Why is the old saying "Grandson is a dog, eat and leave"?
Because the daughter and niece are half a year apart. Often play together, go to school together, because it is closer. Children need candy, my mother will give everyone one in the morning, and she will secretly give her granddaughter an extra one in the dark. If two people dance together, she will say that her granddaughter's movements are beautiful, while my daughter's movements are stiff and really as ugly as her father's. Sometimes when my mother is asked to take care of her daughter, she will tell others, "Stupid hens hatch duck eggs, and stupid grandmothers take care of their grandchildren." .
There are too many bits and pieces to talk about. I'm afraid of hitting my daughter's self-esteem and affecting her healthy growth. So I don't want her to go to my grandmother's house.
Although my mother is a traditional old man, I still educate my daughter to be filial to her grandparents! I think when I become a grandmother, I will be treated as a grandson. It is wrong not to say whether the grandson is an outsider, but at least different treatment will affect the healthy growth of children.
This probably corresponds to "the water spilled by married daughters".
For the previous generation, although the daughter and son grew up in the same parent, the daughter knew from the beginning that she was raising a daughter-in-law for others. Both parents knew that "raising children to prevent old age", but the daughter could not count on it.
Even if you can't expect your daughter to stay with you, your daughter's son, that is, grandson, by going up one flight of stairs. Didn't you just come, eat and drink, pat your ass and leave? So there is, raising a grandson is like raising a puppy, patting your ass after eating and drinking.
This sentence, in fact, has a deep derogatory meaning and is a derivative of son preference. However, it is obviously not applicable in this era.
In the past, people married their daughters almost like selling them. When I got married, I wanted to sell it by the catty, and all the money I spent on her was taken back with interest. Anyway, I don't expect my daughter to wait on her knees when she is old.
Nowadays, some people marry off their daughters, and some can be said to be giving them away. They can't wait to marry all their possessions to their daughter, for fear that her daughter will suffer hardships, have enough to eat and wear, and will not hesitate to pay all her money for a happy life. And men, even if they have nothing, marry a rich wife and turn over the serf local owner.
Therefore, it is more appropriate to marry a daughter now, saying that marriage is more appropriate. After marriage, the couple go out alone, both parents have to kiss, and they have to wait and accompany. Moreover, many grandchildren are brought up by their grandmothers, so there is no such thing as a "grandson dog". Now this statement is not true, they are all precious grandchildren.
Grandson, as can be seen from the name, is someone else's grandson and an outsider. His grandparents carried on his grandfather's family tree.
For this, I have a deep understanding, grandchildren and grandchildren are just different. My grandfather has five grandchildren, two grandchildren and three granddaughters. Obviously, the treatment is different. Grandson is refined and expensive, and grandson is polite on the surface.
Last year, my grandfather went to the hospital when he was ill. Our five nephews discussed it. Everyone gave him 500 yuan when he went to visit him, but his grandchildren didn't buy anything or give him money. Grandpa also walked over. My aunt told my grandfather that he did something wrong, so why did his grandson give him money and his grandson just watch it? Grandpa felt embarrassed and returned all the money to his grandson.
"The grandson is a dog, and when he is full, he is a dog." In fact, this sentence is the saying of my hometown. Our grandson never thought so, and so do we with our grandparents. We can find a wonderful childhood in grandma's house, and remember grandma telling us stories to put us to sleep.
There is some truth, but not everyone agrees! My grandparents are as good as my granddaughter and want nothing from us! Every year, grandparents secretly give us lucky money and give us enough face!
For example, on the second day of this year, my brother and I went to my grandparents' house to pay New Year's greetings as usual. As soon as I entered the door (my grandparents lived in my uncle's house), my grandparents were very happy and soon brought us a bunch of delicious food. When my grandfather saw us coming, he quickly told us to pick some vegetables for us to eat. My grandmother also asked us all kinds of situations, how about work and feelings. Wait ... If we don't keep up with the competition, it's just an old man's charge and concern for future generations! After chatting for a while, my great uncle, second uncle, second aunt, third aunt and cousins all came (my grandmother's family and third aunt's family celebrate the New Year together every year), and my aunts are busy preparing lunch, and soon my grandfather will come back. I discussed with my brother before: I gave it to grandma 600 yuan and he gave it to grandpa 600 yuan; So as soon as they saw grandpa coming back, the two of them quickly acted to give money! Originally, we gave money secretly, but my grandmother and grandfather walked around the living room specially and said in front of a large family: no, no, you are all fine! We are old and have less money! My brother and I have been taken care of by my grandmother since childhood. Now that you have grown up, you should give them to your grandparents. Later, my grandparents accepted it in front of a large family!
But then when I came home, my mother gave the money to me and my brother! Only then did I know that my grandmother gave the money to my mother. They said: My brother and I are not married yet. There are many places to use this money in the future. Let's keep it for ourselves. They are old and don't need any money. We deserve a better life!
Very touched! And let me ignore my grandparents since I was a child! It's all the same to them! To be honest, I feel that my grandparents are better than my grandmother!
May all grandparents in the world live a long life and be happy and healthy!
Why is the old saying "Grandson is a dog, eat and leave"?
This is just a metaphor. In fact, "dogs are not too poor", and dogs are the most loyal. The grandson here is a dog, which means joking. We also have a saying here that "grandma kisses her nephew and drives a whirlwind in hard ground", which means that both the daughter and the grandson are outsiders, so you have to wait for the grandson to kiss again. When something happens, the grandson is still with his grandparents. Another example is that you can't choose by your parents, and you can't get up without your parents.
For a long time, the water spilled by the married daughter has always been regarded as an outsider by grandchildren. Children and grandchildren are the heirs of family cigarettes, children are filial to their daughters-in-law, and grandparents mostly look after their grandchildren. This is the main direction of life. I also kiss my grandson, but this kiss is different, because my grandson has grandparents.
There is a little story. Grandson and grandson play together. Grandson's grandfather died of illness. Grandson speaks and misses grandpa. And the grandson said, my grandfather is still there! I'm not sad. Grandma doesn't smell like it. It seems that whose children are still close to whose adults! Whoever is a person is a person, and kissing you is also a white kiss!
This is from the old society to the present!
My mother and sister have three children in each family. Every time I go to grandma's house, I basically go together. Basically, we arrive at about 10: 30 in the morning and leave at about 3: 00 noon, so every time we leave, we will say, "nephew dog, nephew dog, leave when you are full!" "
In fact, grandma is teasing us, but our cousins, my second aunt's cousin, always confirm this. When I was a child, my grandmother would come to our house every autumn and take turns making cotton-padded jackets and quilts for us.
I remember grandma often said that she went to my second aunt's house and my cousin drove her back after dinner. Every time grandma talks about this cousin, she says that she is really a nephew dog and has no relatives at all. Now that he has grown up, this cousin doesn't walk with us much, which is the most vivid expression of the word "nephew dog"
"My nephew dog, my nephew dog, eat and leave" is actually said under the background of the old society. At that time, people preferred sons to daughters, and married daughters were just spilled water. When you get married, you basically don't have to support the elderly. Of course, the old man's legacy is also inherited by his son.
Even so, my grandparents are very kind to my nephew, but because my nephew spends most of his time with my grandparents, I am closer to my grandparents. Go to grandma's house, grandma treats me with good wine and food, and then I go home. So there is a saying that "nephew dog, nephew dog, eat and leave"!
Anyone who hears the phrase "grandson is a dog, eat and leave" may be very unhappy. In fact, if you think about it carefully, this sentence is not just a curse, but actually more of a helplessness!
For grandma, this is the child born by her own daughter, not her own. Grandchildren usually live in grandparents' homes, so they will be very warm and kind to children they haven't seen for a long time. Every time they go back to grandma's house, grandma will buy many delicious and interesting things for the children. It can be said that she is willing to give anything they want.
However, as we get older, many people have their own careers, and they may only go home once a year, or even once a year, so the number of visits to grandma's house is getting less and less, and they won't stay long.
It means that grandparents have to suffer again, and children have to kiss grandparents when they grow up. \r This sentence should be more derogatory. This is a common saying in people's lives, which makes grandparents somewhat disappointed.
\r My friend's son is one and a half years old. He grew up in his grandmother's house when he was a child. Grandma took pains to take care of him. She gives him food in different ways every day, buying this and that, but this Xiong Haizi is extremely affectionate to his grandparents. When the child is about one year old, his grandparents come to see the child once a week ... Every time he comes to my son, he will first ask his grandparents to get up and give up their seats. When he leaves, my son will chase him in tears ... which makes me angry every time. Think about my mother's imbalance. Every time she can only smile and say, "It's really a grandchild dog" ... Is it really grandma blood?
Like most rural children, I liked going to my grandmother's house when I was a child. Basically, the happiest memories of childhood are obtained at grandma's house. As soon as the summer vacation comes, I will ask my parents to send me to my grandmother's house and spend more than a month there freely and happily. And every time I ask my mother to go to grandma's house, my mother will ask me, why do you want to go to grandma's house? I will answer, grandma loves me. Then, my mother will say to me in a sarcastic tone: Grandma loves her grandson, so it is better to hurt her chicken.
Indeed, in the traditional concept, no matter how painful a grandson is, he is also someone else's child. When you grow up, come once a year and bring some gifts at most. It's useless at the critical moment. It is better to love your own chickens. When you grow up, you can lay eggs every day to subsidize your family.
Due to the existence of "intergenerational doting", many old people dote on their grandchildren. Because the grandson is a guest, he is more tolerant and preferential than his grandson. However, in the traditional society, it is still your grandson who can finally provide for yourself. Therefore, the old people's love for their grandchildren is more a pure emotional expression, and they also get corresponding emotional enjoyment in the process of loving their grandchildren.
This, I think, is something more precious than what grandchildren can bring to themselves in the future.
This is different. My parents like their grandson very much. First, they take care of them. Second, they can be independent. Not only is life very good after marriage, but also parents and the elderly are especially respected. No matter grandparents, whenever they have time, they come to see the elderly and buy them something they like to eat. When they are sick, they go to the hospital to see the elderly as soon as they are hospitalized. Grandchildren are also elderly people. I just asked the old man who to give the property to. The old man is afraid that he will come. Don't go to work next month, stay at home with the elderly. Now the old man looks like a thief. Now he has left all the valuables at home with me for safekeeping. The doors at home are all new, and he doesn't give his son or grandson keys. Afraid that they will live on their laurels, outsiders say he doesn't remember having grandchildren.