How to change the fear of being timid and afraid of the dark?

Xiaoming is eight years old this year, and he is still timid and afraid of the dark. He dared not go out at night and stayed in his room alone. It is understood that Xiao Ming's fear of darkness may stem from the description of ghosts in fairy tales and cartoons. His parents told him, "There is nothing in the dark. You need not be afraid at all. There are no ghosts in the world, they are all made up to scare people. " But parents' enlightenment has little influence on Xiao Ming. Every time it gets dark, Xiao Ming is still afraid. Even though his father was watching him at the door, he dared not cross the room to turn on the light alone. That timid little face makes parents very uncomfortable. Xiao Ming still dare not take the pirate ship in the amusement park or swing in the air. Such a thrilling project, even if his parents said to accompany him, he dared not go. Nowadays, not only children are timid and afraid of the dark, but some adult women are also afraid of the dark. A married lady said I was timid and afraid of the dark, especially in the dead of night. Because of cowardice, I dare not let my husband go out to work to earn money, but I can't keep him at home, and I dare not live alone in the yard ... Fear of the dark is a common problem for children, especially girls, but to varying degrees. It is normal to be slightly afraid of the dark, but if you are too afraid of the dark, it may affect your character and personality development. As the saying goes, newborn calves are not afraid of tigers, and cowardice and fear of the dark are generally not born. Most of them occur after the age of 3, and will only appear after the children gradually become sensible and initially contact the society. There are many acquired factors that can be found out in many aspects. Among them, the horror pictures of film and television programs have the greatest influence; Moreover, it is the intimidation of adults; Some have a lot to do with genetic factors; There are also femininity and loneliness. People will feel fear when they are young, because the world is full of fear of children. The world is strange, and they need some time to get used to it. It should be pointed out that the acquired environment and family education are very important for the formation of children's psychology and character. For example, parents often tell their children not to run around at night, there are bad people outside! Haven't you ever heard of someone stealing children? Some parents also warned: don't talk to strangers, be careful of bad people. Parents' original intention is out of love and good. However, educating children by intimidation will make these fears take root in their hearts and make them feel safe only at home and with their parents. In the incorrect way of education, children worry too much about possible dangers and their mental state continues to be tense. Over time, they will become timid and retreat, and may even form different degrees of personality disorder. Some children are born timid and should not be scared. They should be encouraged to get in touch with the outside world boldly and cultivate their self-confidence. A wife who is afraid to stay at home alone after marriage has been instilled with the concept of "there are ghosts and bad people in the dark" since childhood, so that it is still too timid to change this psychological set until adulthood. Psychologists tell us that to change children's fear of darkness, we should start with the details of daily life. First of all, we should encourage children to understand the world correctly and tell them that there will be no ghosts and gods in the dark, and the room at night is as safe as during the day; With the gradual improvement of social security, there are not so many bad guys, which gradually changes the psychological set of "darkness is terrible" and "there is a devil in the night". At the same time, we should pay attention to selectively guiding children to watch film and television programs, and don't let them watch those bizarre horror scenes. Experts also reminded that parents should never call their children "useless" and "coward" casually, and reprimanding will only deal a greater blow to timid children. When the child's performance is not satisfactory, parents should comfort and encourage him: everyone will be nervous for the first time, and you will definitely perform better when you get familiar with it later. Giving children a warm and firm look at a critical moment is conducive to cultivating their self-confidence. Everyone knows that children need mental health when they grow up. But we also need some necessary and sound fears, so that we can learn self-control and self-control in words and deeds-this should also be a part of healthy psychology. I often hear parents tell their children, "Be sure to wash your hands before eating, or you will easily get sick and suffer." This kind of advice makes children disgusted and alert to bacteria and diseases, and pays attention to hygiene for fear of getting sick. It should be said that there is nothing wrong with such fear. In the process of growing up, if there is no proper mental pressure, some children will be careless and take care of nothing. They have no sense of honor, shame and responsibility, and it is difficult for children to make a difference when they grow up. It can be seen that the necessary fear is necessary for children who are growing up and psychologically immature. This sound fear should be cultivated from an early age, but parents should be good at mastering the "degree" of fear, making it a driving force for progress, avoiding excessive panic and promoting physical and mental health. The method taught by the famous scientist Madame Curie has given us beneficial enlightenment. Madame Curie was not only brilliant in her career, but also very successful in educating her daughter. Madame Curie got married very late. She has a daughter named Irina. Irina was timid when she was a child and was afraid of thunder in rainy days. Madame Curie believes that it is impossible for a person to be timid if he wants to make achievements in his career and make inventions in science. So we consciously pay attention to cultivating children's courage not to be afraid of thunder. One night, it rained heavily and thunder rolled outside the window. Madame Curie quietly went to her daughter's room and saw Irina covering her head with a quilt. Madame Curie went over to lift the quilt, woke up the child, led Irina to the window, let her watch the lightning, and told her about the generation and function of lightning in rainy days. Irina suddenly realized that she was not afraid of thunder, and her courage gradually increased. However, Madame Curie did not encourage children to take acrobatic adventures, nor did she like their recklessness, but encouraged them to make some brave attempts. She taught her daughters not to be "timid and afraid of the dark", not to cover their heads with quilts when it thunders and rains, not to be afraid of so-called "bad guys" and not to be afraid of getting sick, and told them that people are inevitably sick when they are alive and will be healthier after rehabilitation. Madame Curie also urged her daughter to exercise. As soon as she finishes her homework every day, she takes her two children out. No matter what the weather is like, they always have to walk a long way and do some exercise. Madame Curie also set up a swing frame in the garden for her daughter to swing in the air. She also sent her daughter to a gymnastics school to learn gymnastics. In summer, she goes into the water with the children and teaches them to swim. When the eldest daughter was just able to stand on her own, she was taken to the river by her mother to take a bath. The first three times, she cried, and the fourth time, she patted the water and played happily. Madame Curie paid great attention to keep the children's hands and limbs exercising and let them learn gardening, cooking and sewing. To increase their living ability. Under the correct education of Madame Curie, all her daughters became outstanding people, and one daughter later won the Nobel Prize. There is another example worth mentioning. In recent years, educational psychologists have noticed that American children are generally courageous. Most of them are not afraid of the dark, and usually dare to go out alone at night. Speak naturally and boldly, so be good at communication. Many children are also more thoughtful, dare to think and rush, and do not need the company of adults. Why is this? Experts believe that American families attach importance to educating their children about the natural and social environment, cultivate their self-reliance and autonomy from an early age, and cultivate their communicative ability, adaptability and self-protection ability in various environments, so these children are bolder and more confident.