Always chatting with my ex, why doesn't my ex get back together?
Maybe many people will think, chat? It's that simple. I will say it every day. Sooner or later, my predecessor will see my change and my growth. It's only a matter of time before I get back together. Looks confident, as if he didn't break up at all.
First of all, the frequency is difficult to guarantee.
When you are in love, you are jealous of me. I will continue to send messages after separation. Excuse me, who are you?
Secondly, quality is a big problem.
Some people find it difficult to express themselves clearly in daily communication, let alone in such a severe situation. If you chat every time, you can't reduce your bad impression and give people new attraction. Although this kind of chat can occasionally increase others' dependence on you, it has no other positive effect.
I am well aware of the anxiety and impatience of lovelorn people, so some people will keep trying to chat with their ex.
But if you really want to save your predecessor, how can you talk? What is the frequency? Do you have any skills?
First of all, mentality construction.
There is a saying like this:? Without a good attitude, all skills are zero. ? Mentality is just like internal strength in martial arts novels, and other skills can only be regarded as moves. With good internal skills, you can better use your own moves.
That's why we don't tend to give the answer directly or point out the method directly.
Instead, I want to ask questions and chat, so that everyone can find their own solutions and understand why. Because, compared with one or two direct methods, improving your understanding of love, understanding the principle of attraction and relationship, and establishing a good mentality are the fundamental ways to solve the problem.
Mentality sounds illusory, or some people think that a calm mentality is a good mentality. In fact, reducing the sense of demand and maintaining acceptance is the best mentality.
Sense of need, which can also be called motivation in psychology, can be transformed into motivation and internal driving force to stimulate us to achieve our goals. However, according to research, people with low motivation are more likely to accomplish more difficult tasks. This means that in the face of this problem, you need to reduce your sense of need appropriately, which is more conducive to your success.
In addition, a good attitude needs to be accepted. Sometimes, we need to respect and understand our seniors and accept this fact when they don't want to chat or respond.
Second, take advantage of loss aversion.
Have you ever had such an experience? Some things that you don't need at ordinary times are put in the corner, and you never want to touch them when you clean them up, or even want to throw them away, but suddenly you find that this thing can't be found. Will it be a pity? Even want to find out quickly?
Sometimes, people are not sensitive to the value of people or things and have no clear understanding. When people have to give up on them, they are more sad than happy.
Did you find out?
According to this psychological effect, after you break up, you can get entangled in the early stage, and then suddenly shrink back and make the illusion of giving up, thus stimulating the loss aversion of the other party and trying to change the passive and low situation.
To put it simply, when we just broke up, we showed reluctance, sadness, apology and pleading, and then suddenly gave up and gave up. One thing to note is that the other party may come to test you, so be wary of previous tests.
Finally, the attraction of cold reading.
This skill is actually to use the psychological Bahrain effect to make a * * * sound with the other party, so that the other party feels recognized and understood, thus building trust and comfort.
It is effective not only for people who meet for the first time, but also for people who have known each other for a long time. Some points can still be used.
Everyone will believe a general description, which suits them very well. Even though these words are empty, people still think that expression reflects their own truth. Nowadays, many people believe in horoscopes, tarot cards and fortune telling, excluding some things that cannot be solved by science. I think most of them are the same.
People are actually * * *. You have been with your ex, so you must have a basic understanding of your ex. If you say what the other person wants to hear, TA will believe it and think that you are very different from others.
Of course, when reading cold, you should pay attention to listening and grasp the opportunity of cold reading. You can talk about each other's shortcomings, or not very good places, then talk about each other's advantages, set up a chat scene, and lead each other into the world you weave.
It is definitely irreparable not to communicate with your predecessor; Chatting and communicating every day may not be redeemed.