Emotions are inner demons
Dr. Everyone has emotions, this is normal.
But emotions are like water, they should be loosened rather than blocked. Learn to control your emotions. Don’t take them too seriously, nor blindly suppress them.
Emotions are inner demons, and stable emotions are a person’s top personality charm.
I wonder if you have ever encountered such an experience:
All of the above are because we only temporarily hide our emotions and fail to deal with our emotions correctly.
Last year, a bus surveillance video went viral on Weibo, making many people tremble with fear.
The cause was that a naughty child was dishonest and kicked an adult man's hand three times. The adult man suddenly got violent and threw the boy over his shoulder to the ground, and then hit the boy on the head with his foot. Step down three times.
The child was stunned and kept squirming on the ground, unable to stand up.
At this point, there is no need to discuss who is right and wrong. The law has already made a judgment for us: the irritable adult man was detained for 15 days.
Yes, it was originally a normal incident of educating a naughty child, but unexpectedly, he suddenly lost control of his emotions and landed himself in the police station.
Nietzsche said in "Beyond Good and Evil": "If your emotions are always out of control, you will be led by your emotions and lose your freedom."
Impulse is the devil , A person who cannot manage his emotions is like a bomb that can explode at any time, not only hurting others, but also hurting himself.
Some people are trapped by emotions; some people have given up on emotions long ago.
Writer Li Ao often scolded his former friend Yu Guangzhong on various occasions. He was even called a "flattery poet".
Someone asked Yu Guangzhong: "Li Ao picks trouble with you every day, but you never respond. Why?"
Yu Guangzhong pondered for a moment and replied: "Swearing at me every day shows that his life You can't live without me; and my ignoring him proves that I can live without him. "You see, not only is he not angry, but he can also treat it with humor.
Social psychologist Festinger has a theory: 10 of the events in life are made up of what happens to you, and the other 90 are determined by how you react to things.
No matter what situation they face, smart people will not let their emotions vent.
Because they know that doing so is of no benefit to themselves and will not help the cause. Only by controlling emotions and returning to rationality is the real solution.
Orison Madden said in "Capital of a Lifetime": At any time, a person should not be a slave of his own emotions, and should not make all actions subject to his own emotions, but should In turn, control your emotions. No matter how bad the situation is, you should strive to dominate your environment and save yourself from the darkness.
In the face of rumors, deal with it calmly; in the face of gossip, deal with it calmly. Mount Tai collapses in front of him but his appearance remains unchanged. This is his character and strength.
People who do not lose their temper and can control their emotions not only win the respect of others, but also bring good feng shui to themselves.
I once heard a short story: "Aidiba who likes to be angry".
In ancient Tibet, there was a man named Aidiba. Every time he got angry and had a dispute with someone, he would run around his house and land three times, and then sit on the edge of the field to catch his breath.
Aidiba works very hard. His house is getting bigger and bigger, and the land is getting wider and wider. But no matter how big the house is, as long as he gets angry when arguing with others, he will still run around the house and land three times.
Everyone who knew him wanted to know the reason, but no matter how people asked him, Aidiba always remained silent.
Until one day, when Aidiba was very old, his grandson asked him this question again: "Grandpa, why do you have to run around the land three times when you are angry?" "
Aidiba said to his grandson: "When I was young, I was running and thinking, my house is so small and the land is so small, how can I have the time and the right to be angry with others? Here, the anger dissipated, so I spent all my time working hard."
The grandson asked again: "Then you are old and have become the richest man, why do you still go around the house? "Running on the ground?"
Aidiba said with a smile: "I still get angry. When I am angry, I can't run anymore, so I just walk around the house three times.
While walking, I thought, My house is so big and there is so much land, why should I care about others? Walking can also exercise my muscles and bones. "
I am emotional and angry. It's everyone's nature. However, smart people know that instead of focusing on unnecessary anger, change yourself and change your life.
He Jiong said: The absence of anger does not necessarily mean the absence of negative emotions. Being able to avoid bringing negative emotions to others is the true cultivation.
Losing temper is instinct, not losing temper is skill. Those who are emotionally stable win from the beginning.
An emotionally immature person will make the people around him feel like a roller coaster every day.
When you are fed up with the pain and problems caused by emotional immaturity and instability, you will understand how important it is to find an emotionally mature person, or to become an emotionally mature person.
Nine times out of ten, life will be unsatisfactory.
If you get angry over a trivial matter, sink into deep sadness over a misunderstanding, or doubt yourself over a criticism, it will not help you or the situation.
If you are disturbed by emotions all day long, your happy life will never be the same.
As Samuel said: The world is like a mirror. You frown at it, and it frowns at you; you smile at it, and it smiles at you.
Emotions are like a double-edged sword. Good emotions will drive away the gloom for you, while bad emotions will push you towards the abyss.
If you find it difficult to control your emotions, then we can at least start with these four points:
1. When you are emotional, please take a deep breath for 60 seconds;
2. Think more about the "worst possible outcome";
3. Don't always stay in one place, go out for a walk more often. The bigger your world is, the fewer worries you will have;
4. Read books and make more friends with positive energy.
Don’t be happy with things, don’t be sad with yourself, I hope each of us can control our emotions, be fragrant to ourselves and fragrant to others.