How to treat luck
First, balance luck and hard work
Zeng Guofan has a saying that I admire: "Things will get thinner, and changes will multiply and divide." Luck fights, and changes rise and fall. "I have tasted the success or failure of my achievements, the pros and cons of my reputation, and the clumsiness of my articles, and I have paid my luck-I am confident that it is not easy to say it for a long time." Repeated pursuit of fame, good or bad articles, whether it is very cattle, are all attributed to luck. Whether you can succeed in the future, whether you are famous or not, and whether your article is good or not are actually equally important to men now. Zeng Guofan believed in luck more and more.
Then, he turned to say, "However, if we want to kill ourselves, we should gamble with him for a long time, and the school hall is the most important." The meaning of "suicide" is not suicide, but what direction we can work hard. Doesn't it mean throwing fame and fortune and articles into luck? Well, the direction of your own efforts is to compete with this luck-who wins and who loses. He said this with respect, awe and resentment for luck. "I won't let the bag win alone and I will lose alone." It is very important to believe in luck. I also respect and fear luck, but I worked hard and did what I should do. I don't believe that in this life, luck will always win and I will always fail. This "I" includes us, including the team, including the company.
This is Zeng Guofan's most incisive argument on how to balance luck and hard work. In a word, it is how to treat luck.
how to treat luck correctly has two points: first, success or failure depends entirely on luck; Second, gamble with luck. There is great meaning between two seemingly contradictory points.
success or failure depends entirely on luck. Those who don't believe in luck are either stupid people who are arrogant or even lack wisdom, or bad people. They keep their luck behind them and don't tell others. They talk about their success everywhere and highlight how capable they are. Be careful of such people.
when I worked at McKinsey for less than six years, I became a partner. At that time, there was a general meeting of partners and a survey was made on the key success factors of partners. What made you fight your way out among many top smart people and become a partner? Eighty percent of the partners regard luck as the first factor of success, that is, "I am lucky." These people are extremely well-educated, smart and hard-working. In the end, they won't think their efforts are the most important, but put luck first. I witnessed this with my own eyes.
Second, don't stop doing things, and gamble with luck
Just relying on luck doesn't mean you have to leave things to chance, and it doesn't mean you don't do things. What is the essence of doing things? Is to gamble with luck.
1. Only when you do things can you enter the market and talk about opportunities.
2. only by doing things can you increase your chances of winning. If you don't do anything, you will be at the mercy of luck. Luck may be given to Wang Wu today and Zhao Si tomorrow, but it may not be you. But through hard work and practice, you can increase the chances of success.
Luck is Party A, and the person who does things is Party B. Only by gambling with luck all the time and not leaving the field can you have a chance to win luck. To work hard is to strive for the probability of falling pie in the sky. You are an otaku, lying in bed playing games, and there is a roof on the bed. Even if the pies fall like falling flowers, they will fall on the heads of passers-by who are in a hurry, and will not fall on your head lying in bed.
Ten elements of success summarized by the ancients: "One life, two fortunes, three geomantics, four virtues, five studies, six people, seven phases, eight respects to God, nine friends and ten health preservation." The first three elements have nothing to do with personal efforts
1. What is life? My definition, life is DNA. From the biological point of view, people are never equal, and people's IQ, EQ and physical function are largely determined at birth. It's useful to work hard the day after tomorrow, but nature precedes the day after tomorrow, and nature is greater than the day after tomorrow. To exaggerate, Pig Bajie can't become the Monkey King no matter how hard he works, and the Monkey King can't become a Tang Priest no matter how hard he practices.
2. luck. My definition, luck is an opportunity, an opportunity given to you by God. Famous men such as Bai Qi and Wu Qi, if born in a peaceful and prosperous time, can only open a chicken farm and sushi restaurant, killing chickens and fish every day; Liu Yong and Li He, if they were born in wartime and were worthless private soldiers, are likely to be caught on the way to desertion.
3. feng shui. Feng shui is the position. Before the age of 2, if a person stays in one place for more than ten years, this place is his eternal hometown. Taste buds, beauty, expression and accent have all been defined by this place, and it is difficult to change afterwards. If Yu Hua was born in Beijing, he couldn't write that kind of wet and cold "Shouting in the drizzle". In Beijing, except for selling goods, no one shouted. The streets were so wide and the Forbidden City was so big that no one was humbled to run into the rain and shout. If Feng Tang was born in eastern Zhejiang, he couldn't write Give Me a Girl at Eighteen. If he couldn't help it, he might write a book Give Me a Widow at Eighteen.
One life, two fortunes and three geomantics have nothing to do with your own efforts. These almost fated events cover-cutting, fame and fortune, and even the quality of the article. From this point of view, it seems that both I'm successful and I'm famous. Many bad kings in history will say that it is not his fault, but God's will. Many people who don't succeed will blame bad luck, meeting people, and so on. Now it can be said that it is all caused by the virus, so I spent a year and there is no chance in the future.
Indeed, according to human nature, in this case, you should leave the success or failure of these major events to your fate, which has nothing to do with you. It is really comfortable to feel at ease after a long time. This is the reaction and practice of most people. If that's it, we won't do anything. However, we are people who want to accomplish things and practice. We should improve ourselves and increase our chances of success. We will not give in easily while lying on our destiny. In this way, we can occasionally fight with destiny-to win or lose in an instant and fight to the end of our lives continuously. I don't think destiny will always win, and we will not always lose.
Therefore, the following points behind the ten elements of success-four products, five studies, six people, seven relationships and eight respects, God, nine friends, ten people and one health need personal efforts. What must be remembered is: first of all, respect luck and believe in luck; Second, respect your own efforts. Keep working hard to achieve things, keep achieving things, and keep achieving great things. I believe that through hard work, good luck will take care of you more.
Always be anxious
In the workplace, how can you always be anxious and not let your body and mind suffer too much? Sounds like a very awkward topic. Anxiety is necessary, but it has negative factors. How to use and manage anxiety well is actually an important issue in the workplace.
Zeng Guofan said, "When the sun is shining, the moon will be lost, so the gentleman thinks he knows the ancient poem' The moon is not full when the flowers are not in full bloom'." This sentence means that if the sun is in full swing, the sun will be defective in the next step; If the moon, the mid-day and after the full moon will also lose money, so the good state is not always very full and very good, but "the flowers are not in full bloom and the moon is not round"
Why is this dissatisfied state a particularly good state? Zeng Guofan later said: "Since the servant marched, every person who trembled and feared when he was suspected of winning or losing, and then he won a great victory." Since I started to lead troops to fight, whenever I doubt whether I can win, I feel very scared and worried. When this happens, I can often win. "Or when you are full of ambition, you will be slow to win again and again, and there will often be unexpected mistakes afterwards." On the contrary, when I win many battles and feel that I am a general who always wins, I am very proud of myself and my team, and often there will be a big defeat at this time.
Zeng Guofan's secrets are all so-called household words. My role is to point out which household words are insightful. These insights, if you can practice them, will produce different effects from others and achieve different things from others.
on the road
Bai Ji's note. Under the brush, Bo Xi couldn't help but make up two sentences, "It's always the same when cutting the wall outside, so why only use troops?" This means that Zeng Guofan's truth applies to all situations, not just fighting with soldiers.
When I was studying medicine at Union Medical College, the old professors repeatedly emphasized that the eight words in The Book of Songs were "walking on thin ice". This kind of anxiety is actually a booster for successful people. But put yourself in the shoes. If you spend 365 days, 1 years, 2 years or even 3 years in a year, you are "walking on thin ice" almost all the time. Do you think this is a good life?
"If you are on the brink of an abyss, you are treading on thin ice"-all your life, it is sad to think about it. However, only by "walking on thin ice" for a long time can we restrain our impulse to take shortcuts and make the world a better place.
after Zeng Guofan's view, add four points.
First, there is no word "easy" in the world.
Nothing is easy, and it is bound to be easily defeated. Why can't I do it once and for all? Why can't I think it's easy? Because impermanence is constant. Moreover, there are many people in the world,
some "many people" are likely to be your competitors: there are many new people in the world every day, and these "new people" will also be your competitors.
If you think you can lie on the so-called success, the so-called moat, and lie on these great advantages once and for all, you will find that your advantages are rapidly disappearing. It must be remembered that there is no word "easy" in the world. If you want to practice one-thing, you have to often
Second, success is not always happy
I think you must know that success is actually a very difficult process, and happiness and coolness are only temporary; On the contrary, what you should feel for a long time is that a straight anxiety, a moment of cattle X. Take myself for example, I have happy times, but most of them are anxious. In Concord, those professors said that you should "walk on thin ice", regard yourself as the last line of defense between patients and death, and you should fully understand all the knowledge about this disease in the world, and so on. Under this kind of education, I am always worried about whether I know enough and whether I am doing well enough.
Question, Kenxi, we have an unwritten saying, that is, only you dream of solving the customer's problem, and only when you are worried about the customer's corpse more than the customer's own problem, you and the business that started the business are suffering from it, and you regard the customer management as the most important problem in your daily life. Under such a sense of urgency and accompanied by such a sense of anxiety, there is not much problem.
Third, how to have anxiety for a long time without anxiety
Anxiety is necessary, important and an important cornerstone of something. But with such anxiety, such long-term anxiety, how can you avoid anxiety? Share with you some measures that I think are effective, which can make your anxiety feel less-less, and not affect your body, mind and life too much.
for example, take off. What do you mean "pull off" and how to pull it off? "Pulling off" means pulling yourself away from your anxiety, like tearing a piece of skin and a piece of meat. How? Running. Three kilometers is not enough, five thousand meters, five thousand meters is not enough, ten kilometers is not enough, run slowly, run faster. Of course, running may be a dangerous activity, so you should do a good job of checking, wearing relevant shoes, using proper posture, relaxing before running, stretching after running, and so on.
what else is effective? Drink. Drinking can at least make me relax, eat, drink, gamble, cheat and steal. I dare not do these things. If there is still a way to relax, I think I should keep a little habit of drinking. It's not alcoholism, at least you can drink a little and relax-what's the use of drinking
? Read miscellaneous books, chat with good friends, and drink with family. Although my mother has a thousand wrongs, even though my mother thinks I have a thousand wrongs, we can at least share a bottle of wine, drive me after the game, and I will scold her and divide the wine. I am already very happy to have a bottle of wine. < P > What else is effective? Have a very specific, even narrow, hobby. For example, my tutor, Lang Jinghe, not only likes gynecological surgery, but also likes reading books and collecting bells. His office is full of bells from all over the world. He likes to write calligraphy. We will discuss his handwriting and mine. He will drag one of his handwriting to me, and I will drag one. I will give him my handwriting, and two people will flatter each other, which will make anxiety slightly better.
Besides detachment, another way that I think can avoid anxiety is to establish a three-view view of selflessness.
To put things before individuals, lower yourself and magnify the things themselves. If we set a more ambitious goal and make the world a better place, we will put this matter before ourselves. If we say that in the process of doing things, I will always be the first to think about me, me, me, me, me, and me, the sense of anxiety will easily get heavier and heavier. If you put success and a higher goal before yourself, you will find that anxiety is relatively easy to control at a certain level. You will think that it is good that I tried my best, but I can only say that I tried my best. Impermanence is constant, "there is nothing to do, and it seems like I have met Yan." With this mentality of no self, the anxiety will not be so heavy.
Fourth, do everything possible to keep your sleep well
When I was a child, I always thought that sleep was a waste. A person-in his life, he will sleep for five or six hours every day, and probably one-third of his life-will spend his time in sleep. But then I found that sleep is not a waste.
Although we don't know what kind of scientific basis is behind sleep, sleep is likely to help us digest, analyze and clear information. -Some useful information, it will be reorganized; Some useless information, it will clean up:-some negative emotions, negative energy, it will relatively eliminate. I often ask a person, did you sleep well? If he sleeps well, basically he won't have much psychological problems; If you don't sleep well, you should give a very clear warning.
As for how to sleep well, this is another big topic, but please pay attention to your sleep quality. From my own point of view, after so many years of management work, even if there are no more troubles during the day, I will suffer from insomnia at night, not more than twice a year. In the process of such heavy work and writing, I can maintain a relatively good mental state. Sleep has helped me a lot. I hope my sleep will remain in a good state in the next ten to twenty years.
Finally, if you have been clinically diagnosed with anxiety, I hope you don't be afraid of treatment. Don't be afraid to see a doctor, even a psychologist or a psychiatrist. It's good to see a neurologist if you have a plan. In the past two years, I have been to the World Medical Congress held in San Francisco every year, and it is very obvious that, except that it has been proved now,