Why don’t you be too public?
In the workplace, a big taboo is: being too expressive and overly assertive. Whenever they have achieved good results in their work and are praised or promoted by their bosses, many people will often wander around the office without being announced by their bosses, or pretend to be mysterious and confide in close colleagues. After the news spreads, these people will definitely make their colleagues jealous and jealous, thus causing unnecessary trouble.
Of course, in addition to not showing off when you are proud, even when you are frustrated, you cannot tell others about your boss's mistakes in public, or even implicat other colleagues in the same crime. be punished for mistakes. If this is the case, not only will your boss be bored with you, your colleagues will be even more angry with you, and your life in the workplace will definitely be difficult in the future. Therefore, no matter when you are proud or frustrated, do not be too showy, otherwise it will only bring obstacles to work and friendship.
Wang is a shrewd and capable woman who has been put into great use by her boss at a young age. Every time there is a meeting, the boss will ask Wang what she thinks about this issue. Wang's popularity is so strong that employees in the company who are more senior and higher-ranking than her are somewhat disdainful.
Wang has avant-garde ideas. Although he has been married for several years, he has made up his mind not to have children. This was originally just a private matter, but some meddlers went to the boss to complain, saying that Mr. Wang had too much desire for officialdom and even gave up having children in order to climb up the corporate ladder. This statement spread throughout the company for a while, and Wang became an "official maniac" overnight. After that, Wang found that her colleagues looked at her strangely and tried to be "short and quick" when talking to her. An invisible barrier separated her from her colleagues. Wang is very aggrieved. She is not as utilitarian as everyone thinks. Why do everyone look at her with such disdain?
It’s not surprising that you are too sharp in the workplace and don’t pay attention to balancing the mentality of the people around you. Wang is not arrogant, he just has a high-profile attitude and is not good at hiding his edge at the right time.
It feels uncomfortable to be isolated by colleagues, and the reasons for being isolated are varied. But everyone who feels isolated can think about it, why is it that they are isolated and not others? Except for encountering some naturally jealous villains, most of the time, some of one's own shortcomings are the main factors leading to isolation. In the workplace, domineering people, gossips, snitches, and pushy people are often the ones who are isolated. If you are isolated, check quickly to see if you are this kind of person?
The ancients said: A man can bend and stretch, but a man must know how to give in. Just like when boxing, taking a step back is not to be timid, but to be more powerful the next time you punch. Climbing the peak of life is like jumping high. If you don't squat down to accumulate strength in an instant, how can you jump up? You cannot do things according to your own temperament, and you cannot act solely based on your own subjective will. When this road doesn't work, you have to change the direction. You can't go all the way to the dark side. Nor can we not look back without hitting the wall, nor can we not shed tears without seeing the coffin. Once things get out of hand, there is no regret medicine.
There is a PhD student in computer science who studied in the United States. After graduation, he tried to find a job in the United States, but he hit a wall one after another. Many companies turned him away. With such a high degree of education and such a popular major, why can't you find a job?
In desperation, the doctor decided to try another method. He put away all his degree certificates and went to apply for a job with the lowest status. Soon he was hired by a computer company and worked as a basic program entry clerk. This is a job that no one with even a little education is willing to do, but this doctor does it conscientiously and meticulously. It didn't take long for his superiors to discover his outstanding talent: he could actually see errors in the program, which was beyond the reach of ordinary input workers. At this time, he showed his bachelor's degree certificate, and his boss changed him to a job corresponding to a bachelor's degree graduate. After a while, the boss found that he was very comfortable in his new position and could make many valuable suggestions, which was better than the average college student. Only then did he reveal his master's degree, and the boss promoted him.
With the experience of the first two times, the boss also paid more attention to observe him and found that he was still better than a master's degree, and the breadth and depth of his professional knowledge were very comparable, so he talked to him again. Only then did he produce his doctorate certificate and describe the reasons for doing so.
It was then that the boss suddenly realized what he was doing, so he re-employed him without hesitation because he already had a comprehensive understanding of his knowledge, ability and professionalism.
This doctor is smart. After encountering difficulties several times, he put down his identity and self-esteem, and even let others look down on him. Then he showed his talents time and time again in practical work and let others do it again and again. The world looked at him with admiration, and his image gradually grew taller. When many young people first enter the society, they often show off all their titles and trump cards to show off themselves. As a result, they either offend others and make it difficult to cooperate with others, or they attract high expectations and make people disappointed, making slight mistakes. It is difficult to turn over.
This doctor’s way of thinking is also unique. When a straight line didn’t work, he chose a curve and achieved his goal in a roundabout way. Human beings who walk upright often like to think in an upright and linear way, such as to achieve great achievements, achieve great things, be smart, flexible, proficient in everything, understand everything, etc. These goals make many people try their best to climb up, but they can never reach the highest point.
Life is like chess. Sometimes you might as well take a step back rationally, but in the end, you can turn danger into safety and win unexpectedly. Life is like a ship. A wise and resourceful helmsman will bend when encountering a curve and move quickly when encountering a straight line. If you don't turn the rudder when you hit a bend, you will hit the rocks. A person should be flexible. Choosing flexibility means choosing happiness. Reeds can bend and stretch, so they can survive in violent storms; elm trees try to keep their backs straight, but are broken by the strong winds. Of course, if you stop moving forward when you encounter a bend, you will not reach your destination.
Franklin, known as the father of the United States, visited a respected old man when he was young. At that time, he was young and vigorous, with his chest held high and his head raised, and he took long strides. As soon as he entered the door, his head hit the door frame hard. It hurt so much that he kept rubbing it with his hands and looked at someone who was much shorter than him. Cut off door. When the senior who came out to greet him saw his appearance, he smiled and said, "It hurts! But this will be the biggest gain from your visit to me today. If a person wants to live safely in the world, he must always remember Remember: bow your head when it’s time to bow your head. This is what I want to teach you.” Franklin regarded the teaching he received from this visit as the greatest gain in his life and listed it as a lifelong life rule. one. Franklin benefited from this principle throughout his life. Later, he made outstanding achievements and became a great man. He said in a conversation: "This inspiration helped me a lot."
You must not be spineless, but You can't always do things with your noble head raised. The purpose of bending down is to straighten your waist better. In the eyes of the Chinese, green pine is highly praised, while reed is highly criticized. Poets have dedicated poems praising the green pine one after another, such as: "The heavy snow has pressed down on the green pine, and the green pine is straight and straight. You must know that the pine is noble and pure until the snow melts." Even Master Confucius left such aphorisms: " When the weather gets cold, the pines and cypresses will wither. "On the other hand, what about the reeds? People think that they are like grass on the wall, falling with the wind, without their own position or firm belief.
As a person, you must be like Qingsong and have personality, but when it comes to dealing with small things in life, what you really need is Luwei's spirit of being good at bending down and bowing his head. Therefore, in the eyes of a Western philosopher, the praise and blame for green pines and reeds are reversed. He believed: A person should be as pliable as a reed, not as stiff as a pine or cypress. When the wind blows, the reed bends; when the wind stops, it straightens back to its original position. What about the tips of the reeds? Its good fortune enabled it to be used as a pen for writing the Bible.
On the contrary, Songbai could not even keep his position. Because once the wind blows, it will fall down or even break. What about its branches? The lumberjacks came and chopped and chopped them to put on the roof. What was left they threw into the fire.
Indeed, bending is not about falling and destruction, it is an art of life. Life requires the art of bending, and doing things requires a little flexibility. If you insist on being hard, you will be tired, and so will the people around you.