Find a husband who can cook and do housework, and your marriage will be happy.

Marriage is like wearing shoes. Only you know whether it is suitable or not. Marriage is like drinking water, hot and cold, only you can feel it. What kind of marriage is a happy marriage, everyone has different definitions.

There has always been a voice in my heart. Since I knew nothing about the governor, I have a blueprint in my heart. I also told my best friend that I'm married and I'd better find someone who can reason with you and is willing to share housework with you.

That makes sense. It shows that this man understands and can consider things from the other side's point of view. This is a person with high emotional intelligence, and there will be no contradiction in getting along. As the saying goes, it is easier to get along when you are in love, and it is relatively easier to get along with reasonable people.

But of the two, I think the most important thing is whether the husband can cook and do housework. Because marriage is a "trivial" thing, everything seems irrelevant, but it has to be done, which is often the most tiring and emotional.

Take mopping the floor for example. Before mopping the floor, you must clean up or suck up the tiny scraps of paper, dust, hair and other rubbish on the floor. What I hate most is hair. You should carefully roll your hair out with toothpicks or other tools, bend over and bend your legs. That leg is hurt. After that, mop it again with a wet mop. If you still encounter the hair of the "fish that escaped the net", you have to pick it up one by one.

Roughly estimated, it takes at least one hour to mop the floor for a house of 100 square meters. If you wipe a dusty desk and chair and hang clothes, it will be gone all morning.

The traditional marriage mode in China is that the man is the master and the woman is the master. Women are in charge of everything at home. This concept is deeply rooted. Even if it is a new society, even if women have moved from the kitchen of the hall to the square outside the hall, most men still think that family affairs, especially housework, are women's jobs and have nothing to do with them.

Let you work hard outside, and when you get home, women still have to work hard. Shopping, cooking, cleaning up after meals, washing dishes, cleaning the kitchen, washing clothes, hanging clothes, collecting clothes, folding clothes … these invisible jobs will kill you. Which one is not time-consuming and laborious?

If she is a full-time wife, the whole day's work is like this, and she can tidy up slowly, and the same is true after finishing. However, it's a pity that women can't get a word's approval for doing these torturous jobs at home. Men think it's a natural thing for women, it's a trivial matter, and it's not worth yelling about.

Nowadays, most women work outside. Take a teacher as an example. When she did these chores, she thought that there were still classes to prepare for, homework papers to correct, and any students' problems should be dealt with in time. She gets anxious when she thinks about these things, thinking about finishing them quickly to deal with her work, and then these chores become urgent. I guess that's how obsessive-compulsive disorder came about.

Just when you are full of bad emotions, you must see that man lying flat on the sofa watching TV. Do you particularly want to pick up that knife? A war of words is inevitable. In fact, more and more men pat their asses for fun after eating your cooking.

After finishing all the housework, don't think about what you can do, because you have to help the children with their homework.

Women, seeing this, do you feel that there is a big stone in your heart and you can't breathe?

What kind of marriage is happy? Maybe you will be happy if you marry love or money or fame or family background. However, I think once these names are implemented in marriage, they are all empty. Most people live a dull marriage life. What is the secret of long-term stability in marriage?

Let's listen to the experiences of these women.

This group of women told me unanimously: find a husband who can cook and do housework, and your marriage will be happy. Haha, it's nice to meet people with the same views.

A is a post-90s young woman who just got married not long ago. Although she is the youngest woman in this group, her view on marriage is quite mature. She kept telling us how good her husband was. Fortunately, she is willing to tidy up the house without a boss. Her husband definitely takes the initiative to do housework and never has to worry about it. I usually solve my wife's daily chores without complaining.

She feels very happy. She thinks she married the right person. She thinks marriage is a trivial matter, and now that women have jobs, they are already very tired. If they meet a male chauvinist, it is impossible to sympathize with women's experiences and sympathize with them. Such a marriage will not be happy.

But men who are willing to do housework are different. He has empathy with you, knows your hard work and is willing to share everything with you. This heart alone has made women feel happy.

Is such a man worthless? A said, "It is enough for me to find a man who works hard, shares weal and woe and leads a quiet life. This is the marriage I pursue. " How sober, rational and wise this woman is about marriage.

Let's listen to what female colleague B has to say. B married a promising man in the eyes of the world. She is a policeman with a certain official position and rich family background, so she married a rich family.

Her husband's family is rich and can afford a nanny, but he is determined not to hire a nanny. Her husband never does housework, and she is responsible for everything at home. She is also very busy at work and is the backbone of the team. But buying food, cooking, sending the children, picking them up, tutoring them ... these are all hers, and men never come near them.

Recently, her old man was hospitalized, paralyzed and in need of care. She is at work, at home, in the hospital, and no one can help. She felt particularly tired, especially regretful, and felt that she had chosen the wrong husband. Husband just works, and everything at home has nothing to do with him. What does such a husband want? "They are all young, I didn't see it clearly!" That's what she said

Let's listen and keep silent. Because most of us women are experiencing these bitterness and helplessness. Everyone agrees with colleague A and admires her. Because such men are rare around us, it is estimated that they are rare in China.

Only a married woman knows how comfortable it is to have a man who can cook and do housework. Those men who are full of feudal old ideas and male chauvinism are so annoying.

We think of our basketball coach. A male coach with a certain marriage age told us how he bought food and cooked for his children's wives for ten years. Married for almost twenty years, his wife can only cook noodles now. When it comes to this matter, he doesn't have a complaint, only he is proud that his wife's fingers didn't touch the water.

His wife naturally appreciates his kindness. Spoiled women are very comfortable. She has no complaints in her heart and naturally feels happy. A happy woman is sure to be twice as kind to her children and husband.

In a family, women's emotions are very important. If she is happy, so will her family. Her heart is blocked and anxious all day. Naturally, this home is gloomy and there is no sunshine.

But men don't understand. Some men understand, but they still can't change bad habits. Because the concept of "men don't do housework" has penetrated into the bone marrow since childhood.

In Guangdong, most families with boys are still instilling in their children the idea that "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside" and that "men do great things and women can't wash dishes and mop the floor". In this way, the family that educates children must be the father who never does housework. Boys who grow up in such a family atmosphere must follow the original ecological family model when they get married.

In some places in Chaoshan, Guangdong, there is still an old model that women are not allowed to serve meals for a family. In such a place where the idea that men are superior to women is still rampant, it is impossible for men to do housework, and women can only submit to humiliation.

There are many excellent women around us. They have high face value, strong working ability and are elegant and dignified in front of people. But their elegance defeated their husbands who didn't do housework.

They are tired after a day's work, thinking that when they get home, they can eat the meal cooked by their husbands who are on holiday at home. If their husbands can't cook, they will cross their legs and wait for you to go home and cook for him. Can it be elegant at this time?

Another feature of these husbands is that underwear and smelly socks are thrown aside, waiting for you to wash them by hand. You can also plausibly say: you love me, you should wash it for me.

Why don't they think the other way around? If you love your wife, learn to cook for her! If you love your wife, share the mopping work!

An elegant sister around me is very royal, but she can do nothing about her husband. Her husband is neither tall nor excellent, and he doesn't do housework at all. She waits on him like a gentleman.

Why should such an excellent woman marry this man when she has so many choices? In other words, the first time her husband chased her, it was diligent. Every day, a fruit with a different pattern, a flower every once in a while. The woman was very moved.

A woman married a husband who could not cook and refused to do housework. It is difficult for her to be completely happy. No matter how good you are at work or outside, you can't escape your husband when you get home. He is like a thorn, stabbing your heart from time to time. Except, of course, wealthy families. I am aiming at the ordinary married life of ordinary people.

Many of our girls are not as rational, calm and clear-cut as Ms. A when choosing a marriage partner. Clap your hands and drag, fall in love, and nothing else. Just to get married, but also trapped by some external things.

Mature women can clearly know the essence of marriage, and when choosing their other half, they will choose men who can live in a down-to-earth way. We advocate finding a man who can cook and do housework when getting married.