In relationships, what are the three characteristics of men who always complain about "bad luck"?
There is a classic saying in "Banshan Collected Works", a person can only achieve himself by doing something he likes for a long time in his life, not by relying on a certain person. Regarding this, you can either immediately realize it, or wait for time to teach you a lesson and force you to realize it.
However, not many people really understand. Especially when time teaches its own lessons, some people always attribute this to "this is fate."
In fact, only the weak believe in "fate", while the strong always fight against "fate". In life, we often hear men who have failed relationships say, "I have tried so hard and still failed, which only means that my life is not good."
Liang Ning said, "The way everyone looks now , It’s all the superposition of all my past experiences.” Yes, everything has an effect and a cause. Most men who are so-called “bad luck” have these three characteristics, and there is no exception.
1. The humbleness of love
Zhang Ailing said that she humbled herself into the dust for love, and a flower bloomed there. In relationships, women are like this, and men are no less generous. Some men will completely lose their opinion once they like a woman.
They blindly advocate the creed that "women are meant to be pampered", and they obey women and do whatever they say without distinguishing between right and wrong. Only in the end did I realize that in this world, things that are easily obtained are least valued. Because your love comes and goes when you call it, so cheap that it’s not worth cherishing at all.
2. Selflessness of love
Some people say that in a man's life, his career is his flesh and blood, his family is his flesh and blood, and his love is like his hair. Losing love, although life is not perfect, has no substantial impact on his life.
Although this statement is biased, it does have some truth. If one of these three must be given up, I believe it is not difficult for a man to make a choice. Career is the foundation for a man to settle down and live a life. Once a man loves selflessly and regards love as his everything, women may be moved for a while, but they will definitely leave you in the end.
Because no matter how sacred or how sworn love is, it will eventually return to bread. How many women in this world are willing to fall in love with you on an empty stomach?
3. Self-love
“I just needed an apple, but you gave me a basket of bananas.” This sentence reveals how helpless a woman is.
There are always men who feel unwilling after being broken up. They feel that I have been good enough to you and have given you what I think is the best. What else do you need? What they don't understand is that love requires a tacit understanding of "sneaking into the night with the wind and moisturizing things silently", rather than being given so simply and roughly.
What you think is good may not be needed by others. If you really love her, at least be attentive and understand what she needs. If you only judge the other person's preferences based on your own likes and dislikes, you will inevitably be doing nothing. Losing love is only a matter of time.
Zengzi said: I examine myself three times a day. This is true of life, and so is emotion.
No matter what happens, first examine whether you have done enough. Don't complain about "bad luck". "Fate" is just the specific result of the overlap of all your experiences. There may be accidents, but most results are inevitable.