The higher the emotional intelligence, the stronger the ability to adapt to the environment?

High emotional intelligence sometimes comes from proper upbringing in the native family, and sometimes it comes from acquired experience. The latter is often understood by you as tactful behavior. However, you don’t understand why these people have to behave diplomatically. You just stand from God’s perspective and use imaginary moral standards to trample them under their feet. I am what is called a girl with high emotional intelligence. I won't do it. I take care of everyone's feelings. I don’t bother my partner when he’s busy. I try not to trouble others. When I speak, I first think about whether I might inadvertently hit the other party's minefield. I know how to express my gratitude to others for their help in a timely manner. I don't show obvious likes and dislikes easily. So what you see is always me smiling and ready to listen. However, what you don’t see is: I used to devote all of myself to someone when I liked someone. My love was 10%, but I acted like it was 100%. Of course, what I got was a response that was far inferior to mine. Then I worked harder and harder because I was afraid of losing it. In the end, I was mentally exhausted and helpless as I watched a relationship drift away. I have made many mistakes, but I still want to love someone with all my heart, but I have learned to control myself, although only I know the feeling of this change.