The bride price is 5, yuan, and the mother-in-law will temporarily increase the price when the wedding is changed. Do you agree with the practice of men breaking off their marriage?
Zeng Guofan said: Talk about marriage, and seek a family of diligence and filial piety. Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is a matter for two families. Marriage and mate selection must be based on personality and family style. Poor family is acceptable. However, if the family style is not correct, it will definitely not work!
When a man and a woman talk about marriage, they need two families to discuss it. In this process, they can see through many things, such as each other's family style, such as the future partner's character. People with decent family style do things openly, do not hide anything, and do not calculate in the process of marriage. When two people are about to enter the besieged city of marriage, all their advantages and disadvantages will be exposed to each other. Playing tricks is actually clever and digging their own graves.
a netizen once asked me, what should I do if I find the other person cheating me when I get married? In fact, when he asked me, he himself had the answer. Whether it is a man or a woman, the impact of marriage on life is unparalleled. If you can turn back, even if you turn back, you can avoid greater losses.
Character is very important to the person who will join you for life. In the process of marriage, it is inevitable that interests are not mixed, but excessive calculation of the other party for the pursuit of interests is a manifestation of flawed personality. Everyone wants the other person to fall in love with himself, not his own money.
Wan Youzhi, a 32-year-old netizen, showed his attitude when he talked about this. He said that a wife must marry a virtuous man, and the pain left by his predecessor was also caused by money. Although something happened temporarily at the wedding, it still made him unforgettable.
The complicated bride price made me a little disappointed in my girlfriend.
Wan Youzhi and his girlfriend Chen Jingjing met under the introduction of the matchmaker. He is eight years older than the girl, and his work and family background are better than her. He is satisfied with the girl's appearance and personality. He has already prepared a wedding room for marriage, just waiting for the bride to appear.
There are some problems in the process of talking about marriage because of the bride price. The future parents-in-law believe that Jingjing is the only daughter in the family. Although her family is a little poor, a man must show sincerity if he wants to marry his daughter, at least the bride price should not be less than 2,.
Wan Youzhi can't afford this 2, yuan, but he is embarrassed for two reasons. First, he doesn't want to ask his parents for it. Second, he spent almost all his savings to buy that wedding room, and the rest wanted to decorate the house and prepare for the wedding.
he discussed with the girl to see if he could give 1, yuan first, and then give another 1, yuan to his mother-in-law when his bonus is distributed at the end of the year. But later, my mother-in-law laughed at him for not knowing the world. How can there be a truth in paying the bride price by installment?
It's difficult for a man to ride a tiger. For this complicated bride price, he risked everything to borrow 15, from his friend, and finally passed the mother-in-law. But his girlfriend kept silent all the time, which made him feel a faint disappointment.
at the wedding, the agreed fee for changing one's mouth was changed temporarily.
In all sorts of things, the man and the girl finally got to the wedding. However, in the link of changing the fee, the mother-in-law has changed into a new trick. Originally, it was agreed that one parent on both sides would give 1, yuan, but she demanded again that all parents should prepare 11, yuan for the new couple, which means one in a million.
This means that a man's parents have to prepare 22, yuan for his daughter-in-law, and his parents-in-law will also give him so much money.
He felt a little bored, but the wedding had reached this stage, and it was not cost-effective to make a fuss about it, so he temporarily asked his friends to help him withdraw 22, yuan in cash. However, when it comes to calling parents, only the in-laws take out cash, while the parents-in-law only give a card, saying that the money is in the card, which is the same. He didn't take it personally.
He gave the card to the bride casually, and wanted her to keep it. Anyway, we will be a family in the future, and he doesn't intend to haggle with his wife about money.
The bride's words exposed her mother-in-law's small mind, and the groom turned his face and wanted to break off his marriage.
The bride was very happy to get 22, yuan from her in-laws. The groom handed her the card given by her parents, and she said it was an empty card. If a man is sincere, he should change the money into cash for himself. Wan Youzhi was stunned at that time. He took the card and swiped it. Sure enough, there was no money in it. He reacted that this was the mother-in-law holding an empty card to cover the man's change fee.
according to the idea of the woman's family, even after the marriage, the groom will admit that Cary has no money. Isn't it just a matter of a little money? With his financial resources, he should not care and pursue it.
however, what all of them didn't expect was that Wan Youzhi just couldn't get through it. At that time, his face became very ugly. He not only threw the empty card in front of the girl, but also tore off the corsage on his chest, announcing that the wedding with the girl was over. He didn't want this marriage that lacked respect and trust, and he decided to break off the marriage.
The groom asked the woman to return her 2, bride price and share all the expenses of the wedding. Regardless of the bride's crying and retention, he took the man's family with him at the wedding and resolutely left.
groom: we are not short of money, but respect.
More than 2, yuan is not a big deal for men, but the little trick played by my mother-in-law at the wedding reception and the girl's deliberate concealment, and finally she actually asked to change it into cash, all exposed the greed of this family. The most important thing is that this man thinks that since the wife's family dare to change their fees with empty card sets, it shows that they don't care about themselves at all.
He said angrily, "I can earn money again when I have no money. I put forward my divorce because I found that I lacked the feeling of being respected in front of the woman. We are not short of money, what we lack is a kind of respect. "
Although the wedding was very unpleasant, the woman still didn't give up and asked someone to talk, but the man made up his mind. He insisted that he had met a bad person, and he didn't know the girl family well before. He also wanted to make it clear through what happened at the wedding. Since he is not the same person, then don't go into a house. It's good and bad.
Later, the girl's parents told everyone that Wan Youzhi had suffered for his children, and if he didn't say it, the girl's reputation would be damaged in the future. Wan Youzhi smiled bitterly after hearing this: "Who do I complain about my lost time and energy?" What she and her family did really puzzled me, and I'm not going to explain it to others. "
Conclusion
Zeng Guofan once said: "If a gentleman wants to be established, he must start without asking for others." People who know you don't need to explain, and people who don't know you don't need to explain.
There is no absolute right or wrong in marriage, but we can get a glimpse of the woman's family style and character displayed in this wedding. It is natural for a man to be disappointed when there is a gap between the woman he wants to marry home and what he thinks. It is also a wise choice to stop the loss in time.
The greed shown by mother-in-law and girls is annoying, while what men want is just a kind of reciprocity and respect. The agreed fee for changing one's mouth is just a formality, but people with ulterior motives hold the mentality of collecting money and taking advantage of it, and the result is lost because of small.
to be considerate of others in everything is actually to leave an inch for yourself. Those who have to calculate all the corners may end up losing even more.