for ancient women's foot binding, and he doesn't treat women as human beings at all. In addition, she is also greedy for money and lustful. Besides taking a nun as a concubine, after her eldest son died, her eldest daughter-in-law who stayed in his family became pregnant, so everyone can make up for the situation by himself.
and it is said that Zhu Xi, who is superstitious about geomantic omen, dug up other people's ancestral graves because he wanted to choose a good grave for himself?
People like this who don't live up to their words and deeds are usually very insidious and unpredictable. Get close to them, be hurt by them and be soft-hearted, then one day you will face all kinds of unimaginable dangers.
selfish
selfish people are extremely dangerous because they have no discretion in what they say or do.
if such a person is in a high position, it is simply? A disaster for the country and the people? .
everyone has heard of it? The bonfire plays the princes? Such an allusion: Zhou Youwang, in order to win the favor of his concubine and smile, repeatedly asked his soldiers to light the beacon tower and sent governors thousands of miles away? Rescue? .
As a result, after being cheated several times, when there was a real danger, the vassals no longer believed in it, and thus the country died.
People who don't even know what to do and what not to do are short-sighted and extremely ignorant.
This kind of person only considers his own mood at the moment, regardless of any consequences, and dares to make fun of anything, including the safety of the country and the lives of a country's people.
People like this will never care about anyone or anything except themselves. I'm afraid the consequences of being soft on them are more than just hurting themselves, and the consequences are often unimaginable.
of course, the above examples are all based on the harm of these people's character and characteristics, but it also helps everyone to see clearly why being soft on them is an enemy to themselves.
it is because these people have a * * * nature: they will never consider anything from the other side's point of view, and their starting point will always be selfish rather than beneficial to others.
even sometimes this kind of self-interest is the kind that only cares about the present, regardless of the future, and even hurts itself.
So, once you find these kinds of people around you, you must be vigilant and carefully keep a safe distance. Sometimes when you have suffered from them, you may even lose the chance to guard against it next time. This is by no means an alarmist!