How to be a cheeky Zhihu?

A person's thick skin is closely related to our pattern and the goal of self-growth. As we all know, compared with Xiang Yu, Liu Bang has a much thicker skin than Xiang Yu. Liu bang's thick-skinned, reflected in the means to achieve their goals.

Why is Liu Bang thick-skinned? This is because Liu Bang saw a bigger pattern. When Xiang Yu was still dominating Guanzhong, Liu Bang was already considering the national layout.

To this end, he can sacrifice short-term interests and not dominate Guanzhong, but consider longer-term goals. Xiang Yu is more concerned about his own small pattern, which is the key to his defeat to Liu Bang and the root cause of his lack of thick skin.

If a person wants to cultivate his thick skin, the most important thing is to have a big pattern. Only the big pattern will shape our minds and behaviors, let us control our minds and see the wider world.

2. Overcome weaknesses: put down face and focus on growth.

Thick-skinned people are not born. Thick-skinned people are very strong at heart, and this requires us to overcome our own human weakness, which is what we call the face problem. Sometimes we care too much about self-esteem, which often hinders our growth and progress.

The key to the growth and progress of a cheeky person is to put down face. What they care about is not their own small world, but the real world. They put themselves in the world, put aside their face and pursue the lining, and then they will see a more real society.

The more face-saving people are, the more likely they are to become blx, and they will have defensive thinking in the face of criticism from others. Defensive thinking means that when we face criticism, our first reaction is to refute others, regardless of whether they are right or wrong.

However, people with thick skin can face other people's criticisms and corrections with a more peaceful attitude. In their view, if a person is reasonable, he can correct his own thinking, thus avoiding his own blind spots and making fewer mistakes, which can not only unite people's hearts, but also enable them to find the best way to overcome reality.

On the other hand, people in blx are easily emotional. Once criticized by others, their first thought is where to put their self-esteem. Such people often fly into a rage, and finally others will stay away from them.