Are you forced to be with someone you don't like for various reasons?

For this question, I think it depends on the individual's specific situation. Take me for example, I have such an experience. This is also a person's choice. No matter what, it is something that I have to experience.

When many people on Zhihu talk about their breakups, they will say in the comment area "This is still not enough love". This sentence is half true and half wrong - indeed, breakups caused by some external reasons can be solved in some ways. There are ways to save it, but for other problems, there is really no way.

Here I will cite three examples. These three examples are all breakups caused by external reasons. However, in some cases these three examples can be recovered, but in other cases it is really not possible. way.

Separation caused by long-distance issues is the easiest thing for people to say "you still don't like it enough", but we must face up to a question: In order for a person to change his life plan and life and work goals, is it necessary to Is it really worth it?

Often when I find that people who come to me and ask me to help them get back together are sacrificing their own future, good job opportunities, and mature social circle, I will advise them to be cautious—— You have to know that the person you choose may not be able to give you the life you want. Do you have to change the trajectory of your life because of one person?

The cost of this matter is very high, and many people are actually unwilling to compromise, because let’s put it cruelly: no matter how good this person is, maybe he can find someone similar in the future, but the good news is that There are too many job prospects or life opportunities to cherish.

And if two people happen to have such an opportunity, and neither party is willing to compromise for the other, then no one can really blame the breakup caused by long-distance issues, nor can it be blamed on the two people "not liking each other enough" - because Under such circumstances, no matter how much they like it, no one dares to say that they can afford to lose opportunities and opportunities.

Some people even break up because they are facing problems in different places. They have no plans or solutions at all: they got together as soon as they liked each other at the time, and no one has thought about how to take the future. I haven't figured out how to live in the future. In this situation, even if we love each other, wouldn't you be delaying each other if you don't break up?

What is probably more troublesome than being in a different place is the problem of parents’ opposition, and parents’ opposition is a test of two people’s ability to solve problems.

If the parents’ objection is only due to income issues, or they feel bad about the person, these can be made up for. Our common way is to shift the focus - your family conditions or income are not very good, but We can show our ambition, show the results of our efforts to the other parent, or show the other parent the positive changes we have brought to the other half; but if the parents object to some hard issues: such as the age gap is too large, If your height is too unqualified, or your superstitious parents think your horoscopes are inappropriate, there is no way to change this situation. So, this is some reference.