I am a boy in the second grade of junior high school. I am 13 and almost 14 years old. Height 153cm and weight 43kg. How long does it take to build abdominal muscles?
Friend, don’t believe me yet. See if what I say below makes sense. Perhaps practice is the only criterion for testing truth, but I don’t want you to regret it in the future.
Masturbation This phenomenon is becoming more and more common among teenagers today. Only those who have experienced it personally for many years will have a deep understanding of its harm. But young people who have just started masturbating may not necessarily believe it. As a result, many people cannot let go of masturbation and would rather believe that "masturbation is harmless." Unfortunately, future consequences are often reluctant but necessary to be accepted.
In fact, any happiness, passion, enjoyment, or pleasure, comes with a price. The more enjoyable it is, the higher the price paid. You should think about it carefully, hoping that you will have a healthy body, a relaxed and smooth career in the future, a warm and harmonious family, and a truly beautiful wife and children. I still hope that masturbation and masturbation will continue to feel good until I can no longer feel good. You can only choose one of the two. In short, the more pleasure you get from masturbating, the less happiness you will get in reality
This is definitely not a lie, and future facts will prove everything.
Causes of masturbation
In fact, people’s sexual desire will not easily lead to orgasm without any stimulation. Without orgasm, people will not be interested in masturbating. People who have the habit of masturbation generally have the habit of watching "aphrodisiac videos" and "aphrodisiac images". Under the stimulation of the senses, the person masturbates with himself to reach climax and excitement, and finally the impulse becomes unbearable and he masturbates.
So the direct cause of masturbation is not "sexual desire", but "acquisition".
Understand the meaning of sexual behavior
Today, the concept of "sexual behavior" has been distorted and misunderstood in many people's minds. The essence of sexual behavior is actually a link in the process of biological reproduction. The correct name for sexual organs is "genitalia". As the name suggests, it is an organ that exists for the reproduction of offspring.
The function of "sexual desire" is to promote reproduction. It can be said that it has the role of sexual desire, which can promote attraction and physiological needs between the opposite sex, thereby creating opportunities for reproduction.
However, sexual behavior that only pursues the pleasure of sexual release deviates from the fundamental purpose of "reproduction" and only pursues physiological pleasure, which becomes "prostitution." There is a difference between "prostitution" and "sex". "Prostitution" means that there will be no substantial benefits, and the only thing people pursue is a "pleasure" and the price they pay for it is their real energy and vitality. .
Among the behaviors that consume one’s vitality, sexual behavior is undoubtedly the most powerful. If you think about it carefully, one kind of energy that can give birth to new life is destined to be different from others, and the cost of releasing it can be imagined. And vitality and energy cannot be equated with
nutrition. Vitality and energy support the aging and death schedule of a living body, and no force can fundamentally prevent it. Supplements can increase nutrition, but they cannot prevent aging. The elderly cannot regain their youth with nutrition.
Normal sexual intercourse between men and women (without safety measures) is accomplished by the cooperation of two living beings. It includes the mutual donation of energy from both parties and the exchange of nutrients from both parties to achieve physiological balance. But even so, if there is no restraint, it will also break the physiological balance. As mentioned before, there will be no real benefit if it deviates from the fundamental principle of "reproduction".
Masturbation is very different from simple sexual behavior. Since there is no physical cooperation from the opposite sex, the energy and nutrients cannot be returned at all. It is completely a unilateral release of oneself, which is like wasting it. The money was spent, but nothing was bought, so it was a loss. Do it once and pay once.
Currently, when looking at the issue of masturbation, many people hold a view that as long as masturbation is moderate, there will be no problem. This point of view actually admits that masturbation is useless, but does not give up masturbation. In fact, this view does not make sense. This so-called "moderation" concept is nothing more than minimizing harm, but it does not eliminate harm.
This is the equivalent of taking less when you take drugs. As mentioned before, masturbation is a loss-making behavior. Doing more or doing less is just a matter of
paying more and losing less. Throwing all your reproductive energy to the ground is like planting seeds in cement. You are afraid that you will not gain any harvest even if your seeds are used up. Although energy can be regenerated to a certain extent, as the body continues to age, energy regeneration will become increasingly difficult. Otherwise, wouldn’t everyone be able to regain their youth by resting?
Symptoms and harms of masturbation
Masturbation often first occurs in childhood or adolescence, because the body is in the stage of growth and development during this period. On the uphill road, it is the period of strongest growth, coupled with the innate energy, so even if you masturbate and indulge in lust in a short period of time, you will not see any immediate adverse reactions.
Otherwise, everyone will be able to detect the harm early and eliminate it voluntarily. This is the insidiousness of masturbation. The harm of masturbation gradually appears after long-term accumulation. This means that once obvious adverse symptoms are seen, it often means that a lot of losses have been done, and it is impossible to try to cure it in the short term. Recovery within.
Here is a brief list of the adverse reactions of masturbation, most of which are common among people who are accustomed to masturbation.
People who masturbate will experience physical weakness, mental fatigue, and laziness in the early stages.
Gray hair gradually begins to appear. It first appears in the vortex on the top of the head and back of the brain at the beginning, and then gradually spreads to the surrounding areas. (Usually, gray hair will appear within 5 years of habitual masturbation, but the phenomenon is not obvious in individual masturbators.) At the same time, the secretion of oil on the scalp is strong and the dandruff is thickened. The long-term development gradually changes to hair loss, also starting from the top of the head. (Usually habitual masturbation will show up within 10 years, and the phenomenon is not obvious in individual masturbators.)
Premature ejaculation usually manifests as masturbation time getting shorter and shorter, and it ends quickly from the beginning of masturbation to the completion of ejaculation. (Generally, masturbation habits will show up in about 5 years.)
There are abnormalities in the prostate. Usually, obvious symptoms will be felt after about 10 years of masturbation, such as urinary bifurcation (it cannot be said that all urinary bifurcation is related to masturbation and the prostate, but people with long-term masturbation habits generally have this symptom)
Genital area Prolonged sweating. The underwear is sticky due to long-term sweating, and sludge-like dirt is accumulated, and the sweat smells bad.
This is accompanied by bad breath, and the teeth are yellow and not white. People who masturbate habitually all year round may even develop dental caries, most of which appear on the upper teeth.
Oral ulcers are very easy to develop. Basically, a slight scratch on the mouth and tongue will develop into oral ulcers, or even occur spontaneously.
Sweat easily, and secrete more sweat than other people in midsummer or high-temperature environments. In addition, those who masturbate for a long time will feel breathless and fatigued if they exercise even slightly, such as climbing stairs.
The interval between bowel movements becomes longer.
In addition, people who masturbate for a long time have abnormal complexion. Either pale or gray. The figure is also abnormal, either thin or puffy.
There is another individual phenomenon. If you start masturbating habitually at an early age, your ears will grow slowly in your youth, which is manifested in the fact that the proportion of your ears to your head is slightly larger than that of a normal person. The ears are obviously smaller.
The above are only physiological manifestations. In addition, masturbation can also cause changes in personality.
Long-term habitual masturbation leads to kidney essence deficiency. As a result, the personality gradually changes to introversion, lack of energy, even withdrawn, and social anxiety. Mental state and personality are actually related to the condition of the internal organs in the body. It is difficult to adjust personality out of thin air. It is not easy to make a person with kidney deficiency be brave.
Furthermore, those who habitually masturbate often have poor performance, which may be related to the dissipation of their own energy. The so-called "field" refers to a potential charm. For example: a beautiful and really healthy girl, you will feel very comfortable just standing
around her. Even if you have a good-looking person, you will feel relaxed when you come into contact with them. A person who has been a habitual masturbator for a long time will feel unnatural when others approach him, and may feel embarrassed when interacting with him.
Often marginalized in social situations. Only those who have experienced long-term masturbation will feel this.
As a result, habitual masturbation developed over a long period of time and entered youth, with a young appearance
A head full of white hair or even hair loss, and the mouth has bad breath and yellow teeth. Physically weak and incompetent. In terms of personality, he is depressed, withdrawn, unsociable, cowardly and even wretched. In this state, if you want to stand independently in society, the pressure is great. Even normal marriage and love will be greatly hindered. Therefore, although masturbators have strong sexual desire and are very lustful, they love beautiful women in their hearts. But in reality, it is difficult to win the favor of the woman you like. Its own quality determines that there is almost no chance. Even the masturbator himself simply lacks the confidence and courage to contact the woman he likes. Moreover, due to personality and physical condition, the career will naturally not go smoothly, so masturbators start masturbating when they are dependent on their parents, but they will see the bitter consequences when they leave their parents to support the world alone.
In addition to the above, there is another phenomenon. The basis for it is not clear yet, but the phenomenon exists. In environments where masturbation often occurs, such as at home, pay attention to the status of your family members, such as health, career status, harmony, etc. An environment where masturbation often occurs is often filled with a disharmonious atmosphere. This may be the so-called "feng shui" gone bad. People who have experienced long-term masturbation can experience this for themselves. I won’t say whether there is any basis for this phenomenon. In short, let’s talk about the experience.
It can be seen that the dangers of masturbation are real, but the most fatal shortcoming of young people is their lack of experience. People who have not experienced it may not completely believe it, but the consequences have always been endured whether they are willing or not.
Self-help measures for long-term masturbators. Stop masturbation, recover your body, and get your blessings back soon.
Now let’s talk about quitting masturbation and recovering your body. Many people who are addicted to masturbation lament that it is difficult to quit masturbation, and they keep repeating the habit. I had made up my mind, but my passion gave me no thought for anything.
Indeed, it is really difficult to quit masturbation, which is no less difficult than quitting drugs. It is a great test for people's perseverance. It mainly depends on your own restraint ability and confidence. But we cannot fail to talk about some direct reasons for repeated offenders.
In fact, as mentioned before, many people who are accustomed to masturbation have the habit of watching "aphrodisiac videos" and "aphrodisiac images". This provides sensory stimulation, which leads to masturbation. However, many people who consciously want to quit masturbation still do not give up the habit of watching "aphrodisiac videos" and "aphrodisiac images". This is difficult to grasp. It can be said that it is difficult to quit masturbation without "arousing videos". No wonder I have sexual desire, I just blame it on being inseparable from arousal.
The following is a detailed description of the method of quitting masturbation and rebuilding yourself. It is divided into five steps. It can be said that if you do it all, there will be no problem in recovering your body as soon as possible. If you can't, it will only You can blame yourself for being greedy and risking your life. It's hard to save yourself.
First, from now on, destroy all bad videos and all aphrodisiacs around you. This is very necessary and must be done. Don't be reluctant, these things are very harmful to people, just like drugs, they can make people pay a heavy price in excitement. Stay away from bad websites, which can ensure that a considerable part of the probability of masturbation is reduced.
Secondly, do not have lustful thoughts at ordinary times. Due to the long-term influence of bad images, there must be a lot of passionate fragments deposited in the mind. In addition to self-fantasy plots, not to mention watching bad videos, just recalling a random paragraph can put yourself into a state of excitement.
Therefore, even if you don't masturbate to vent, it will still be harmful to the health of the reproductive system. Unsatisfied after orgasm will seriously increase the burden on the genitals. Long-term masturbators will also have a deep understanding of this. After entering the excited state, if there is no release for some reason, there will usually be obvious waist and lower abdomen the next day. Soreness and swelling. And as long as a small amount of fluid is secreted after an erection, there will immediately be a sense of fatigue in the mental state.
Therefore, you should usually make sure that once any lustful thoughts arise in your mind, you should quickly consciously transfer them and eliminate them, so as to ensure that there will be no secretion, otherwise it will not have the maintenance effect.
Third,
Ensure a normal schedule, especially at night, and try to go to bed around 10pm (22:00). Don't stay up late unless you have a special task that needs to be postponed. Try to fall asleep as soon as possible after going to bed, don't think randomly, and don't touch sensitive areas with your hands
. If you find it difficult to fall asleep (people with kidney deficiency often suffer from insomnia), you can appropriately increase the amount of activity during the day. You don’t have to do any special exercise, just long-distance walking. Scalding your feet with hot water before going to bed at night will help you fall asleep as soon as possible.
Fourth, be calm, don’t be greedy for speed, don’t be greedy for too much, in short, don’t be greedy. A course that goes deep into nature is the best.
Fifth, the solution to current physical problems is to seek medical treatment. This is the fastest and most symptomatic recovery method. If you feel embarrassed, you can find an excuse. For example, people who masturbate for a long time often have superficial reactions such as gray hair, hair loss, bad breath, and mental weakness. Therefore, you can use the excuse of treating these symptoms to seek TCM treatment. An important feature of TCM is that you can find the root cause through an entry point. Usually, experienced Chinese medicine practitioners can accurately tell other symptoms that the patient has a deep understanding of by observing the patient's basic state and simply taking the pulse and looking at the tongue. (Usually doctors will not explain the phenomenon of masturbation explicitly, but if the patient is very young, I think the doctor will know it.) A doctor with such ability is good. Don’t pay too much attention to the doctor’s specific background. A good rule of thumb is: don’t seek “famous doctors” but “clear doctors” (if a doctor just relies on asking patients how they feel, his method is questionable. Suggestions)
This way, the doctor can diagnose and guide you to prepare medicine that suits you. The cost is usually not high and you can definitely afford it. And it won’t be very frequent. You can take it for a while after dispensing the medicine once.
It will save money if you remember the prescription and go to the pharmacy to pick up the medicine yourself. This is more conducive to faster recovery. If you hurry up, the results will show up within a few months. Never use supplements on your own, as it is almost impossible to recover by relying on supplements, and they are not symptomatic and have unavoidable side effects. And the cost is not low. In comparison, it is most cost-effective to prescribe the right medicine. It is not recommended to consult online. You must communicate with the doctor face to face. For this, you might as well go to a community Chinese medicine clinic
near where you live. (Usually such community clinics have a formal system and are not very busy compared to large hospitals, so they can fully communicate with doctors and do not hinder repeated visits to the same doctor, so it is conducive for patients to go by themselves
Accept the diagnosis, and then go with your family to prepare the medicine and pay the bill. Moreover, some of the doctors in such community clinics are experienced retired doctors and are of good quality. This is just a suggestion.)
This is how you can achieve the above. It can be said that there is no problem in recovering the body. But the premise of everything is that you must completely stop masturbation, otherwise nothing will happen.
People must cherish their own blessings. Everyone's innate blessings are different. We are all human beings. Some are born into wealthy families and have no worries about food, clothing and career. . And some people may not be able to afford a house even though they have worked hard all their lives to earn money. There are
people who are average looking but have beautiful partners. And some people seem to have great prospects but suddenly encounter disaster. Examples abound. This is the difference in blessings. There is no shortage of confident people in the world, but not many are truly satisfied in this life.
This is a fact that cannot be concealed by any rhetoric. This is a blessing. People who have knowledge, culture, and abilities also have blessings. People who have great blessings have done great virtues in their previous lives. Perhaps even if they do evil things in this life, they will not be able to eliminate all the damage.
And people with small blessings may pay a heavy price for just one small mistake. Therefore, people cannot be compared simply. Ordinary people have limited blessings and cannot afford to lose. You are not qualified to imitate evil people. The power of masturbation and sexual immorality to damage blessings cannot be underestimated. The older a masturbator gets, the more deeply he will experience it.
Appearance, physique, personality, wealth, etc. are all manifestations of blessings. If you feel that your blessings are not enough, you must accumulate them carefully and not let them go. If you have truly sufficient blessings in this life, you will have a good-looking partner who matches you, you will have outstanding and auspicious children, you will have a satisfying and smooth career and a beautiful family. All of this is much better than consuming your own energy by masturbating out of thin air.