What are the wedding customs and procedures in Jilin?
1. Wedding dowry in Jilin
Bride gift 1: jewelry "three gold"
"Three golds" means "three kinds of jewelry", which is a more traditional saying. In the past, gold ornaments were generally given, and people with poor conditions also gave money, mainly depending on the man's family situation. At present, in addition to gold and silver, diamonds and precious stones can also be chosen as wedding dowry in Jilin. Choose any three "necklaces, earrings, bracelets and rings", and the bride will choose the better one.
Bride gift 2: household appliances and furniture
Jilin modern wedding dowry also has the custom of sending furniture and household appliances, but the ways of sending them are different. Generally, it should be sent twice, one part when engaged and the other part when married. The main household appliances include: TV, refrigerator, washing machine, air conditioner, bed, wardrobe, sofa, etc.
Bride Gift 3: Wedding Gift
It is an ancient tradition in China to pay engagement fees. Jilin has always followed this custom, and men and women in Jilin generally need to prepare engagement fees for marriage. It's just that the engagement fee here is not called "engagement fee", but "toll". As for the specific amount of this money, it is mostly discussed by the woman's family in advance, generally ranging from 40,000 to 50,000. Give some when you are engaged, and make up the rest when you get married.
Two. Marriage custom
The night before the wedding, people should not enter the groom's new house (bedroom), especially the bed. You should find a boy who has never been married to press the bed. Going to the ancestral grave on the morning of the wedding is to tell your ancestors that you are getting married. Before you leave, you should bring red coins (preferably new ones), women's meat next door (waist chops) and red envelopes (more money and less use). Boys who are crushed by men (unmarried) should bring more boys to arrange for them to steal (chopsticks, spoons, plates and cups are not so many).
Pay attention to the door of the father-in-law's house (every door has a red envelope, and the young man can use it. Don't be too fierce. When you enter the house, change your mouth first (receive red envelopes), and then my father-in-law will prepare something for you. Don't be embarrassed. This is your breakfast. (Take away the red envelope under the plate) The woman hides (takes out) her shoes. Before you come out again (pour the prepared coins on the bed and let your wife grab them. When you get home, you get off first. The old woman took the basin from the bride and sat on the bed for a while. The old woman carries a basin of water (with green onions, Qiu Zi and coins) to her daughter-in-law, which means you really don't have to wash your face. The sister of the woman's family gives cosmetics (red envelopes) and the sister-in-law turns the quilt. (The man has to put a red envelope before, and the sister-in-law takes half.) Go to the hotel to prepare for the ceremony.
3. Jilin traditional marriage customs
First of all, Manchu did not marry early. Once upon a time, some bad habits such as "finger marriage", "child marriage", "early marriage", "little son-in-law" and "child bride" were popular among the Han nationality and some ethnic groups, but not among the Manchu nationality. Although the combination of men and women in Manchu was not free in the past, they were not engaged until both men and women reached puberty.
When both men and women reach a certain age, the first move is called "asking the door." First, the matchmaker proposed to the woman's family on behalf of the man's family. The woman's mother needs to know the man's name, age and family status from the matchmaker. In particular, it is necessary to analyze their ancestral home and three generations of experience-Manchu people pay most attention to family status, especially military achievements.
If the woman's family is satisfied with the matchmaker's introduction, they will say, "Let's finish this marriage first." This is equivalent to telling each other that there is still hope for marriage. The matchmaker quickly asked, "When can I hear the news?" The woman's family said so-and-so day. So the matchmaker left.
After the woman sent the matchmaker away, she introduced the man's situation to her husband. If the husband agrees, he will introduce the situation to the girl, and also talk about her husband and his own views. If the girl is satisfied with the man's situation, she nodded and said, "It's up to Nene and Amar (father)!" In some Manchu areas, it is popular for parents to peek at each other. The "gatekeeper" is mainly to know each other's family background and character, not money. After "looking at the door", it is a "small decision."
Xiaoding means that the matchmaker came to the woman's house for the second time with the mission of proposing marriage, and after getting a positive reply from the woman's house, he came to the woman's house with the man's call. If the man is satisfied with the girl's personality, manners, appearance and other aspects, he will leave a hairpin as a gift, which is also commonly known as "Xiaoding".
"Small decision" is followed by "return gift". Return gift means that the woman's family chooses an auspicious day to give gifts to the man's family after accepting the "fixed gift" from the man's family. Once upon a time, in the early days of the Jurchen nationality, a man could get a share of his wife's property when he got married.
"Return" is followed by "release". "Release" means that after the woman's family returns the gift, the man's family should prepare jewelry, clothes, pigs, wine and other gifts. Choose an auspicious day, many clan relatives will come to the woman's house, and the woman's house will also invite many clan relatives and friends to greet them. The woman's family provides a sacrificial table, and the man's family places gifts on the sacrificial table. Amal of both men and women knelt side by side in front of the altar, poured wine and exchanged two cups, commonly known as "changing cups", and then the woman's house hosted a banquet to entertain the guests of the man's house.
After the two sides were seated, the clan elders of the Guo family stood up to speak and formally proposed to the woman's family. Generally speaking, "a boy, although unworthy, has grown up and reached marriageable age." I heard that a girl is virtuous and smart, and she came to ask for relatives today. If you agree, our whole family will be honored. " The patriarch of the woman's family stood up and made a humble speech. Under the repeated entreaties of the patriarch of the man's family, the patriarch of the woman's family agreed.
At this time, under the guidance of the matchmaker, the man followed the woman's Amar into the ancestral board of the woman's house (that is, the ancestral spectrum of the Han nationality, or the big spectrum); Then recognize Amrogo (grandfather), Amrogo (mother-in-law) and other female elders. At this point, the two in-laws officially settled. After "release", it is "ask".
After some preparation, the man's family thinks that the conditions for the wedding are met, so they hold a banquet and ask the matchmaker and the woman's parents to agree on the wedding date together. This is called asking for marriage. After the question, it is a gift.
After the wedding date is fixed, the man's family will send gifts such as clothes, jewelry, cloth, pigs and wine to the woman's family one month before the wedding. This is commonly known as "ceremony", also known as "big tea". After the "ceremony", it is "cutting".
Manchu people are very particular about clothes, and girls are also skilled people. When I say "cut", I mean that the woman's family chooses an auspicious day. Chen puts the cloth sent by the man's family on the console table in nave, which is cut by Amar or Dada with scissors, and then the girl cuts the seams by herself according to her figure and favorite style. On the day of haircut, girls should dress up carefully and change their hair style from braided hair to bun (a traditional head style of Manchu). The hair on the top of the head makes people look solemn. A girl who combs her hair like this shows that she is engaged to someone else. After the "cutting" is over, it is a dowry, also called "passing the box".
The day before the wedding, the bride's family gave the girl a dowry and sent the girl's companion and sister-in-law to the man's house. After the man's family receives the dowry, the new husband will ride to the woman's house with "pork from his mother" (ribs) to thank Eminem and Em.
The day before the wedding, the bride, accompanied by the bridesmaid, came to the pre-borrowed residence near the man's house to stay. This is called "laying down the villa" or "laying down the place". A few coins should be put on the kang where the bride lives, which is called "Kang Qian". "Building a villa" is an ancient legacy of the Eight Banners Army. The Eight Banners have been stationed on the border for several years and never return. Manchu girls who are far away from home, thousands of miles ago, kept their engagement and got married. They had to borrow a house near the barracks first.
The wedding day arrived, and the people of the bride and groom's family got up in the fifth watch and were busy. The bride saw her off in a caravan and the groom saw her off in a float. When seeing off the bride, the bride's brothers or clan brothers should walk on both sides of the shaft to escort, always pay attention. It is forbidden to drive too fast. This is called "riding". The custom of "riding a horse" is related to the custom of robbing relatives in ancient clan society, and is also closely related to the escort of thousands of miles after marriage in the military.
The farewell caravan of the bride's family starts from the place where the villa is laid. The groom's wedding float also leaves at the fifth watch. When two cars meet on the road, the cars outside cross each other. The bride puts on her wedding dress on the escort van and is taken to the escort float by Amar, which is called "jumping the queue". This ceremony is also related to the ancient Manchu military marriage.
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