What I know Zhu: Chapter 20: Help each other.
In the summer of the following year (1 175), Zhu's wife Liu Qingsi became ill. At that time, maybe no one cared too much. As a result, Liu Qingsi's condition gradually worsened, and finally he could not afford to get sick.
? Zhu Yu 19 married Liu Qingsi. Presumably, IV is a few years younger than Zhu, and it is the age of "walking with shame, leaning against the door and looking back, but hearing about childhood friends". Zhu studied under Liu Mianzhi and often went in and out of the Liu family. They should have a natural and natural love.
Men and women can openly date in Song Dynasty, and bold women dare to pursue love. "Find him thousands of baidu in the crowd. Suddenly looking back, that person was there, and the lights were dim. " This is obviously a vivid portrayal of dating. "The shore in twos and threes, huansha girl. Avoid pedestrians and be ashamed. " Isn't this pedestrian who deliberately avoids it the lover that Huansha girl likes?
Liu Qingsi received his father's education and was gentle, respectful and thrifty. After the marriage, he and Zhu lived in harmony and had deep feelings. The education of ancient women was mainly moral education, which was carried out before marriage. The content is nothing more than "female virtue, female speech, female appearance and female merit". To put it bluntly, it is the education that a good wife and a good mother serve in-laws, obey their husbands and educate their children.
Zhu still holds an open-minded attitude towards women's education. A master asked, "Women should also have education. For example, in addition to the Book of Filial Piety, The Analects only teaches those who understand before it. How about it? " Zhu replied: "Nothing. For example, Cao Dajia's "Women's Commandment" and Wen Gong's "Family Model" are also acceptable. "
During the 29 years that Liu Qingsi and Zhu lived together, they gave birth to three men and five women, but unfortunately, the second child and the young girl died young. Zhu was busy writing a book, and Liu Qingsi took on the task of caring for each other and educating children in obscurity. The eldest son, Zhu Shu, is lazy and unlearned, so he can only be sent to study in Lv Zuqian, Jinhua and Wuzhou. This should be Liu Qingsi's opinion. My son is lazy, and my mother's urging is futile. I can only bear to let him leave his knees and study elsewhere.
In June of the third year (1 176), the court issued a document and appointed Zhu as the secretary of the secretary province. This is the result recommended by the Prime Minister. He thinks that Zhu's "being" can't stand repeated calls, and the court should reward him.
Gong, a native of Xinghua Army (now Putian City, Fujian Province), was a scholar in Shaoxing for eight years. In Xi Chun's first year, he was promoted to political advisor. Ye Heng soon went on strike and took the lead in acting as Prime Minister. With Cai Xiang, Chen Junqing and Fang Xinru, they are also called "Four Saints of Putian".
Zhu sent a letter of resignation to the imperial court and wrote a letter to the palace, stating that the reason for his resignation was that he was worried that he would be promoted because of his repeated resignation and be regarded as a snob by the world.
In August, the court issued a letter, and Zhu was not allowed to resign from his new post. Zhu decided not to accept the new position and also offered to resign. According to statistics, Zhu Wei wrote the most official documents. He wrote 120 speeches in his life.
Zhu worked tirelessly to teach and educate people when he retired from his hometown, which was inseparable from Liu Qingsi's support.
However, what worried Zhu still happened. Perhaps it was someone in North Korea who could not accept Zhu's repeated resignation and took the opportunity to discredit Zhu. Song Xiaozong wrote a note to the palace, saying that Zhu was "a figurehead, afraid of ruining the court." The palace had no choice but to accept Zhu Jianci's request, but he was still in charge of Wuyi Chongyou Temple.
In the Song Dynasty, the emperor's orders had to be examined by Zhongshu Province before they could be issued. The handwriting written directly by the emperor was called "Jade Seal" at that time. Song Xiaozong's style of doing this was later developed by his son Song Ningzong, who did it from time to time. Later, he called it "nothing in the book is for chaos", which is not far from national subjugation. Without a good political system, it is certainly difficult to have a good political result.
In the third year of Xichun (1 176), Liu Qingsi died on November 13th. Illness and overwork are the main reasons for his early death.
In the face of Liu Qingsi's departure, Zhu was very sad. Which husband doesn't want to give his wife happiness! ? In Zhu Jiaxun, Zhu advocated that "what women value is softness". Liu Qingsi was gentle and courteous, and thrifty in housekeeping, which made her a valuable wife. As a husband, Zhu failed to get rid of the fate of poverty, making his wife work hard all her life and die prematurely. How can she not be sad?
Zhu still asked Cai to choose a cemetery for Liu Qingsi and find a resting place for his wife. This is something that Zhu is very concerned about, what's more, it is also a choice of his own spring. Cai chose the cemetery in Dalin Valley, Tangshili Houtang, Jianyang County, which is the so-called "Gui Long Houtang, Wind Belt" landform in Feng Shui. Zhu's choice of this cemetery has also become an evidence for later generations to criticize his superstition of Feng Shui.
In February of the fourth year of Xichun (1 177), Liu Qingsi was buried in Dalin Valley in Houtang. Liu Qingsi's tomb has two caves. At that time, Zhu also decided to be buried with his wife a hundred years later.
Zhu, who lost his wife in middle age, began to manage the family alone and raise underage children. Zhu has never remarried since he was widowed, which is also the embodiment of Zhu's loyal love for Liu Qingsi. Who said that "starvation is a small matter, shame is a big thing" is just a requirement for women. Zhu has been observing the festival for his wife for 23 years.
Cherish the spring five years (1 178) in winter, Zhu braved the heavy snow to go to the Dalin Valley in Jianyang, and went to visit his wife specially, and wrote a poem in the snow of Tang Dynasty:
Spring breeze moves guests away from home, and the forest becomes credit.
When you travel to the mountains, you will find that a thousand forests will become flowers overnight.
It is human nature to feel sad about life and death. The "sad place" in the poem is the burial place of Liu Qingsi. The word "mourning" reflects Zhu's deep affection for Liu Qingsi's past and his thoughts after his death.
Su Dongpo's most affectionate poem "Jiangchengzi" is about missing his dead wife, and the famous sentence "Ten years of life and death are boundless, so if you don't think, you will forget" comes from it.
Zhu's yearning for Liu Qingsi lasted for ten years until death do us part. Shortly before his death, Zhu was seriously ill, thinking of Liu Qingsi's previous life, and wrote Ode to the Tomb: "The years are changing, the rain and dew are moist, the sounds are remembered, and the spring and the soil are separated forever. You can't kiss when you are sick. I'm sure you know, but you still know. "
Liu Qingsi's voice still appears in Zhu's mind. Zhu Shen hated that he was ill and could not go to his wife's grave to pay homage. He hopes that his wife can know and feel his thoughts from the spring. Every sentence in the article reveals Zhu's deep affection for his wife. Those who criticize Zhu as a hypocritical hypocrite should feel uneasy if they can know!
Zhu was buried in the same place with his wife after his death, and drew a perfect font for his love with Liu Qingsi with "live and die together".
(To be continued)