How to make friends?

Carnegie, the master of success, once said: In today's society, only 15% of a person's success depends on technical knowledge, and the remaining 85% depends on interpersonal relationships. Presumably, everyone has deeply realized the importance of socializing after entering the society. Good interpersonal relationship, small to likable, popular, big to self-protection, achieving a great career, poor interpersonal relationship, small to unsociable, big to career, and even failure. So next, let's learn the skills in interpersonal communication together. We will no longer be bored and afraid of communication, and become a very gregarious and popular high-quality group in Kan Kan who can talk with others at any time.

I don't know how to make friends The content of this chapter is divided into three parts. The first part is to tell you what kind of people are friends, the second part is to analyze the reasons why you can't make sincere friends, and the third part is to tell you how to make sincere friends and give you some skills to make friends.

First of all, let's talk about the first part. What is a friend? Speaking of friends, it is estimated that many people will say: I have many friends, as long as I make a phone call, all of them will be in place immediately. But this is more definitely a false friendship. Call them now and ask them to lend you 10,000 yuan to see how many people are willing to lend it to you. He will smile at you when he doesn't hurt his interests. Once he hurts his interests, he will immediately change his face. This is a false friendship. When the scenery is beautiful, you are confused, but when you ask him for money, you push from pillar to post. When you need his help, you try to avoid seeing you. When you are down and out, he is watching jokes. This is not the interpersonal relationship we want, nor the friend we want.

So what is a true friend? When you need help, he will not hesitate to reach out to you. For example, if you send a sentence in a circle of friends, "I'm lovelorn" or "I'm in a bad mood", it won't be long before he calls and says: I'll buy you a drink at night. For another example, the day before, you had a bad argument, and the next day, he came to you with a beer as if nothing had happened, or you borrowed 10 thousand yuan from him, and he didn't have that much money himself. He would give you 1000 and say, "I don't have that much money on me, so you don't have to pay me back this 1000." These people who take you seriously are true friends, so we must distinguish them.

Let's talk about the second part first: why can others make real friends and you can't? First of all, we must see clearly what kind of person we are. If you are a person who likes to hang out in wineries and casinos and treat everyone as his brother, then the people you can attract are just gamblers and prodigals, and there will be no friends you want at all. Always look at each other when making friends. If you look at him, he will look at you, so you must pay attention to the improvement of your own connotation in order to attract high-quality people. Secondly, in the process of making friends, if you are always in the moment of constant giving, constantly listening to others' unhappiness, giving everything to others and never asking for anything from them, then others will only regard you as a trash can, and you must be fair when making friends. You pay for him, but also guide him to pay for you.

Finally, maybe others really want to make friends with you, but you close your heart and don't want him to come into your life. Maybe you have been hurt, but friends need to be changed with heart. If others are sincere to you, but you don't let others see it, how can others insist? So when making friends, others are sincere, and you should also show your sincerity.

Okay, this is the last part. How can I make real friends? Of course, I mentioned that when choosing a friend, you must have a friend to measure the value, because you won't make friends with someone for no reason, it must be someone who can bring you value help in thought, morality, life or work, so when you meet the person you want to make friends with, I will teach you three tips.

Rule number one: look for similarities between you.

It's strange when we make friends. We are always close to people who have something in common with us, such as eating with our left hand, wiping our mouth with paper towels when we like to eat two bites ... these same details will make people feel kind. So when you want to make friends with a person, you should observe his little moves, imitate him, or imitate his tone and repeat some of his words, so that he can notice you and have a good impression on you.

The second one: send charcoal in the snow.

If the friend you want to make is suffering and in prison, then you should help him. Don't think that he doesn't have much surplus value now and doesn't want to get involved in this muddy water. If it is not difficult for you to help him, then help him, and the situation will get better. Maybe one day he will return to the top! I can't see anything on the icing on the cake. It's rare to see charcoal in the snow. When a person is down and out or frustrated, after getting help from others, he will naturally be grateful to those who helped him, and it is easier to convey his sincerity.

Of course, there is a key point in all dating skills. What do you want from him? Similarly, you should let him see your value. Why else would he make friends with you? Friends are two-way value choices, so you must improve yourself.