Should I go out for a career or return to my hometown for a stable job?

Author: Han Xia

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The recent period of time has been spent in my hometown's small town and rural hometown.

On the first day back home, I looked at the clean country roads. There were no traffic jams, no crowds of people, no high-rise buildings, only endless green wheat seedlings.

Whether it is a country road or a village street, they are all very clean and tidy. There are trash cans in every village, and people clean them every day. When you get home and see the spacious courtyard, you no longer have to worry about finding a parking space. This is a truly livable environment!

There are no high housing prices, no high-rise buildings, and consumption is very low.

The home appliances that urban families have are not lacking in rural areas. Housing prices in cities remain high. Why do we have to spend hundreds of thousands just to make a down payment? The rest of our time is spent on Repay the loan.

A hundred thousand, two or three hundred thousand is enough to properly arrange your own farmyard.

But among the people in the village, there are still some young people who went to the city to buy houses.

Some people work in towns, that is, in rural areas, and have to return to their homes in the city at night.

Nowadays, those in rural areas with slightly better economic conditions go to the city to buy houses.

I would rather live in a pigeon cage than in my own spacious farmyard.

Why do you want to live in the city?

A friend answered this way: Because there is no natural gas or heating at home in rural areas, and other people have gone to live in buildings to avoid the cold, you can’t let your wife and children freeze at home.

Isn’t it possible to install radiators and burn coal for heating in rural areas?

It would be nice to have central heating.

Life in the city is very convenient.

I wonder why they don’t live in a single-family villa but have to climb the stairs and squeeze into the elevator. A friend asked me: Then why don’t you go back to live in the countryside from Zhengzhou, or come to Linqing, or go to your husband’s countryside? If you don't want to go back, we are the same as you.

Is it the same?

I am just a daughter here who married far away. Although I have memories, I no longer have a home of my own here. It’s okay to have family and friends and stay here occasionally.

It is even more impossible to go to my husband’s hometown. Most of the people in the village are unknown and unfamiliar. There are no memories, and there are very few occasional stays.

Only Zhengzhou is my home. Although there is no big yard, after all, I have my own nest and relatives there.

If I return to my hometown from a big city, I will be in a foreign land again.

They are still different from us.

If I were them, I would like to live in the countryside.

Every time I come back, I like the big yard of my hometown very much. You can see the moon and count the stars in the yard, especially at night, when the moonlight is pouring down, and under the quiet night sky, there are occasionally a few sounds. Dog barking, this is the life we ​​long for.

Although I yearn for it, I have been away from home for many years and have never thought about returning to my hometown.

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Why don’t you want to return to your hometown from a big city?

First of all, the convenience of small counties in big cities cannot be compared, let alone rural areas.

I once took the subway with a friend who came to Zhengzhou from other places. I said: Every time I take the subway, I feel like I am in a big city, like Beijing or Shanghai.

My friend asked: Isn’t Zhengzhou a big city?

When talking about big cities, people always think of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen.

Take Zhengzhou, a second- and third-tier city, for example. Whether it is transportation, employment, or life, the convenience of a big city is particularly prominent.

In terms of transportation, Zhengzhou is the provincial capital. Every time you go back to your hometown, you must check the time of return. It is extremely unsafe on the road from the county seat to the countryside at night, and it is too inconvenient to stay in a hotel.

But it doesn’t matter if you live in a big city. This situation is avoided in Zhengzhou. No matter what time you get home, there will always be taxis, which is relatively safer.

It is close to the airport and there are many direct flights from all over the country. If you are in your hometown, you can only take a bus to Jinan to catch a flight.

When looking for a job, you can search online, and there is an explosion of information. You can find many recruiting units within one or two kilometers nearby. If you are in a rural area or county town, information is not available, and you will have to leave home to find a job. Twenty miles or more.

As for leisure and entertainment, elegance and rurality coexist in the city. Western food, Chinese food, Henan cuisine, Shandong cuisine, hot pot and stir-fry dishes are all available within two kilometers. However, in the countryside, there are at most two or three stir-fry restaurants in a village, and there are only a few restaurants in towns. In the county town, if you want to find a Western restaurant or coffee shop, you won't be able to find it without walking three or five streets and several miles.

In terms of daily life, although it is very convenient to buy things in rural areas now, daily necessities such as oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea can be found at the village store. If you want to buy clothes and other items, you have to wait until you go to the market. Compared to the bustling bustle of big cities, it is still far behind.

It is easy to spend money in big cities, and it is very convenient to save money in small villages.

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Although busy people in the city yearn for the spacious courtyards and leisurely slow life in the countryside, few people who have gone to the city are willing to return to the countryside. .

Not only are changes in the living environment, but also changes in humanities more difficult for people to adapt to.

A friend who is a teacher told me that when relatives and friends have weddings and weddings, they all go to attend. If you say it is not convenient to go when you are at work, people will say you are arrogant. Please don't do it. Some relatives will not understand your difficulty in asking for leave from work.

In rural areas, there are many favors and gifts. Especially those with many aunts, uncles and uncles have many social events every month. The son is getting married, the daughter is getting married, and the baby is having a full moon party and so on. If anyone else is sick and hospitalized, we have to visit them.

Especially when an old man dies, no matter whether the old man was valued and respected during his lifetime, he will be extremely beautiful after his death. There are funerals, three-seven, five-seven, one-hundred-yin, and one-year gatherings in the name of paying homage to the old man. Anniversary, three years, five years, ten years, fifteen years, twenty years, twenty-five years, thirty years.

In other words, excluding the time for farming, you will spend a large part of your time attending various parties. It is impossible to go to the park or travel to the district on weekends. There are very few parks in the city. Just one or two, nothing to appreciate yet. When traveling around the area, even if you travel a hundred miles around, you may not be able to find anything interesting.

Long-distance travel is even less likely to be arranged. It’s okay, who would spend money just to have fun? As my father said, who has the spare time, let alone the spare money. If you have money, you have to save it to build a house for your son and find a wife. If you have completed the task, you have to save money, and then help your son raise grandchildren, or save money for yourself to support yourself in old age.

Consumption here is low because of low wages and little income. How can we go on to increase consumption?

There are not many employment opportunities in small counties or rural areas, and many young people have gone to work elsewhere.

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When the living environment changes, your lifestyle will also change accordingly.

You have adapted to life outside. When you return to your hometown, it will be difficult to accept the customs and customs here.

Although life in rural areas is not as convenient and fast as in cities, this is not the main reason why we cannot go back. The external environment is only a small aspect. The most important thing is the change in concepts. The relationship between people here It has been difficult for us to adapt to the way we get along with each other.

Living outside, although far away from home, the relationship is simple.

I often envy those who live away from home and have many relatives and friends, but if I really come back here, I feel that such relationships are extremely complicated, like a huge network. If I am not good at handling it, For people like me who don’t like complicated interpersonal relationships and don’t like liveliness, it would be best to live elsewhere.

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